Hello, gang! I have a girlfriend of about 3 months, and when we talk to her she often mentions that she does not know me and finds it difficult to reveal herself to people. She gives me an example with her colleague with whom she has known for 3 years and only in the last year he got to know her well. It also took time for him to let himself in and, most of all, to start trusting him. In your opinion, apart from questions about how else to get to know her? In what situations should I put it? (Let me just add that we see each other 1-2 times a week due to the fact that we both work) - (until now I didn't have to try so hard for a girl, in principle they like me and they push me, but now it's the opposite and it's a little difficult for me)
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You don't have to question her with countless questions to get to know her. I even get annoyed when someone starts asking me questions non-stop like from a lexicon. Getting to know the person takes place in different situations, with conversations and presenting opinions on different topics. It is not something that happens by force, it just happens over time. Of course, you have to match the two characters and views, otherwise it won't happen.
During sex and frank conversations, then people get to know each other best and quickly :) It takes a little courage, however, to get there first ...
I was going to write the same thing as number 1, but she / he said it better. Do not try hard, because it is repulsive. It just takes time and sharing and things will come spontaneously on their own. But it's just that some people find it slower and need patience.
# 1 good advice, the problem is that we are totally different characters .. but she herself says that it takes time for a person to get to know her, for now I have armed myself with patience. # 2 oh and others have told me about a pacifier and she mentioned it once or twice (which makes me think she's expecting it ... but I don't want to rush, but I'm a little ashamed to I suck it)
So how do you work? We all work! Excuses ... Or do you work 20 hours every day? Hardly :) When dating once or twice a week without sex, in ten years you may get to know each other .... :))) Behave like a man and get to know the girl from the inside through some body opening - entrance, exit or both. Good luck! :)
3 things: 1st, people who say that it is difficult to trust and allow people to allow themselves or that they need time with someone to let them get to know them usually want just that - time and patience and a lot of attention. In these situations, the key is to be careful, because a credible action usually ends things. Just show that you are ready to trust you and show it when you can and give it time to get up. 2nd, It's different for a different person, but for me, for example, when I want to let someone get to know me, I show them my favorite movies, books, music, things that are deep for me, that have built me as a person that symbolize opinions me, which are an example of the values I consider important, etc. For you / her, it could be places where you have experienced something, stories about experiences, shared hobbies or who knows what. Just find this which expresses you as a person, the things that are important to you and show them. 3rd, If she mentioned sex she definitely expects it. This is the signal that he is no longer in a hurry, that it is time and he wants you to make a move. Does not sleep! USA