Hello, I want to ask everyone here what is your attitude to buying Christmas gifts for your nephews? We have kept our expenses to a minimum, especially in the winter, we buy second-hand clothes to save money because we pay for housing. And now, instead of buying something for himself, he wants us to give them money. I know that they are children, that they enjoy gifts, etc. If I have the opportunity, I will buy for all relatives, but I don't. My husband tells me that we should at least give them money so that his brother (his children are) is not offended. Why not buy something for myself or my home and give it to them? It may sound completely selfish, but I'm not. I just do my math and I don't have any extra money. I will be glad to hear other opinions.
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You are selfish, we don't buy some second-hand clothes
As a child, I was happy when my uncle gave me a packet of treats - there was a chocolate Santa Claus, solets, a banana and from those candy snowflakes I think they were called BGN 5 inside and I was happy. Well, my mother and father took the BGN 5, but I didn't care. I preferred a packet of treats to a useless toy or blouse that I wouldn't like. Here's your idea, empty-handed children can't hope, and if they're not too spoiled they'll rejoice
You know about the Christmas depression ... well, I fall into one just after calculating how much money I spent on gifts only, and with it for me .. :(
And I think you're selfish ... I still keep my children's picture books ... some of them are more than 40 years old ... - gifts from my aunt, on different occasions; and she raised my cousin on her own, with almost a minimum wage ...
Buy them a cheap toy and that's it. I will buy my nephew something from the hook shop, some simpleton, to enjoy. It does not need to be more than 5 leva, the gesture is important.
It's good to do your homework, but not so much. After all, with gifts you kill the spirit of Christmas, and yet these are not strangers or any children. These are the children of your husband's brother - they are supposedly close to the family. It would be embarrassing for me not to give anything to my brother's children. When I don't have that much money, I may not buy for him and his wife or just take something decorative for the house, but for the children always - they are still waiting for Christmas for the presents. Your husband will probably be embarrassed to look his brother in the eye. Nowadays, there are also quite cheap gifts: - there are children's books, which I now cut in bookstores (recently a friend bought for her daughter a book Peter Pan in scarlet with pretty nice covers and white sheets for BGN 5, and there are many others) - there are shops for cheap toys, in which a sword is for example BGN 5-6 - there are puzzles for BGN 5-6 - not those of Ravensburg, but there are also more ordinary ones - a coloring book with some pencils or fulmasters will not cost you more than BGN 5. As long as you have the desire, always you will find a way to make your loved ones happy for a little money. Basically, some time ago I was angry about the money I give on holidays, but not anymore. Now that I remember that I made people around me happy, that I bought something for my mother, knowing that she herself would never give money for such a thing, even though she wants it a lot, seeing how my nephews are happy and I see that it's just worth it. The very atmosphere of the holidays and the fact that I got together with the whole family also makes me believe that the money is worth it. We don't have to be forever material - money is earned and spent, but the memories and good moments and holidays with our loved ones remain. I'm not talking about Christmas and New Year expenses in Thailand - you don't have to throw yourself away and give a lot of money, but whatever you give is from the heart. Ana