A boy we have known for a long time (about a year) broke up with his girlfriend. He was quite devastated by what happened and since we are close I was his support. We went out, talked for hours and everything was fine. One night, however, only the two of us stayed with them and he kissed me and from there again and again. There was no sex, but still. He said he thought it was a mistake and we pretended it wasn't. A week later it happened again and the next day again. On the third day, however, he said we needed to talk and told me that he was not ready for a relationship and did not want it to happen as if we were taking advantage of each other and did not want to hurt our friendship because it was important to him. After our conversation I felt extremely hurt and then I realized that she had feelings for him .. Some time passed from our conversation and again we started with the old song in a new voice. But this time we had a conversation about whether I want to be friends with privileges, especially for sex. Here comes the problem that I am a virgin and I do not know whether to take this step. We talked and he explained to me that he could not offer me anything more, ts connection. I wonder if he should accept, because on the one hand he and his ex-girlfriend were friends with privileges for about 6/7 months and then they left and were together for another year. I am worried about the fact that if this does not happen to us, I will be very hurt, because I have feelings. that you can't offer me anything more, ts connection. I wonder if he should accept, because on the one hand he and his ex-girlfriend were friends with privileges for about 6/7 months and then they left and were together for another year. I am worried about the fact that if this does not happen to us, I will be very hurt, because I have feelings. that you can't offer me anything more, ts connection. I wonder if he should accept, because on the one hand he and his ex-girlfriend were friends with privileges for about 6/7 months and then they left and were together for another year. I am worried about the fact that if this does not happen to us, I will be very hurt, because I have feelings.
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You will only suffer, this is not for you!
No, no, no and no. Don't accept, he wants to take advantage of you, it's more than obvious. Don't ruin your virginity this way. But I also think he just wants to be distracted in some way by breaking up with his girlfriend and obviously using you. Of course, this is my opinion, but I would definitely tell you not to agree with his proposal. You said it to yourself - then you will be hurt. Success!
Not worth it for this boy! You better wait and do it with the person you truly love and desire, otherwise you will be left with a broken heart.
In my opinion, he is also affected that the fact that they were like that does not mean that it will be the same with you. You are a virgin and in time you will regret that he took away your virginity, now you like him, but in a year or two you will say otherwise. And it's not certain if he won't leave you after that if he doesn't want a relationship, don't do such nonsense!
No, he will use you. Take care of the boy for you
Don't get caught up in such nonsense! This is in the style: "Let's consume, but without giving anything of ourselves, and without taking any responsibility!". Relationship and sex are the beginning of a partnership whose ultimate goal is to create and raise children. If a person does not enter into such a connection with the clear awareness of this - he has porn, he has a manual - to waste his own time!
You realize that you would agree with the hope that he would begin to feel. However, this will be difficult to do, and he would rather look at you as a substitute and consolation. In the end, you will only develop your feelings, and at a meeting you will feel only like a rag that is used when needed, and the rest of the time it is thrown away from sight. This job is not for virgin girls. You virgins are very transparent, naive and easy to manipulate, do not get caught up in such nonsense. I have told them such nonsense in my youth and it is very clear to me what he is doing, and quite consciously.
Bray, number 7, virgins were easy ... Try me. You know how many men I've sent, they've boasted of vision, money, intellect ... what they haven't tried and guess what - when a man is not sincere in his intentions, it definitely shows, and it's not a matter of naivety, and a question of desire whether you will "believe" him. So ... don't think that the women who are with you are with you because they are naive, they are with you because they want to, and how many of the men will remember and appreciate that ... they are not many, I guess it's better to fool yourself that you're a moving player.
"After our conversation, I felt extremely hurt and then I realized that she felt feelings for him ..." Do not confuse the ego with love. Remember how you felt when someone refused you something you wanted, or when what you wanted didn't happen? Similarly, with hurt feelings, but this is not a sign of love. Don't talk to him and see how it goes in a week or two.
