You leave the house. You find yourself on the street. Palpitations, tremors, dizziness, shortness of breath, you feel that you do not step, that you will fall. So many people, traffic, traffic. You feel that they will step on you, that they will step on you, that you are vulnerable and small. You are afraid that if something happens to you you will not be helped. You can't run away. There is no way out. He is not at home. You don't look them in the eye. You avoid eye contact. Your voice trembles when you order coffee (at a bar with your parents and you're 19) or go shopping. You're afraid of exposing yourself. It is difficult to talk to strangers and acquaintances. You can't find any topics. You are afraid of what they will think of you. You have no friends to go out with, to talk without fear, to smile, to relax, to laugh. Social hand phobia with agoraphobia. Are there others like me? Have you fought and how? Please help.
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Yes, there is a cure. You need to consult a psychiatrist.
Social phobia ?!
Psychologist - there is nothing shameful to go. I went.
You will recover with a lot of will. Nothing is impossible :)
You don't have a phobia! Just relax! This happens with a change of scenery, with more positive thinking and courage / I'm not saying that you don't have courage, but that you just have to show it! /. Elsewhere, it will be easier for you to start over. Don't suggest that you have a phobia. And most importantly, don't mention to anyone that you think you have phobias, because they will take advantage of driving you crazy. It's not bad to be in a restaurant with your parents, and what about when you're 19? they will attack you here. the four rules of the site are marked in red.
And I'm somewhat like that, I don't have an agora phobia, but I understand you. We just have to accept that others are no more than us. They don't care what you say, it's just your thought, most people think of themselves and their problems, not you. You can read the bible, it has a calming effect.
Hello! I was diagnosed with social phobia and anxiety disorder and felt the same way as you. I went to a psychiatrist and took antidepressants. I am now a new person thanks to holotropic breathing. The procedure is not complicated and consists of very deep breathing during music, followed by relaxation. The idea is to clear the tension that has accumulated in us on a subconscious level. I advise you to try to see if it will help you too. One session is 80 leva, but this is ridiculous money for the result I got, and there is no need to take antidepressants. Search the Internet for Dr. Marian Gospodinov, he has an interview at the Gala. I go to him in Varna, but I know that he travels around Bulgaria and if you find his phone call, I do not know if I am allowed to write him a phone number here. I wish you all this,
Hello :) First, fear is the surface of our imagination. As I read, I have the feeling that you are afraid to live, but what are you so afraid of. I am 17 years old, a boy with separated parents, I live only with my mother. abroad is my father and his girlfriend from whom he has 3 children, whom I accept as siblings. I have another sister from my blood mother. And I feel perfect :) As a child it happened to me and to this day it happens to me I do not know where I am then I look at my friends and it passes without understanding. Appreciate what you have. Do not be afraid. Those you think of as enemies can become your best friends. The only obstacle in this case is yourself. Do what you want, be yourself and you will be happy, you will not even understand what the problems are and where they have disappeared. :)
And I'm the same, only I was 1 year with those nasty, palpitations, shortness of breath, etc. The truth is that you have to tell yourself ENOUGH I have nothing. You have to find a job, a university, something, sports. Otherwise, I'm the same, I don't have any friends, I don't have a girlfriend, I'm a student, but my life is boring as a whole boy of 22 :)
Neolexen 150mg.! 2x a day. If it does not help increase the dose to 3x a day. That's how I did it.
I'm a psychologist but not in Bulgaria ..... just look .... you have to rest to get out of this "traffic, people" ... everything that weighs on you ... relax. DON'T THINK ... you have friends but you don't know it. Untie your tongue speak
Fake it. If you are unsure- fake it. Honestly, it helps.
