I need support and comfort. I am writing here because I have no one to whom I can share these words. I ask good and positive people to write two words below, which will inspire me with meaning and hope, thirst and strength for fighting! I have nothing to do! I just don't have it! I am a young boy, and I have already withered. I see my old acquaintances develop, have friends and family. They have a permanent job and are just starting a business. And I, the idler, sit in a room all day and I don't go out, I don't work, I would go to the gym, but I would. I have no friends, maybe that crashes me the most mentally. It's been like this for several years and I see how this gave birth to a feeling, always looking at the other plate and envying. I have no one to support and no one to support me. (smoking break) No- no- no, I can't write, my mental state is so bad, that I can't even put the words together in text. My subconscious cries out for help. (smoking break) What I study at university seems pointless to me, and my life in Bulgaria - without many prospects. In this line of thinking, I made the bold decision to stop soon and go to England. According to acquaintances, there is good pay and there is work. I also have a desire to enroll in a new university ahead of time, but to be there. I've been thinking this for a long time, but I didn't take things seriously. I didn't find out about anything and in the end I just said to myself - "fuck off, I'm going to do what I want to do". I live in my dreams. I thought that maybe not everything is as easy as I thought. I can't just burden our people with the idea of keeping me in a new place by telling them, "But this time I'll tighten up, I promise." (They also think that I'm fine now, but ... I'm not) I also don't know the language so well, how I'm going to graduate, as I can't take the language certificate exams. How they will easily hire me as they look at foreigners with great contempt. The rooms are very expensive. All this, I hadn't thought of before. Maybe guided by the main idea that I would run away from everything here, that I have no friends, I go to a better place, etc. I had wrapped my departure with some unnecessary pink colors, and it seems not so easy, as much as I thought. I want to start and train something, to develop, I am ashamed to even go to a job interview. I have been at home for so long that I am already afraid of people ... (smoking break) My text has become very fragmented, I am intoxicated and obsessed with thoughts, it is difficult for me to unite them in meaningful writings. I'm not lazy in general, but I'm so used to winning in my life that I don't even try anymore. Everything I do breaks down quickly, I've become fickle. And now without desires for life, to travel, to discover new things. I want to try from the beginning, but this time to succeed, so as not to be discouraged quickly. I probably need a girl next to me, I don't know that anymore. P. P. "There was a guy some time ago who always recognized me and commented on old topics with very nice and positive comments and I hope he recognizes me again by style, because - Uncle, I really need to hear what you have to tell me. "P. P. 2 People, please give me just a few positive words! I prefer comments from people older than me. Because only someone with more life experience can be your educator, others just don't know what they're talking about. (Write down your gender and age below so that I know at least relatively who helped me) Thank you all very much! PP 3 I put the topic in "teenage" because I don't think that my behavior corresponds to the years and I'm not ready to make some very important decisions in my life yet!
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If you want to go beyond the Moon, you will not run away from yourself. If you want to get out of here, you will probably want the same thing there. You just don't have the habit of solving your problems and they accumulate wherever you are. Change yourself, and you will be fine here. See your old friends if you don't believe. The most important thing is to achieve comfort with yourself.