8, do you distinguish between easy and easy to manipulate? It seems to him, when he is not sincere, yes. But when an inexperienced girl has feelings for the man, as in this case, she becomes blind. That's what I meant, not that virgins would let anyone. Another issue is that she has no feelings for him, she just thinks she has. Precisely because she is very inexperienced and naive yet. From the position of such, let him not do nonsense.
Up to 10 um, virginity is not equal to inexperienced people in general, but inexperienced in sex. The author did not say how old she is, but she communicates with people, I guess even after that, she should be able to count people, because she will need it in every sphere of life.
11, apparently very much affected by the fact that virgins are often naive and inexperienced. I say that virginity often means too young and not had many relationships. Both are a serious prerequisite for the lack of experience in such relationships and to know whether the person would have feelings for it or just use it. Because that's exactly what she hopes for - while he fucks her, to start feeling, but not at all. There are people who are more mature by birth and you may be one of them, but others need experience, and judging by what is written, the author is definitely easy to manipulate and vulnerable. Otherwise he wouldn't have asked such stupid questions at all. And she almost asks if she should become a rag in the eyes of the one she thinks she has feelings for. She doesn't even understand her own feelings, you tell me she had experience in communication. A man who doesn't even understand himself,
I don't know how there are people who would like such a relationship. You are either boyfriends or you are not. What are these friends with privileges, what is this nonsense? Just the other side, or the two do not want to have a serious relationship, and think that just sleeping together is not binding, and are free birds. Yes but no. The boy has said what he wants, vent from the front, and just have fun, and the girl is on hand right now. Such a relationship will pull her back and stop being with someone who can love her, because of someone who will use her until she finds another. Girl, you're just going to lose. This will be your first man in life, and do you want him to be so frivolous? Do you want to feel used and somewhat dirty after the first time? Do you feel emptiness every time you do it? There is a huge difference between sex and making love. You're still inexperienced, but in years to come you will be able to distinguish between ordinary sex and that of feelings. And this one will probably be of the first kind. He is not your true friend if he wants his desire to be above yours, and not to be happy with another. It can certainly bother you how good you will be, but it's a step back.
Until 12 I didn't touch myself personally, because I don't see you, I don't know what you put into the things you write, how they feel. In fact, that's right - author, do not listen to what men say to you, but feel how they say it, look at their deeds and how they treat others. Do not encapsulate the relationship (when you have one), because many people are hypocritical and in front of you are some, but in fact they are others, and after a while they betray themselves, but it may be too late.
There is a difference between man and man. Such relationships are not for everyone, I hope you understand it perfectly. You seem more sensitive to me, you don't sound like a girl who can have sex and keep her mind above her heart. Because friendship with privileges is like a relationship in which everyone is free to deal with other people and no one cares about the other. You will probably be jealous of the boy. You will probably be disappointed if at one point he is looking for you only for sex and not for a walk and friendly moments. You will also be disappointed if he wants to go out but doesn't want to sleep with you. You have feelings that make you want everything - walks, conversations, hugs, kisses, attention, intimacy. In the friendship with privileges, the trick is that you will hardly get everything, and when you miss something in particular, and you are depressed, you fall into a trap, you feel bad. It is not for everyone. I realize it's not for me. I was offered to embark on such adventures, but I refused because I knew that once I slipped, I would break, not just scratch myself. Take care of yourself, because few other people will be willing to take care of you. He does nothing in the hope that circumstances will change over time. There are exceptions, but there are also rules. You follow the rules without hoping to become an exception for anyone. In case you can't follow the rules, don't get involved at all. You are a virgin and the first partner is remembered. The most important thing is that the first time you were with a person with whom you really wanted him, but the second more important thing is to do it with the clarity that your heart will not hurt immediately after that. I was offered to embark on such adventures, but I refused because I knew that once I slipped, I would break, not just scratch myself. Take care of yourself, because few other people will be willing to take care of you. He does nothing in the hope that circumstances will change over time. There are exceptions, but there are also rules. You follow the rules without hoping to become