От авторката: благодаря на всички.. просто на повечето хора не им е проблем да са сред тълпа, не ги е страх и не им става лошо, не се паникьосват и общуването им е лесно, идва им от вътре.. аз съм като забила, дори преди в училище, сред съученици- нямам какво да кажа, треперя от вътре.. не мога да провеждам разговор с никой.. нямам социални умения.. то не може "просто говори".. сякаш на някой без книжка и знания да кажеш "просто карай".. и не съм отракана.. не мога да живея другаде сама.. откачам.. единственото безопасно място за мен е вкъщи.. и единствените хора с които не ми е лошо са родителите ми.. дали ще уча или ще работя то се иска да говориш, да можеш сам.. родителите са до време, а и никой не е вечен.. за да си пълноценен човек трябва да си нахакан, екстроверт, а аз не съм и не мога магически да стана.. интровертна съм и това е.. и ако беше само това- ок, но то това моето е екстремна срамежливост и прилошаване и ирационални страхове, че всички те зяпат лошо, подигравателно, осъдително, че ще те наранят.. гледаш да не поглеждаш никой в тълпа и изобщо сред хора, било то на улицата и където и да било.. знам, че тревожността предупреждава за опасност, така реаргира тялото, но специално тая фобия, както всички фобии е ирационален страх, без реална опасност за живота, но излезна ли навън всякаква логика и рационално мислене изчезват, всякакво мислене изчезва, само описаните синптоми, паниката, срама и страхът остават и сякаш съм никой.. тези дни уж ще почвам работа и то крупие, иска се само да посрещаш и изпращаш хората, главно работиш с някакви машини, ще има курс, ще ни обучат.. много съм се сдухала как ще ходя дотам и как ще се справям там.. айде, градът ни е малък, добре, че не е голям, ама искам догодина да уча.. как да стане тая работа с тея тълпи, липса на умения за общуване.. та аз нямам една приятелка.. то и да учиш после, за да имаш работа се искат връзки и нищо не е сигурно.. ама пак е по- голям шанс.. ще пробвам хапчетата и искам да питам колко време да се пият? съжалявам, че си изливам терзанията тук.. знам, че повечето хора няма да разберат.. само който го има знае какво е.. просто ми е супер зле.. всеки ден плач.. защото не виждам бъдеще и нормалност.. защото не знам какво е да живееш нормално, да излизаш без страх, да имаш приятелства, да се смееш, да разговаряш.. ходя на психолог, ама не съм и казала за това как ми е навън.. знае само за общуването.. а и само говорим за миналото.. не знам от кога и точно от какво се е получило.. ама и като цяло като бях по- общителна то беше рядко и кат съм била само с един човек, не в компания.. сега сигурно няма да мога да ходя при нея.. номер 10 ти завинаги ли се оправи? в смисъл след като спря хапчетата или си ги пиеш още? .. съжалявам за грешките, пиша от телефона.. за прочелите целия коментар благодаря за търпението
number 7, how come you drank antidepressants, and then you say that you didn't drink, that you only got better with holotropic breathing?
I have a similar neurotic disorder and social phobia. The truth is that there is no hope, I am thinking of committing suicide, I do not see any meaning in life. You can look for it for days and years, but you will not find it - it's all a lie! I hope I die!
Number 15 I'm number 7, I took antidepressants, but when holotropic breathing sessions start, antidepressants are stopped because they suppress all these bad feelings and fears, and with that breathing they have to go out. I can safely say that I no longer have a social phobia. And I was incredibly skeptical of this treatment, my relatives barely made me go and try. I can't say that now everything is rosy and beautiful, but I don't have these crazy fears like before, I can see people, talk to them calmly, go out, etc. and I don't get depressed. In general, I hope this answers your question, I only managed holotropic breathing without antidepressants. Of course, I keep walking until I feel like I don't need more. Today will be my third session, and from the first I was influenced and even I wondered how this happened. An interesting effect was that I felt hungry in the morning and had not had breakfast for 5 years somewhere. I can also recommend the book Paradise Behind Fear, I haven't read it yet, I took it recently, but it seems reliable.
If you do not decide to overcome this fear on your own, no one will be able to help you. Otherwise, I can't look people in the eye, even once I almost fainted in a big crowd, but the first step is to try to overcome this insecurity on your own. And your problem will be half solved. It's certainly hard, and I can't force myself to look people in the eye, but I don't want to, actually. : D But still, it's a lot more serious with you, so good luck !! :)
I have similar problems! I know how hard it is to decide, but go to a psychologist. I've been walking for more than 2 months, every week, at first it was hard for me to even go out, but slowly I started to change. Then I took a voucher, now I find it, but it has expired ...