Hello, you have found yourself in a situation that probably almost everyone has gone through such a period as in a hole, you do not see a way out, but this is how the carousel swirls. The more we delve into the so-called "problem", the harder it will be for you to get up and go on your way again. I am fully aware that I am not in your situation or in your shoes, although probably everyone has experienced at least for a while what you are experiencing now! First of all, give yourself time to realize, because I like to say that in such situations a person is asleep in his problems, that's why it's a problem. Try to observe yourself, I don't promise it will happen right away, try to look at things soberly as if you are not in this situation. Only you can best help yourself. You probably have low self-esteem, because looking at another bowl, as he said, is looking at what you want to have, namely: relationships, work and family. Don't blame yourself for anything, but accept the situation as it is for now. From such difficult moments you can jump up like a springboard. Accept your shortcomings, accept yourself as you are! Everyone has come to develop personally, not to compare ourselves with each other. Think about the last time you were successful and try to revive yourself at least a little with this past feeling. For now, make gifts for yourself. And don't set time limits. Nothing is more important than you at this moment. These are not empty words, from our immersion in the gray reality one falls asleep and stops wishing there is doubtful fear and what not, and you have no idea what you are capable of! Everyone is able to make a paradise of life, but few realize this and we allow events and everyday life to control us! Try to observe your emotions for at least a day and do not suppress them in order to remove them, let them exist, they must be released by accepting them to pass as if you become empty for the negative! This is my advice. just accept this period as a period of growth and that's it. Difficult moments make us human, make us human. Give yourself time and first of all, look at yourself, start looking at yourself as a person for whom nothing is impossible !!! It is not a question of believing, because you are like that, but at the moment the situation has oppressed you and makes you feel nothing! You are wonderful, with your weaknesses and talents you are unique in yourself and as everyone can, but few do not want to believe you are capable of everything and you deserve the best! Be ready for your era. It is up to you alone when your golden age will come! Remember you are in no hurry, everything will come with time!
Don't ask old man, ask patil! I'm 21, female ... I know your problem, because I had such a period. I left university, I mostly hung out there and drank all night and day and it didn't make much sense. I didn't like what I was learning at all, I loved free life and I still love it. I went out with a man who could be my father, we starved together, smoked, drank ... we drew white lines like a map of our lives and swallowed the madness in large portions. We painted, sang, danced in the rain ... people were afraid of us, I was also afraid of myself. I didn't know exactly what I wanted, that was the problem because I wanted it now! I was looking for a change, but I was not looking for it where it should be. Where I was, everything was the same. We thought we were different, but we weren't. It was, "our security zone" we were confident in this way of life. We walked around Sofia like mice in a maze with no way out. I think you miss what I missed - a purpose in life. You don't know what you want to do, you're locked in your own world of habits ... you want to escape, but you don't know where ... Until you find a goal in yourself, you won't find it on the map - neither in England nor elsewhere . When you are happy you will be happy everywhere - with misery it is the same. Pull yourself together! There is no way anyone can give you something ready! The meaning of life is not a pie, so I can go and buy it for you from the store and give it to you! No one can give it to you! If you want to go, maybe the change and the collision with the nasty reality will sober you up a bit. I don't even want to comment on how you plan to study in England without knowing a language, but at least go to work, you will both improve your language and see what it's like to be alone in a foreign country without support,
So why are you idle - why don't you study, work and go to the gym? When it occurs to you to do something, do it. When you start doing smaller things, then you will want to do bigger things. Appetite comes with eating, as they say. Otherwise you remain in the cycle of inaction.
There were other comments, but mine is the same. You got one part, but you didn't ... Look, money doesn't matter, if you go to England just thinking you'll make more money and be happier, you won't be. For friends, this is already complicated. And I'm like that somewhere, but not because I can't have them, but because I just can't find the so-called soulmate, I just can't find a person with my understandings and ideas about the world. My father at the time also went to England with no idea what he was going to do (the difference was that he knew English quite well at the time), but with time from digging in the rubbish bins he is now a happy old man with 7 happy years made in England, but not for the money. First go to some classes, yoga, fitness or something that will introduce you to new people and see in about a month you can find your best friend or even a girl. Also, from what I read, I see that you are very relaxed and stagnant. If we are going to talk about it emotionally, you are totally relaxed, you are so devoted that you seek help from people on the Internet (not that there is anything