Hello, I've been having a hard time lately. Life is not easy for anyone, I know, but it is difficult for me, because besides the other circumstances in my work there is a colleague who constantly makes me feel bad. Several times he tried to make me quit my job so that he could eliminate the competition, and when he saw that it was not possible, he started insulting me indirectly. He asks me for help at work or for advice, and then after a few minutes he insults me and makes fun of me. I pretend not to notice her and I'm joking, but that irritates me a lot. She is the biggest intriguer and constantly intrigues, but she is cunning and knows how to hide from employers. He turned 50% of his colleagues against me and now it is difficult for me to work with them. I haven't really done anything wrong, but he constantly laughs at me and grins as he comments on unprofessional things. When I make a mistake somewhere in the work, which is normal, we are still human, he starts to enjoy the face and plays a thin and discreet smile. I don't know how to deal with her intrigues. I try not to communicate with her, but I can't because of the kind of work. Can you advice
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Author, such is life. If she is more cunning, smarter and more intriguing, if from now on you have surrendered yourself to her and recognize her as "the best" there is no way to win a battle. You let her set her colleagues against you, and now from the deathbed you are asking us to help with such scarce information. But don't worry, experience in life is accumulating, there will be such a colleague at the next job, you will always learn to make friends with the most dangerous enemy in advance.
Sooner or later you will become entangled in your own webs. Everyone will understand how much it costs, she can't hide it forever. Just at a time when you do not expect, suddenly everything will turn 180 degrees and the scales will tilt permanently in your favor. I tell you all this from personal experience, because I was in exactly the same situation and I had the same thoughts. I thought that in case of a possible increase they would raise her, but the boss understood her in time and made her 5 stotinki in front of everyone, and she twisted her tail and became lower than the grass. Now her voice is not heard and almost no one communicates with her all day. So with her stones on her head. One way or another, she will sometimes fail and all her intrigues will shine, and people will have their lights on. The characteristic of these games is that it is enough to make a mistake once and for all, what she did suddenly turns against her. As you know, there is no sinless person and it is only a matter of time before that happens. Be a quality person, this is remembered and remains. Everything else is ala-bala and is from day to noon.
This topic has appeared here many times. I don't know if it's played by the same person, but a lot of advice has already been written.
Number 1, you made this colleague immortal, and this is a simple intriguer with no personal life. I would advise the author to ignore her and always pass on the wrong things she does to her bosses. Unfortunately, she bends with a lot like her and it is a mistake to make friends with her ....
Number 2 and number 4 are straight. Even if she doesn't get what she deserves, it's important to ignore her. It works, why should you talk to her, except at work, and poison your nerves. Go to work and leave without paying attention, in the end you are there for that - to work. Ignore such people, because if you show them that you are sick, they feel good. If he can't touch you in any way, he will suffer, because evil people do that - they feel good doing it dirty.
Hello. I read with interest both the article and the comments. I join because I experienced something similar, but not only in my work but also in my personal life. From my own very but very bitter experience, I learned that intriguers are afraid of direct dispute or conflict. They are always looking for a group of people or a person to stand behind them for support. I can say for myself that to some extent I suppressed things with silent contempt, and in other cases I responded in their way. In short, I fell to their intriguing level and things worked out. I can only say that it is very unfortunate when normal and decent people find themselves in such a situation. The experience is very difficult and unpleasant and the wound remains forever.
I had a similar colleague who was very experienced in slandering and slandering people behind their backs. How else, if it doesn't, it will be obvious how redundant it is. Later, I learned from various places that she spoke ill of me, but otherwise she was still very well-intentioned in front of me, a kind of deception of the enemy. But as the saying goes, if a lie is repeated a hundred times, it becomes true and I finally manage to turn various people against me. It's bad when bosses rely on such trusted dogs and don't really care who does what. But in this case, she was also the mistress of one of the bosses, so she enjoyed solid protection. But anyway, I do not regret that I am no longer part of such a system, to slander and report as much as they want. Otherwise as advice, I do not know. Talk to your boss,
And I have suffered many of them, there is no salvation. And if you leave, it will be the same in the other place, they are everywhere. Tip: Don't say anything in front of the people you work with, regardless of colleagues, bosses, or the colleague in question. Hello, today the weather is nice and period. You don't know who thinks what behind your back and how they will sing you even about what you didn't say or do ... So don't say anything that is not directly related to the work; if the colleague in question insults, ridicules and treats you inappropriately, do not remain silent out of fear; give her resistance, show in a few words that her behavior is inappropriate. No matter right or wrong, and who knew what, didn't know, did or didn't do ... purely human, as a person to person, you should not allow your dignity to be trampled. And let him walk behind your back; you don't care who says what,