Hello! I want to read the opinion of people looking at the current situation, which I will describe. My boyfriend and I decided to adopt a dog. At first I was firmly against it, because we live in a 65-square-meter apartment, and my friend is constantly running around on errands during the day. I had even told him once that if he brought a dog home, I would move out, simply because I knew that at this stage we would not be able to look at him like an animal. I love dogs (don't let anyone think I hate them) even as a child I wanted to have a Dalmatian, but my parents wouldn't let me. I had cats, fish, hamsters. I am 25 years old. and I am currently unemployed, my friend receives different incomes every month, but I cannot say that we are on the brink of poverty. I have saved some money and I join the accounts from time to time. I deviated from the topic ....
So, a few weeks ago we went to the municipal shelter which is close to the place where we live to walk the residents there and I liked a female dog. It turned out that he is about 2-3 years old, but I can't determine his breed and he is as big as a Beagle. While I was walking her, she behaved decently, she didn't pull on the leash, she only got excited when she was taken out of the cage. It seemed like a good animal to me. When we got home, the idea arose that we could adopt her. The next week we went to the shelter again and questioned the employee there.
The dog is dewormed, vaccinated and neutered. In addition, no tax is paid if you adopt an animal from a shelter, which is great for us, it saves us a little money. I don't know how I got excited about taking the dog and because I'm the type of person that I like to be informed when I start doing something, either I do it like people and qualitatively, or I don't start it at all! The very next day, I spent the whole afternoon reading and watching videos on YouTube about what it takes for a dog - starting with good food, a leash, bowls, toys, hygiene products, basic commands that need to be learned, not as my friend shouted to their dogs as he walked, "Give me a paw!" First learn the basics: Stop, Come, Sit, Run, etc.!
And the problem arises right here! My friend doesn't seem to care! When I told him that we should buy him dog food before we took him, he replied: "What food will we give him from OURS, from the table, whatever is left!" And every dog owner knows that this is not recommended, because human food has a lot of salt, spices, sugars, and what not and in the future will adversely affect the animal and bring him health problems.
For toys, he said, "We'll give him a stress ball!" And she, who is unfamiliar, is made of something like foam, which from the first bite will remain in the dog's mouth and can be eaten, for example! It is no coincidence that there are specially created toys for dogs for God's sake! I sent him an article "10 basic mistakes in feeding dogs" and he read only the bold font in the article (and the important thing is its basis). I am very angry because, from my point of view, he is really super frivolous, and I want to give the dog better living conditions, with better food than the one in the shelter, (to make us happy for a long time and not to requires us to go to the doctors because of the junk food of euros 1 each, with a bed especially for him (cheap foam for euros 7-8, and not as he suggests "Bed? We'll throw him a few towels!"), taking care of his appearance (at least once a month to take him to groom, for example), etc. and he almost does not want to just eyes to this dog is watching him and from time to time he is walking and he will only be watched! The dog is a huge responsibility and I just want the animal to be happy, not to cost him his life, because we are too lazy to read how it is CORRECT to look after a dog, given that the Internet is full of information! He said that he had looked after 2 dogs and that it was not certain that we would get along with what we adopted => he was ready to return him to the shelter if we didn't like each other, which is not right for me.
I'm also starting to think that over time, when we have a baby, there will also be friction about raising him, feeding him and whatnot, because if you haven't guessed by now, I have made a folder in the computer and I am informed about everything related to pregnancy, motherhood, conscious parenting, breastfeeding, raising a child of 1-2-3 years. I really like things to be neat and done in a quality and right way, is that bad? Thanks to everyone who has come to this line, but I want to know, do I demand a lot, and do I take everything too seriously or? What would you do in my case? F, 25 and I look at everything too seriously or? What would you do in my case?
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You are right that when you take responsibility for something, you must make an effort, but first, there is a difference from looking to looking, second, looking after a dog has nothing to do with looking after a child. It is one thing to want regular grooming for a dog from a shelter, it is quite another to want something luxurious for the child. He looked after your friend's dogs, but without taking them to the vet and providing them with luxury, and grooming is a luxury. The problem, as you can guess, is that you are too clinging to the extremes or all or nothing, but you have to find that things cannot happen so that there is a middle ground. Improving a dog's life is a good thing, but you go to illogical extremes, go grooming regularly and look for expensive food for a purebred dog that competes for beauty awards and lives with the rich in a mansion ok, but to be an average statistical person who lives in a 60 square meter dog to be a breed of "street superb" sounds illogical to ask your friend for luxury for the dog. The other thing I don't think you understand is that for a dog, even if it's the most purebred, it doesn't matter if his bed is made of towels or bought just for a dog, whether his bowl will be a dog's or just a bowl and believe me it's a dog. whether it bites an old slipper or a dog toy, and expensive food does not guarantee that it will not get sick. Just as every baby does not care how much the stroller costs, the child will grow in height and kg in the same way, regardless of whether his water bottle is expensive for a famous brand of baby products or a glass bottle of soft drink with a pacifier. . The baby will grow up without any of the baby products in the stores except for quality food. That is, only the food must be of good quality, everything else that is bought is vanity and convenience to the parent. The difference between a dog and a child is that you do not have to provide the dog with quality food, it is good, but not mandatory, but it is mandatory for the baby.
