Hello. I am a 16 year old girl. In short, my father and mother treat me terribly. At one point they behave well and then suddenly they start shouting and insulting me and blaming me for everything. My mother has been having nervous breakdowns for as long as I can remember, but at least she's making an effort. It burns a hell of a lot faster and is super easy to hit by anything. He was always like that and he always shouted at me, and until recently I didn't realize at all that this was not normal, because they both always shouted at me and I, as I was used to it from a young age, thought it was normal until 2 years ago. In principle, it is difficult for me to close my mouth in such situations, I always try to defend myself, but maybe this is the problem ... When he starts to tell me “Don't call me, who are you thinking about? "I tell him" And I have an opinion, who are you thinking of telling me not to call? ”Or something of the sort. And then they go to tell me how bad a child I am, how I just answer. Emmy, if you were good parents, maybe I wouldn't answer you ... And that's part of my character. Do you think it's better to ignore it or continue like this? And in general, they crush my self-esteem and depress me. But otherwise they loved me a lot, etc. And on top of all that, my father just keeps telling me that I hate him and complains to my mother and intrigues. And they quarrel all the time, because my father is bad and with my mother, I don't know why she tolerates him. I'm tired of all this, what can I do ?? It is clear that I will move out, but how can I last another 3 years? Do you think it's better to ignore it or continue like this? And in general, they crush my self-esteem and depress me. But otherwise they loved me a lot, etc. And on top of all that, my father just keeps telling me that I hate him and complains to my mother and intrigues. And they quarrel all the time, because my father is bad and with my mother, I don't know why she tolerates him. I'm tired of all this, what can I do ?? It is clear that I will move out, but how can I last another 3 years? Do you think it's better to ignore it or continue like this? And in general, they crush my self-esteem and depress me. But otherwise they loved me a lot, etc. And on top of all that, my father just keeps telling me that I hate him and complains to my mother and intrigues. And they quarrel all the time, because my father is bad and with my mother, I don't know why she tolerates him. I'm tired of all this, what can I do ?? It is clear that I will move out, but how can I last another 3 years?
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As you are very independent and knowledgeable, come out, make your money and be free! But it's easier with Daddy wears, Mommy kneads and then you have an "opinion". At 16, you can work and raise money. She had an opinion ... who knows what you tell them. It's a good thing they're not farting, although maybe they should have ..
It must be very difficult for you to live among such parents. Don't listen to them, you're a good girl. When necessary, answer them. But if you ask me, there are two options; you can ignore your father, or negotiate with your mother to stick together against him. But still they are Your parents. You have to grit your teeth. And remember this is not a normal relationship my child.
Emmy, you're a bad kid, they're your parents, you can't talk to them that way.
The problem is most likely in them, we do not know all the details but .. It is normal for a person to have a lot of problems in their daily lives, but it is not normal to make it to your child. It is best to talk to them seriously and You tell them that from all these quarrels you no longer know if they really love you. And if nothing happens from a serious conversation, it is best to turn to a psychologist. I think that in schools they need a psychologist to use for free .
I'm the same as you - I understand you. I'm a 26-year-old man, I haven't lived with ours for a long time, but my mother always finds something to eat. 4 days ago I was in hospital for petty nonsense, after I was discharged by the doctors my mother started attacking me mentally and ruining my dignity, she was not happy that I was discharged, she didn't even ask me how I was after I was discharged and I have the 4th operation and the belly (not that anyone cares) but my mother also acted nasty. She's like that - I don't feel sorry for her
Clearly we only have one side of things, but don't attack the girl! I already have children myself, but my parents were and are like yours, except that I did not have the courage or too much respect to say something. I just kept quiet and tried to make them happy, I never succeeded. They stopped calling me, telling me how stupid and unsuccessful I was in life when I moved out. I asked them while I was learning to stay at home and give them the money instead of going to stay because I had a cat that would not let me go with me. You can't even talk to them, because if they're like my guardians, they won't bother to hear you. For there to be change, you need desire, and they don't. Every time you try they will attack you even more. I couldn't stand it and moved out, 2 months later my cat died dull and pointless. Something tore her apart and she got a big wound, they put her in the bathroom, she got sick and threw her back outside. It was winter and a day later they called me to find her dead, I cried a lot, as soon as there was a wound I would take her to the doctor. Or they could just let me take her with me since they had no intention of taking care of her.