I want to touch on relationships between people and especially women's friendships. And is it there at all or is it all hypocrisy and interest. A few years ago I met a girl at university and it so happened that we became friends and started going out to share. We both went abroad to study and generally made a very nice women's company. We had fun, we helped each other. In general, I did not believe that such a thing could happen between women. She shared a lot of personal things with me, I with her, I helped her too. Overall, I felt like my closest friend. Time divided us, I went to one place, she to another. But we kept in touch and heard each other. We didn't fight, we didn't divide men or anything. At one point, she caught up with a colleague of mine from university and went to live abroad. And it has changed dramatically since then. She avoids communication with me, every time she comes to Bulgaria, she literally lies to me that she wanted to see me, but she always climbs something that prevents her. I don't bother her, I don't write to her often on Facebook, but when she comes to Bulgaria and writes that I want to see her. She agrees, we arrange a meeting and in the end she always invents some kind of management not to come. How can everything be so hypocritical, to say at least outright that it can't be so much. I'm not the type of person who envies or wants services all the time, I just wanted to see her and talk to her because she reminds me of good times from my student years. But it has changed so much that it is disgusting. I recently moved to the same city from which she is in Bulgaria, to live and work by chance in the same neighborhood where she lives. Det is called in a few blocks we are. She returned in 2 weeks and could not find 1 hour. And in the face she is so hypocritical that I feel sick. The paradox is that it doesn't happen to me for the first time with girlfriends, but in most cases after a while they always think of me when they need something and they start looking for me .... In general, I notice the last few years that people have become more closed, more cautious, more cowardly, even if it is no longer like a time to talk live, but only through the Internet, social media and others. Every day thousands of people do PR on Facebook and polish their egos there, but for the last few years I have stopped doing it. I use it only to communicate with people who cannot be reached in any other way, but not as a toilet for my emotional emotions or an archive of my personal life. And I seem to notice a change in one of my "friends," who are diligent users. If you stop demonstrating your personal faith in life in social media, does it mean that you cease to exist. Because it seems to be so for some people.
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Leave this one, it's not just worth it. Cut off all contact and watch your life. I had a similar "girlfriend" for 10 years, and in the end she turned out to be a hypocrite and a class user. All relations with such are terminated. And she shows a shiny package on Facebook, but who knows her well enough knows that in real life she is far from the person in the pictures. As for those who think of you only when they need something - fuck them too! And I was constantly helping, helping and finally what - nothing! Kitty
Unpleasantly, I have been in similar situations with two of my "girlfriends", whom I considered quite close, and I understand what is wrong with you. Friends are a valuable thing and if we lose them for no apparent reason, it sucks, we wonder if we have the reason. Life and distances divide people, and if you're not in the same city, it's hard to survive friendships over time, but you say you are. My advice is not to be humiliated to look for her anymore, not to look as if you are "leaning against her", that is, as if it is vital for you to communicate with her, let her understand and realize that you are offended by this behavior, if she is interested at all. Are you sure she wasn't with you for any interest / benefit? For example, you were liked in your group at the university and she wanted to shine next to you, you were excellent and she wanted to copy, to help her ... Something like that, she digs and you can find a reason in her behavior. Her husband may have a hand in this withdrawal. A friend of mine used to withdraw slightly from our girls' company of single students because of her friend, who didn't like going out to discos and back and forth with his unattached girlfriends ... I know. But there is certainly an explanation for her behavior, even if it is unpleasant / illogical. Good luck.
She may perceive you as a competition to her boyfriend. It's not as stupid as it sounds. Many women are super protective of their boyfriends. Many men too. A friend catches a boyfriend and stops covering my calls at all. When they break up and it starts ringing to see me for coffee. It's just like an algorithm with him ... but at least with us men there is not so much drama. We know what we are called. Just step away from her, don't look for her, and after a while she decides if you want to deal with her. Invest in making other friendships, socializing, boyfriend, etc.