You get too obsessed, things don't have to be perfect to go.
Temerut is your friend. Of course, it must be read first. You are not for a dog. It is a great commitment and responsibility. And at 25 it is good to work and think about children. Because this is the age for children. And not after 30, 40 where the chances without medical intervention decrease.
you have become obsessed with the idea of this dog. you don't have to read that much, it's not nuclear physics after all, it's a dog :-) it's enough to take it to the vet, vaccinate and deworm it. it can also eat from your food, you don't have to spend that much money, and for the grooming I just laughed :-))) leave the ads, it's all business. and you don't work, just your friend, you want to make a lot of money. better find a job, get on your feet and then think of a child
Bravo was number 3 - iron logic, the dog was a great commitment and responsibility, they were not ready, but look at their children it was time ... These children, right - unlike the dog, are not associated with commitment and responsibility at all ... Author, the costs are for a readable strap and decontamination, if not already done! A bed for a dog is a good idea, but you can actually lay a blanket on the ground - you don't need to incur unnecessary expenses if you are not well financially at the moment. She, the sweetheart, will be happy to just have a home and people to take care of her. Toys also do not need to be bought on the fire, you will always adapt something appropriate, and the animal is not a baby, but is already big. However, your food is a serious feather - the dog eats a lot and giving him your food is an option only from time to time. And canned dogs are not only expensive but also big garbage and chemicals. Learn to cook yourself - the most budget-friendly option is cheap bones or scraps from the butcher's shop and cook them in a large pot with a kilo of rice or oats, for example - so you have food for the dog for two days, but it's time and care ... Just be careful - a dog is not given chicken bones under any circumstances, nor bones small enough to swallow - dogs are not cats, they break and suck the knuckles, swallow them whole and become amazing white for that, best of all a consultation with a veterinarian. Or ask at the shelter how they prepare food wholesale and cheap - they certainly do not invest in luxury cans. Important - potatoes and jam are also not given to a dog and find out from now on who will walk him, when, because these are at least 2 hours a day (morning and evening),
The main costs for a dog are: 1. Vaccines, deworming - about BGN 300 per year costs me, because I do not use stock exchange prices, but go to my vetoes. In principle, it can be arranged for a lower value. 2. I have accepted the need to have some 200-300 BGN aside - in case of an accident, urgent need for veterinary care - they may not be enough, but it is not known at what point it will boil you and it is important to still have something until you find an option. 3. Food - my dog costs about 500-600 BGN per year. He eats pellets, bone-in beef and sometimes some dog treats. It is! Everything else is a luxury that a dog can do without. Will you buy him a dog rope to pull or will you tie an old garment and knock it; whether you buy him a dog ball or wrap something in rags; whether he will sleep in a dog bed or in an armchair - all this! This, however, what dogs need is LOVE! They love you, they don't want to get the same, but they feel best if you love them too. Therefore, I would not recommend you to take a dog with a person who will not give him these emotions. My father, for example, always said he didn't want any more animals, but he adored every one I brought home and was sad every time I found a home. I'm sure he cried for them sometimes. And most loved him and revolved around him, I remember. Let me note that the fact that a person does not like animals or is not interested in modern ways of raising them does not mean that he will neglect his child. There is such a chance, but it is not necessary. A very good friend of mine doesn't like animals at all, but he is a great father. His wife confirms. He is super literate, he knew what was going on at every stage of the pregnancy, and so on. They have a cat because his wife had taken her before they met, but he doesn't like her at all. Just put up with it. Literally. He won't reach out to pet her, he won't think of pouring her food, etc. He just doesn't like animals that much.
From the author: Thank you all for the answers. I don't know why there are any people left with the impression that I will make a "mass expense" for the dog, that I want to feed him super expensive food and take him to grooming regularly. Nothing of the kind. I want his things not to be "out of everything", and his food to be at least middle class. I don't want to feed the animal garbage, just as I try not to eat junk food for myself. Regarding grooming, I wanted to take it after we took it, to see what the procedures are and then to assess with my friend how many of them we can do ourselves. But I think we'll get away with it and we'll just bathe him. Otherwise, when it comes to children, we think about them too :) Of course, I want to get married first and then give birth, but above all, my highest priority is finding a job. It is hard, but I believe that this will soon fall into place. Until №7 Thanks for the info :) I think my friend mainly deals with walks, winter in snow and rain makes it difficult for me to get someone in general, not to mention a dog: D Otherwise, it looks like you own a dog? Tell us a little more about him?
You take things seriously, but that's not a bad thing. You are ready for a dog, but the person next to you is irresponsible and stupid. If you are sure that you love him, keep trying, if not - find another friend - smarter and more responsible. One girl