Hi, I'm a 33 year old woman. Some time ago I met a man who at first glance seemed very interesting and funny. Since our contacts were business and we saw each other almost every day, we soon became friends and one day he invited me out. I was also very nice at dinner, we had a great evening until he drank more and started talking about his ex-girlfriends. He described them in detail, with all sorts of unpleasant details, even disgusting ones, explained who she was, what her name was, where she lived, what she did while they were together, all sorts of details of their life together, so personal and intimate that even me it got nasty. I asked him to stop with this topic, because it is personal, and I do not care. He said it was perfectly normal and with his friends, who regularly commented on women, with whom they had dealings, even their wives. Finally, when he sent me away, he said that he wanted us to be more than friends and gave me time to think if I wanted him too. And I really think so. I wonder if if we go out and then separate and I will be so commented in front of someone, my most intimate things will still be waved? Do all men really do that, or do I just come across an indiscreet gossip?
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Such tales, especially out of nowhere, make a very bad impression. Talking about them to a woman is like being in the company of your own ... And yes, most likely, he will describe in detail what and how to his friends, if something more happens between you. Assess how much it affects and interests you. Some are not impressed at all, for others it is a problem. Personally, I would not be happy to go into detail. I don't either. Otherwise, people like to discuss, regardless of gender, although I have not met a man who speaks extremely explicitly, even disgustingly. It's usually top-down, and my boyfriend and most of his friends don't even comment at all.
You will definitely be commented!
You will be commented on not after you break up, but all the time. For example, you fuck for the first time and the next day his friends will be aware of the details of how you are, what kind of tits you have, etc. So think about whether you will accept the offer. Looking at it, you seem to want to try it in spite of everything.
Now do you expect someone here to know ALL the men so they can answer your question? Yes, there are people like this simpleton, he must have already commented on you. There are also discreet men, people are different. One cannot conclude for everyone.
Run, a complex 32-year-old man who behaves like a high school student.
Then I'll take you like that, I wouldn't give him a chance in your place.
Not a gossip, but a snotty typical village complex spewing cheap malice. Like most. Why do you even wonder, this brazen parasite will drink your blood.
Бляяяяяк !!! No, not all men are that conclusion. My husband is very discreet about his past. I know with which women he had an affair, but he never comments on such details, where, how ... I also do not comment on intimacy with girlfriends and I am very sick when they start revealing their dirty secrets, even with details. A real man must protect the dignity of his partners. If he doesn't do it, the worse it speaks for him. You judged it correctly, be reasonable and tactfully distance yourself, unless you want to be part of the "statistics".
You came across garbage M 33
After you say, "and then we split up," you know what the end will be. Why do this to yourself then?
You still have nothing and you know his whole love life. Apparently his exes are a sick topic because they left this treasure. A man, if he spits on the women he has been with, will spit every next one. And you will comment you guarantee I give you. Apparently his anger is more and the anger that he broke up with these. And it's not normal, because you only hear his side, not theirs. He must have blackened them like that, but he doesn't remember that he was with them, and no one drove him by force. It's just that his ego is hurt. If you don't care what he says about you, meet him. I will blacken you, I will tell lies to sympathize with him and click my tongue. But my advice is - do not, because this malice will soon manifest itself in you and will criticize you openly.
It's nice when shoddy men signal to you in advance that they are not a commodity. This saves you a lot of anger and time.
This man is real in life. Well done! What do you want? An artist who would use you a little and dump you? At least this man told you what he had to say. And the question is whether you want to be with him - whether for a short time or not. That you want to go out with secret and discreet men to keep your perverted fantasies a secret, after that, is your problem and you show yourself that you are wearing masks. And you're ashamed of being in bed ... that's what I understood. Apparently you are worried about this, and not only you but also other women from the commenters. And what is a man with dignity? Either you're a whore and you say it to yourself (after all, that's what you chose to be) or you're honest and you don't do any perverse things and you can still say it to yourself without being ashamed. In my opinion, there are men who do not like to make oral love to them and this is exactly their dignity. They don't want to humiliate a woman enough to kiss him for that job. But you (women) understand by "Man with dignity" A man who makes all sorts of perversions with his wife, but hides it in secret (not to expose himself, somewhere ....) this is the dignity in your opinion ... Ha. You have the wrong definition of a "man of dignity"