wrong, everyone has such depressed moments in life), to fix this I suggest you go to move and to see more light, there is just something magical with the sun that will charge you with energy of max. For physical, go to the gym or as I said earlier some sport / hobby. I'm sure that in time you will find what you like best, but don't go somewhere else with the thought that it's better there, you will only lose years of your life that you will later realize have been wasted :) If we are going to talk about it emotionally, you are totally relaxed, you are so devoted that you seek help from people on the Internet (not that there is anything wrong, everyone has such depressed moments in life), to fix this I suggest you go to move and to see more light, there is just something magical with the sun that will charge you with energy of max. For physical, go to the gym or as I said earlier some sport / hobby. I'm sure that in time you will find what you like best, but don't go somewhere else with the thought that it's better there, you will only lose years of your life that you will later realize have been wasted :) If we are going to talk about it emotionally, you are totally relaxed, you are so devoted that you seek help from people on the Internet (not that there is anything wrong, everyone has such depressed moments in life), to fix this I suggest you go to move and to see more light, there is just something magical with the sun that will charge you with energy of max. For the physical, go to the gym or as I said earlier some sport / hobby. I'm sure that in time you will find what you like best, but don't go somewhere else with the thought that it's better there, you will only lose years of your life that you will later realize have been wasted :) to fix this I suggest you go to move and see more light, there is just something magical with the sun that will charge you with energy to the max. For the physical, go to the gym or as I said earlier some sport / hobby. I'm sure that in time you will find what you like best, but don't go somewhere else with the thought that it's better there, you will only lose years of your life that you will later realize have been wasted :) to fix this I suggest you go to move and see more light, there is just something magical with the sun that will charge you with energy to the max. For physical, go to the gym or as I said earlier some sport / hobby. I'm sure that in time you will find what you like best, but don't go somewhere else with the thought that it's better there, you will only lose years of your life that you will later realize have been wasted :)
Male of 30: Dude, I may not be right, but I'll tell you this: try to stop weeding, I've been smoking for 17 years, but I've taken long breaks. When I stopped smoking weed for a 3 year period I became more determined. I started working, I became a little more social, I became interested and slept with women. Overall, I am impressed that the grass is detrimental to determination. I may not be right, but try it, I know it's hard. But I'm not talking about a break not to smoke for a few days, but not to smoke for years ... Good luck .... !!! :)
Lack of friends is not a bad thing. Christ himself was alone in the most difficult moments of his life. And not only him, but many, even all the Holy Saints - Christians were lonely, unloved, rejected by the powerful of the day, even persecuted. And I have a theory about people who are popular. To me, these are hypocrites. Who are always ready to flatter themselves, to play some roles, for fear of being rejected by society. These are cowardly and complex people for whom loneliness is the number one nightmare in their lives. The strong man can survive alone. The weak need a pack. And something else. I've noticed that people who come together in a "friendly" group tune in to the same wave. And this wave is the malice towards the different. These are gray, faceless creatures that hate - the colorful, the extraordinary. And adding that the world today is a mass hypocrisy, en masse everyone is guided by interest, by money, there is no love between people. Understand it - the love between people is almost cold. We were once taught that man for man is a brother, a companion, a supporter, a helper. Today - man for man is a wolf. There is a jungle on the street. The meaner, the dirtier, the meaner survives. Don't go to England. Something is working to help you. For money, to be distracted by gloomy thoughts. Good luck!!!! F 46
Stop the grass as a start. Second, look for a suitable job that will give you pleasure. Wherever you go, you can't run away from yourself, in the sense that you have to be in harmony with yourself. It's hard, but not unattainable, find a way to rise from the bottom :). Everyone has fallen, find a way out of this situation, I know you can :)))))) Good luck :))))
The only person who can give you meaning and hope is only YOU! You are the master of your life, no one else. I think the idea of leaving is very good for a person in your situation. You can start fresh - in a new country, a new city - a place where no one knows you. Of course, it is risky, even dangerous, but it is the risky situations that make a person develop. This will be like a barracks for you. Most people are reluctant to do such a thing, but believe me, you will become a man. If you stay in your comfort zone near mom and dad all your life, there is no way to reach your full potential. Without language, however, it will be very difficult for you. He studies the language hard for at least 2-3 months and then thinks about leaving. There, once you are in the middle, you will learn it very quickly, because you will be forced to speak English constantly. And it is quite easy and pleasant language. It's not like German or Scandinavian languages, for example. Good luck and go bold!