What does it mean for someone to speak only badly about their ex? For example, to call her crazy and all sorts of insulting definitions that she always wanted money, that sex with her was not possible, that she was capricious and slimy. And at the same time keep common photos and gifts, even if you broke up a long time ago. I ask because it happened to me recently and the person in question was introduced to me as Satan, but at the same time he was with her for 2 years, and he keeps the photos of her, even if the separation was a year and a half ago. She was both super bad and he was with her for so long. I haven't heard a good word about her, any positive quality. I generally avoid talking about the former, but it happened by accident. Even if it didn't work out with someone, I still found something positive to say, because not everything was completely bad, or the particular person was the devil himself.
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And my ex-boyfriend was talking bad things about his ex — it was the worst time of his life, it was awful living together, and so on. And to be honest, I think he loved her the most, because just like you, it had been a long time since their separation, and he often mentioned her ... Although badly. His point was that he was just telling me to get an idea of his life ... Mm yes.
And I 'knew' one, he wasn't readable. His ex seems to be a much better person than him, but I can't be sure because we only chatted, live in another country. And I asked him - what kind of person are you, if you have endured her horrible behavior for four years? The answer was love. In my opinion, it is not love, but stubbornness and ego. And again, from the crushed ego is the behavior after that, namely the destructive behavior. Some aggression towards their exes, others towards themselves after separation, but both behaviors speak of a person who is not stable, and such a person is not capable of a healthy relationship.
They say they are crazy. I say "what did YOU do to go crazy", boys sometimes go too far and turn the truth around. The truth is that if they were so bad, their exes would lose them the first time they noticed him.
Probably she dumped him and he hasn't overcome it yet, or at least not completely.
It is not a good signal when they talk badly about their ex-wives. His wife is what she is, just because he had problems with her doesn't necessarily make her a bad person. Because of her elementary respect for the years they've spent together, it's not good to say anything about her. The fact that she keeps various things and photos means that she keeps the good memories with her and what she says, how black the woman is, is not really so. He just makes a sacrifice, which speaks ill of him.
Of course, there must be someone to blame for the separation and this is always the ex, because either he is crazy or sex is not possible or there are a number of other things. The truth is that this way he / she is reassured that there is no problem in them and that the reason is always the other person. As №2 mentioned, nothing good comes out with such people.
He just wanted to make her like that to get you into bed, or someone else. It's kind of like a method, finding out that he's almost gone from it, but he can't really get rid of it until someone else takes its place. And there are exes who are more than rubbish in general. (and this is not excluded)