Hello. I am 24 years old. Here is my story .. I have been married for 3 years. Everything was going great, but he started to change! He is constantly nervous, wondering what to argue with me about? And it starts from there ... I know that I also have my shortcomings, I am a little more clumsy, but I always try to please him with what I can ... but he is dissatisfied, whatever I have done is always belittled! He is not happy sometimes how I cooked and starts with scandals .. insults, anger how I can't do anything and how no one wants me .. in fact I grew up without parents. And it goes on, how can I not clean and cook and what am I ungrateful for, and I don't even know what for? If I get up in the morning and make coffee and don't turn on the vacuum cleaner first, it becomes a scandal again! When you come home from work, you go through the rooms to check how clean it is! Rarely did you let me buy anything, despite the fact that he constantly orders things from the internet, he is never interested in my opinion and always twists things like that even if he is guilty, he shifts the blame to me, and I go to apologize just to be at peace! Yes, I know I'm stupid :) and quite desperate on the edge of my strength. I work, I don't sit and wait for it to be ready, I do almost nothing for myself, he monitors my finances, how much and what I bought. I don't spend money on nonsense, I thought I was a good housewife, but now I feel useless, no matter what I do. I rarely go out with friends or relatives I have, because he doesn't approve of them and I haven't forbidden him anything. I was a cheerful person, I just feel spit! I can write and ds say countless more things and the insults he tells me hurt me terribly and I haven't even given a reason for all this. I apologize if there are spelling mistakes.
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Hello! In my opinion, this with the bills and who treats them how is very relative. There are men who are okay for the woman not to work, and there are those who think that the costs should be shared. It is possible that his income is higher and that he is one of those people who want everything to be 50/50. If it doesn't suit you to be billed for money, but you like it, you can look for a more lucrative job, and the other option is to talk to him and learn to ask him for some things, to explain why you need them. About nervousness - I don't believe it's about that, you didn't cook for him - you were more of a vent to some other problem. I would find a convenient time to talk to him and ask him if everything is okay and if there is anything that protests him or that I can help him with. But that's in case you want to keep the connection, which I'm not sure I recommend. I do not approve of such an attitude, I think it is very depressing and I would not choose them for myself unless I have children with my partner. Decide whether you will stay in the relationship or leave, but if you stay at least talk to him to invite some friends home or start a hobby to feel complete. Success!
What I read is awful !!! I am very sorry that you grew up without parents and that this is happening to you. It's best to get a divorce and start over. There is still time. As far as I understand, you have no children, you are free. Think about it: if he treats you like this from now on, will it be better in the future? No wonder he allows himself to be touched. Don't let it happen, life is in front of you, success!
To break with two hundred. He 's a psychopath.
What do we think ??? Girl !!! Run with 300! Seriously ... you're still young, you've been a cheerful person and it's bound to happen again, because your happiness comes first! What a man does to himself, another cannot do to him! Don't do this to yourself! FIRST: This man does not respect you, therefore he does not love you (without respect there can be no love); SECOND: You are still young, don't lose yourself, you will end up with antidepressants, low self-esteem or don't give yourself other health problems; THIRD: By no means do you deserve this, no matter what shortcomings you have (even a slight awkwardness) - no one is perfect and everyone has their good qualities; FOURTH - go to a room, to your parents or wherever you decide, without much thought, be COURAGEOUS, not someone's victim! Success! F, 20
He's an energy vampire, no husband of yours. Tell me how you feel and don't make it happen to you. When you met, did you not know what his character was? You better leave him if he squeezes you!
You don't write about children, but it doesn't matter. Firmly - run! Leave this person for a second and don't look at him again. Does not deserve you.
Divorce as soon as possible and start your life anew. Advice from a woman who has experienced the same. You are not useless, he wants you to think so. You are a great woman, ready to make many sacrifices for the man who loves, but who, unfortunately, does not deserve these sacrifices. You don't owe him anything at all, much less have to put up with watching your every move, it's pure prison. Find a place to stay (if you don't have a girlfriend or other relative to go to). I don't know in which city you live, but everywhere, even in Sofia, there are cheap rooms for BGN 150 per month. Go out while he is at work and immediately, on the same day, file for divorce and follow the procedure. Change your phone number and warn all your mutual acquaintances not to give your contacts on any occasion. Seek the help and protection of all your close friends and even your bosses, because the struggle will be fierce. I did it myself, but if you have the support of other people it will definitely be easier. As far as I understand, you do not have children, the situation should not complicate you more than at the moment. But the most important thing is to break away from it and live alone, to seek true love and support in your life. This person who is harassing you is NOT the ONLY person who will love you, believe me. At least, because he does NOT love YOU. He uses you. After the separation and even during the divorce procedure, he will try his best to shake your psyche. He may even pretend to have changed, but remember, such people do not change, it will only do so to temporarily deceive you and hurt you again. It can threaten you, it may make you jealous of your kindness to another woman and try to shake your self-esteem, but you don't hear a word. Ignore it, erase it from your life. If he overdoes it and threatens you physically, inform the authorities and tell him that if he continues, he will simply go to prison. People like him are easily frightened when they see that you are no longer under their control and there will be consequences. He will soon see that he is not doing well with you and he will find another victim to torment like you at the moment. And another important thing - do not immediately get into a new relationship. Surround yourself with friends and seek support, but start a relationship only after you make sure that the person on the other side respects, appreciates and truly loves you. And this person will come one day and you will be very happy :) If he overdoes it and threatens you physically, inform the authorities and tell him that if he continues, he will simply go to prison. People like him are easily frightened when they see that you are no longer under their control and there will be consequences. He will soon see that he is not doing well with you and he will find another victim to torment like you at the moment. And another important thing - do not immediately get into a new relationship. Surround yourself with friends and seek support, but start a relationship only after you make sure that the person on the other side respects, appreciates and truly loves you. And this person will come one day and you will be very happy :) If he overdoes it and threatens you physically, inform the authorities and tell him that if he continues, he will simply go to prison. People like him are easily frightened when they see that you are no longer under their control and there will be consequences. He will soon see that he is not doing well with you and he will find another victim to torment like you at the moment. And another important thing - do not immediately get into a new relationship. Surround yourself with friends and seek support, but start a relationship only after you make sure that the person on the other side respects, appreciates and truly loves you. And this person will come one day and you will be very happy :) And another important thing - do not immediately get into a new relationship. Surround yourself with friends and seek support, but start a relationship only after you make sure that the person on the other side respects, appreciates and truly loves you. And this person will come one day and you will be very happy :) And another important thing - do not immediately get into a new relationship. Surround yourself with friends and seek support, but start a relationship only after you make sure that the person on the other side respects, appreciates and truly loves you. And this person will come one day and you will be very happy :)
I am a man of 23 and when I read a woman complaining about her husband, I accept him with a note of distrust. I also always condemn advice from other women who advise you to leave the person in question immediately. It just seems to me that many women nowadays are willing to easily ruin a family and leave their children without a father (which is detrimental to children) simply because they do not indulge their whims. However, your case is a little different, because I grew up in just such a family. My father was exactly what you describe, down to the last detail - constantly dissatisfied with something, always had quarrels, often had slaps. My mother rarely, but when I grew up I started eating paint for something every week. And it's not like I've been a squirrel - I was an excellent student, I always did everything I was told as in a barracks, I haven't done any whites. When something was being done (and there was always something being done in the fucking concentration camp I called home), I was always there to help, instead of playing somewhere, and I was given the task of running to do it (I was not allowed to walk calmly). From all the work pleasure was never the same every week - one wrong step, one delay, one gag and it starts: "Idiot, fool, idiot, nothing happens to you, I'm tired of you, I'll give up on you and etc. ", quite often accompanied by some slap. To top it all off, my dear father worked a miserable government job and we never had any money. I went to school with two layers of clothes, I was also fat, but who cares to enroll me in sports. My classmates made fun of me, they made fun of me too, but I just couldn't defend myself. If something happened at school and my father was called, what would happen? Every day I endured ridicule as I wondered what miracle awaited me when I returned home. Now in those years I am a complete outsider. There was no one to teach me to be a man, I