an exception for anyone. In case you can't follow the rules, don't get involved at all. You are a virgin and the first partner is remembered. The most important thing is that the first time you were with a person with whom you really wanted him, but the second more important thing is to do it with the clarity that your heart will not hurt immediately after that. I was offered to embark on such adventures, but I refused because I knew that once I slipped, I would break, not just scratch myself. Take care of yourself, because few other people will be willing to take care of you. He does nothing in the hope that circumstances will change over time. There are exceptions, but there are also rules. You follow the rules without hoping to become an exception for anyone. In case you can't follow the rules, don't get involved at all. You are a virgin and the first partner is remembered. The most important thing is that the first time you were with a person with whom you really wanted him, but the second more important thing is to do it with the clarity that your heart will not hurt immediately after that. because few other people will be willing to protect you. He does nothing in the hope that circumstances will change over time. There are exceptions, but there are also rules. You follow the rules without hoping to become an exception for anyone. In case you can't follow the rules, don't get involved at all. You are a virgin and the first partner is remembered. The most important thing is that the first time you were with a person with whom you really wanted him, but the second more important thing is to do it with the clarity that your heart will not hurt immediately after that. because few other people will be willing to protect you. He does nothing in the hope that circumstances will change over time. There are exceptions, but there are also rules. You follow the rules without hoping to become an exception for anyone. In case you can't follow the rules, don't get involved at all. You are a virgin and the first partner is remembered. The most important thing is that the first time you were with a person with whom you really wanted him, but the second more important thing is to do it with the clarity that your heart will not hurt immediately after that. and the first partner is remembered. The most important thing is that the first time you were with a person with whom you really wanted him, but the second more important thing is to do it with the clarity that your heart will not hurt immediately after that. and the first partner is remembered. The most important thing is that the first time you were with a person with whom you really wanted him, but the second more important thing is to do it with the clarity that your heart will not hurt immediately after that.
You pretend to have feelings because you are attracted to him. If you sleep with him, you will curl up even more and you will suffer later. Is it worth it? I'm sorry, but he's neither a true friend nor a more serious one.
I was a man when I was 20, in the same way I took advantage of a virgin girl who was sincerely in love with me. I had ended something like a relationship that I was quite crushed by. By some chance I met a girl we liked, she fell in love with me a lot, and I just used her as a substitute. I went out with her, we talked, we had sex and so on. We became boyfriends, but I had almost no feelings for her. Our connection was from a distance, we were in different but close cities. I was with her in her city, and in the city where I lived I always ran after my ex. Eventually, from two chairs, I found myself on the ground. And the girl who was in love with me and lied to me suffers a lot. As a man, I tell you, don't get involved in these things. You will always be the substitute, the second, the consolation, etc. Do not cause it to yourself and do not infringe on your dignity,
How old are you?
You don't need a bair vineyard.
I went like that with my first girlfriend. We were both virgins, though. I didn't want a relationship, just sex. At one time she called me that she had developed feelings and already wanted us to be boyfriends, she was not only interested in sex. So what can I do - we started walking. We went for 2 years :) So I do not agree with things like "watch out for the perfect boy" and so on. Not a big drama. Now you have feelings, after spending 2 months as sex friends you may get tired. She and her sex friends are almost like walking ... you still go around the houses to cuddle and watch movies (really). It's cool. I'd do it again.
Girl, DO NOT give your virginity to a piecemaker! But thank goodness he admitted he could only offer sex. I can't stand these words "friends with privileges." I don't know who the hell came up with this thing? I think you ended all your relationship with this one. Apparently, he only wants sex, and you want something more. Give your virginity to someone who will love you and appreciate you. And not to someone like the one who wants "friends with privileges".
You do not need it! Friendship with privileges - Yes BE ??? Where there is friendship there is no sex. He will use you nicely and then he will dump you under the pretext that you were just friends and he didn't promise you anything. Beware of someone who deserves it, he will come.
Those who want sex, ONLY sex, whether men or women (although this nonsense is mostly heard by men) - send them for a fee.