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Harassment By My Husband

By world_wildlife August 30, 2020 7 answers Last updated August 30, 2020

I am the mother of a small child under 2 years old. Ever since I gave birth, I seem to have seen. The love for the child helped me see the world with new eyes. It helped me sift through the important from the insignificant, helped me know where not to waste energy, and most of all, to understand that I will never love anyone in the world as much as my child. I'm sure every woman who has become a mother knows what I'm talking about. My husband is very aggressive and domineering. I live under constant directions and restrictions. After the baby was born, it started swinging in front of my face. He never hit me, but he began to allow himself to push me, shake my hands, turn off the Internet, pick up my phone, swing his face while clenching his teeth, and show me he was about to hit. Today we were next to the store to shop. When we got in the car we wanted to give the child food, but it turned out that the wet wipes were gone and we couldn't wipe his hands. He asked why not and why didn't I tell him he didn't? I told him that he had been on leave for a long time, and as much as he knew, so did I. We both use them. He said that knowing so much now I would wait in the car and went to the store to buy. He came back and was annoyed that we were sitting with the door open.

Only the peasants stood like that. Intelligent and wealthy people stood behind closed doors, and this was a rude rural act. My eyes watered, but he didn't reflect me. When we got home to pick up the purchases, he told me to go for a walk with the child because he would not sleep tonight. I cried and told him I wanted to go home. He got angry and told me to go upstairs and that he didn't want me with them at all and they went out. On the way as we traveled, the child was playing with food and he told me to turn around to see what this child was finally doing and he shook my head and forcibly turned it back. I cried. The child was fine. But not me. So many such cases. I was going to leave a few times, but he manipulated me to stay and when he saw that I was ready he changed and started behaving nicely and explaining to me how I was not in class. I never, ever misbehave with him. I'm always careful, even when I'm very sick. But he constantly crushes me mentally. He even often tells me that if I dump him I have nowhere to go and no one will take me. I may not be perfect, but I'm decent and I had a lot of fans before him. And I thought I chose him. I don't know if there are normal men anymore. I'm starting to think that marriage and family are a total obsolescence.

I took care of the child. He only went to work for two years. Now he has stayed at home for a while and he finds it very difficult and constantly crushes me when he is sick. When he crushes me and transfers his bitterness, he starts to pick on me why I'm sad ... For two years my regime was to get up and run a super express vacuum cleaner, to wipe the dust on the furniture, to put a wet rag, to clean the bathroom, to wash the child and feed him, then take him out for two hours, then lunch and sleep. I rest while he sleeps and when he gets up I cook dinner. He goes home and eats and we go out together a bit. Now, while he's at home, he's constantly yelling at me. I hadn't run a vacuum cleaner for a week, and the floor hadn't been a myth for more than a week, the child was crawling, touching ... he said to clean not in his presence, he hated the noise of a vacuum cleaner. He doesn't even give me a washing machine to run, it annoyed him. Everything irritates him, and I have obligations ahead of me and there is no time ... I became so nervous from this harassment that I can't sleep at night. I stand and look at one point and I don't even know what's wrong with me, I just know I'm sick. I don't have the strength to take care of the child. I scream for everything. My option is to go and live with the child in a small one-bedroom apartment, which is mine and currently has tenants. The apartment is new, we furnished it a few years ago with the cheapest but new furniture. It will be difficult for me alone, because I do not have a personal car and if I change the neighborhood it will be difficult with the crib. I also don't want to be a divorced woman with a child. That means being alone.

My option is to go and live with the child in a small one-bedroom apartment, which is mine and currently has tenants. The apartment is new, we furnished it a few years ago with the cheapest but new furniture. It will be difficult for me alone, because I do not have a personal car and if I change the neighborhood it will be difficult with the crib. I also don't want to be a divorced woman with a child. That means being alone. My option is to go and live with the child in a small one-bedroom apartment, which is mine and currently has tenants. The apartment is new, we furnished it a few years ago with the cheapest but new furniture. It will be difficult for me alone, because I do not have a personal car and if I change the neighborhood it will be difficult with the crib. I also don't want to be a divorced woman with a child. That means being alone.

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lindalovecam answered · August 30, 2020

   Masochist, did not want to be alone Now who are you with the child and with a nasty THING Obviously you choose the worse evil or be with him to scratch from time to time

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ja_jittapa answered · August 30, 2020

   And who chose this husband for you? The neighbors? You wanted a family and a child with him - well, here you have them. Was it hard for you, did someone promise to make it easy for you? I want to tell you that it is your fault. If it doesn't work, take the child and move out. Then you will go to work and you will not bother at home. You will also make money for a car. And yes, you will look after your child alone. Because there will be desires to fuck you, but to look after another's child - no.

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ellamai answered · August 30, 2020

   Dear girl, think seriously about being able to move forward with this man. I experienced something similar with my ex. He didn't hit me, but he was mentally harassing me. Example: we are guests of another family. My and the other child are 3 years old, playing around the table, mine tripped on a stool and hit his knee. Nothing serious. When his father saw him, he turned to me with the words "what a mother you are, your child hit you in front of you". What kind of inadequate reaction is this ??? He insulted me and humiliated me in front of the other family. And many more such cases. We got divorced.

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nathangadrian answered · August 30, 2020

   I don't think you have a better option than getting a divorce. Yes, it is an important decision not to raise your child with his father as you wanted, but this is the lesser evil. I grew up in a family where my father was harassing me and my mother and honestly they had to divorce much earlier ... I would have had a much happier childhood .. I don't blame my mother, but the truth is that he could have prevent. Divorce and find a decent man who will love and respect you, to be kind to you always, and not only when you are about to part with him. What I said to my mother, I will tell you. You deserve a better life, you have the opportunity to have it, afford it. I wish you all the best. Love your child and get the toxic people out of your life.

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thebeatles.portugal answered · August 30, 2020

   Start making some decisions, not just crying and waiting to be told what to do. Powerful men do not tolerate pampering, roaring and snot, such manifestations irritate them further. Obviously, you don't get along as a couple. It's not normal for him to reach out to you and grab your head roughly.

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genisst answered · August 31, 2020

   She is not afraid to suffer humiliation but she is afraid to be left alone. What kind of mentality is this?