Hello. I'm a student. At 21. For several months I have been living with a man who is 13 years older than me. He has a child who lives with his mother. The problem is that as always in the beginning everything is great, then only things change a little. He comes nervous from work and gets even more nervous from me at least and starts to blame me for something, refuses to talk to me, in the evening when I want to hug me, refuses "it was so convenient for him", to leave him a little, that he strained at work. If I had stopped doing circuses because he couldn't stand me, I would have left. That was last night. This makes me very sad. It wasn't like that before. I'm not an early riser, but I woke up at 7 this morning. I don't know how to react ... you don't want to see me.
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Girl, take matters into your own hands. There is no point in wasting your best years with someone who obviously doesn't love you. One day, when you turn 25, for example, and start thinking seriously about your own children, you will get angry about why you wasted your years like that. Instead of being sad - explain to him that you are not happy with his behavior, that you can't stand him like that and that if he wants to be with you - he will have to respect you. And one more thing - although I am a man of 30, my personal opinion is that a relationship with such a big difference of people in the 20s and 30s is not promising. So again - do not waste your time.
You are too young to be unhappy in your relationships. Now is not the time to put up with other people's grievances and tolerate rudeness. You don't have a child, you don't have a marriage, nothing really connects you. Of course, you will want him to hug you and talk. He is 34 years old, comfort and peace of mind are important to him, but it's different for you, you want to live and I don't mean parties, but going out, hugs, kisses, conversations, jokes. It's normal, girl, you're fine and you're infinitely right about yourself. You need to feel good about your partner, you need to be happy, expect him to come home, and have a good time together. It is not normal to feel unwanted. Your friend is not guilty, but he has different needs from you. The reason for your arguments is that you do not show enough understanding and do not fit in a way that in which you are both happy. The difference in your ages is such that one will affect the other more. Either you have to grow up very fast, or he has to rejuvenate a little. Great, but you don't compromise here and it weighs you down. You want attention and romance, he wants peace and quiet.
Start hanging out and making plans for a better life.
Once it was convenient for him - you draw him one and who is from where. - Scorpio.
He smells like another woman here. The man behaves ugly because he wonders how to get rid of you, but he doesn't feel like telling you directly and with his bad behavior he hopes you will leave.
Don't tell her to separate from him, it doesn't make sense. Let her existence show that stupid actions have consequences. "He's disgusting," "he's one-of-a-kind," all definitions of the 34-year-old jerk apparently using her. No one thinks whose bird's brain a 21-year-old is dealing with a man who is "only" 13 years older than her, probably divorced and with a child to whom he almost certainly pays alimony. The motivation for this relationship? She asks for sponsorship because she doesn't like dorms? She is seduced by the superficial charm of this type, even though she knows he will get away from her sooner and has a debt to his ex-family? Are the 23-25 men missing? Gerontophilia? The third is not true, the last is unlikely. Let's even assume she's not so desperate as to ask him for accommodation. The second remains. So, 21 is not only the number of her years, but also the number of living brain cells. If Ivancho and Mariyka like to eat pastels, logic and advice will not save them. