I can tell you hundreds of stories, and maybe I should because most of them are instructive — a typical example of what not to do. But right now I'm just asking for a little help. I often cry, I get depressed, I feel hopeless, and in principle I am a strong person. The problem is that my conscience bothers me terribly and I can't find peace. I just can't accept myself and who I am. I have made a terrible mistake and all these mistakes eat me from within. I dream of a family and children, but when I look in the mirror I realize that no one will take me if they know what I am. Don't get me wrong - I'm a pretty girl, but I had a pretty turbulent teenage years and woke up in a lot of other people's beds. This is what torments me. So, tell me how to move forward when I can't even stand it, I turn away from myself and anyone who knows even half of my "feats" would be disgusted with me. With this past, can I have a future Do I have a way out? Or let my guilty conscience make the decision?
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Don't worry, don't think so. Happens. For example, I married the first person I met, lived with him for many years and divorced. Then I scrolled- my "feats" are enough. But I met a wonderful man who carries me in his arms, knows little about things, guesses at others, I even cheated on him because he annoyed me at one time, and he caught me. And forgive me. If I think about all the "feats" constantly and I have a guilty conscience, I will go crazy. That's why I whistle and look ahead. Do the same, I wish you to meet the right man! And don't tell him everything under any circumstances. It is past, it cannot be fixed.
Hello! I know it will sound weird, but why not try confession. I personally do not know a better cure for a suffering conscience. This will free you from all your torments and you will start your life anew. With new strength and a different view of the things you suffered for. I don't mean to say you have to. It is a matter of personal choice and desire. Still, it doesn't stop you from trying. Success!
Hi, I'm 40 and I can't boast of many feats, but there were a lot of things to be ashamed of. Over the years, however, I have come to realize that everyone, without exception, has done and continues to do a lot of nonsense, and we should all feel your way. However, the truth is that everyone lives his life as he understands it and no one has the right to judge the other. So, head up, raise your self-esteem and be yourself without worrying. If you consider this behavior as a mistake, then you can correct it. And believe me - "every miracle in three days" - after a while all remorse and doubt will be behind you. I wish you a lot of happiness and look for the right person!
The fact that you had a turbulent teenage years has nothing to do with the present. Why do you have to suffer? You wanted to, there were reasons, there was some passion and that's it. Now it is important to be responsible. Everyone has their own secrets that they do not tell. It is not necessary. When you have a man and you love each other, I advise you not to tell him everything. This will protect both you and your feelings.
All of the commenters support you, I also wish you only good, but to know absolutely everything is written for you. You can't want to have what someone else has struggled to achieve, so I think you'll find someone to respect you, but don't count on him to be a flower.
Don't worry about your past. I had an acquaintance who started prostitution at 16. She chose this path and followed it until she was 35. She lost all her friends and hardly had a normal circle of communication. And when she was 35 she met HIM. She is now a mother of 2 children, graduated from high school, albeit by correspondence, and is respected and loved by her husband, children and friends. The important thing is that she met the MAN who would accept her with such a past and not pay attention to him. More importantly, she turned her back on her past and moved on. So, go ahead!
The present and the future are important. The past left him and moved on.
And I fully support you..whatever it was..from now on go boldly without turning around
I read the story and rediscover myself. Don't blame yourself, because you haven't done anything wrong, and I'm sure you are a very emotional and passionate nature, who has sought and seen the ONLY ones in every man. I was like you, and now I'm married with a child. And never tell the man next to you how many were in front. Even lie if you have to. I wish you luck and success ....
Everyone has a past and most of us are not proud of it. People who really care about you would never tease you!
Well, don't cut so much. For example, I worry about the opposite, that I don't have many sexual feats. Not that I'm ugly, but I'm very anxious and I keep pulling.
Honestly, in your teens you were a "whore", but that's normal. I know a lot of people like that, and now they have great families. I think people like you can have a great future. Don't worry and I'm sorry if I offended someone with something !!
Hello from me! I read your story with great interest and the comments they wrote were really nice. I can tell you that even if I am still young, I fully understand what you did when you were 16, but these years are the most dangerous and you should be very happy. I want to say that life is in front of you that when you were little you made a mistake does not mean that you made it again you already realized and regret what you did. So I wish you to find such a person who appreciates and respects you despite your past.
This is the typical limited and illogical female thinking ... You decided to sleep with these men on your own, since you have done it so many times, it was obviously good for you. And really, if you liked it and did it for fun, I don't see why you should feel guilty. It's very stupid to feel bad just because you had a good time. I don't think a man in your position would suffer unnecessarily and keep his self-esteem. And, if you slept with these people because you were shaking / getting drunk or because you had any problems, consult a psychologist.
"Can I have a future with this past" ... everyone has a future when they are alive, and when they are young ... what could be better than that ... ZARA
Take a breath, take a walk, smile ... Your case is SAVABLE. The most important thing is to realize that you can help yourself, because no one but you is responsible for your # destiny #. I'm in a hurry to tell you maybe just two things. You do not love yourself enough, you consider yourself unworthy of love. The second thing is your great desire to change - you and the environment in which you live. Don't share so much with friends and #wellers # - she WILL NOT HELP help you. You complain about the situation you are in, you whine - you produce negative energy of non-Lzbov, self-condemnation, disappointment, despair. Seek specialized psychological help, build trust and cooperation with your psychologist. Trust yourself, trust him, trust him. Recover, you are not alone. Ask for change - do not waste time in self-pity. SELF-PITY is a bad counselor. Change your environment, if you need the neighborhood, your appearance ... Smile more, love each other ...