have never been with a girl, because they like self-confidence, and mine is not just ripped out, but carved with a spoon from this likeness of a father. And when I think about it, he had to be my biggest support and example. I haven't lived with my parents for a long time, I go home once every few months and I don't even call them. Even my mother. Because she's the one who gave birth to this idiot. I asked her why she didn't divorce in time to live in peace, and she replied that there was simply nowhere to go. So author here is my advice: Run. Run before he makes you a child, because if that happens, you are tied to him: No man your age will want a "cow with a calf", and you will have another throat to feed. Your husband takes advantage of being an orphan and having nowhere to go, but what do you need at that age? One job and a friend to share the apartment, for example. But your husband will not get better, I tell you. If the child appears and you have more financial stress it will get even worse. Such guys (and yes, I know I'm referring to my own father) don't deserve a family. They just don't realize that having a family is not a burden, it's a privilege. And because they are jerks in society (a stable and confident man will never behave like that), their only "kingdom" is home, and their only "subjects" are the family. Here is my second piece of advice: Don't listen to the opinions of old single women. They will only teach you to hate men and be a light woman, because they themselves are upset that no one wants them. I think it's because it happened recently to an acquaintance after her separation. You went very well at a young age with strong family values to try to be a good wife and housewife. You just didn't hit the right person. There are many men who will appreciate this without treating you like garbage. For example, I would prefer a woman who has been married for the last 3 years to one who has spent 30 k $$ in the last 3 years in Student City. A family is built with love and understanding, not with a sense of ownership. You just didn't hit the right person. There are many men who will appreciate this without treating you like garbage. For example, I would prefer a woman who has been married for the last 3 years to one who has spent 30 k $$ in the last 3 years in Student City. A family is built with love and understanding, not with a sense of ownership. You just didn't hit the right person. There are many men who will appreciate this without treating you like garbage. For example, I would prefer a woman who has been married for the last 3 years to one who has spent 30 k $$ in the last 3 years in Student City. A family is built with love and understanding, not with a sense of ownership.
This one has a super cheeky demeanor. Tell him that if he is not happy with how you cook, he should do the housework and take care of himself. Don't leave him indebted
Run at full throttle. There is nothing wrong with one. Whatever shortcomings many men have, they can still be swallowed. But such a user and egoist will melt your life.
I will not read the whole article, I will answer you directly. Growing up without parents is enough for me to give an assessment. From a psychological point of view, women who grew up without parents very often come across such men. When you grow up without a family, it leaves deep traces in your way of thinking. Listen to my words, in addition to being interested in psychology, I am also a child of divorced parents and in general I fall into this category. You do not have the right model for the behavior of the man next to you. You do not choose men correctly, because in your life there was no father who subconsciously builds in the woman the image of the right man. Why do you accept such an attitude towards yourself. Have you thought about it. You are somewhat aware that this is not normal. Don't you think you deserve more? This man probably makes you feel guilty. Get rid of it. You have the right to be happy and you deserve it! Start loving yourself! You're not doing it right now. You don't believe he deserves to be treated well, and you underestimate yourself. You need to communicate ONLY with people who make you feel good. Otherwise you are a masochist. Of course, you will feel like spit after he crushes you. He feeds his self-confidence from this. Every day, when you get up in the morning, you first look at yourself in the ice, then you are thankful that you are alive, and you see in front of you a wonderful person who deserves an equally wonderful life. Your criteria for a man are distorted. Be careful when choosing the next man. You can only come across such people all your life because you don't value yourself. and you underestimate yourself. You need to communicate ONLY with people who make you feel good. Otherwise you are a masochist. Of course, you will feel like spit after he crushes you. He feeds his self-confidence from this.
Every day, when you get up in the morning, you first look at yourself in the ice, then you are thankful that you are alive, and you see in front of you a wonderful person who deserves an equally wonderful life. Your criteria for a man are distorted. Be careful when choosing the next man. You can only come across such people all your life because you don't value yourself. and you underestimate yourself. You need to communicate ONLY with people who make you feel good. Otherwise you are a masochist. Of course, you will feel like spit after he crushes you. He feeds his self-confidence from this. Every day, when you get up in the morning, you first look at yourself in the ice, then you are thankful that you are alive, and you see in front of you a wonderful person who deserves an equally wonderful life. Your criteria for a man are distorted. Be careful when choosing the next man. You can only come across such people all your life because you don't value yourself. that you are alive, and you see against yourself a wonderful man who deserves an equally wonderful life. Your criteria for a man are distorted. Be careful when choosing the next man. You can only come across such people all your life because you don't value yourself. that you are alive, and you see against yourself a wonderful man who deserves an equally wonderful life. Your criteria for a man are distorted. Be careful when choosing the next man. You can only come across such people all your life because you don't value yourself.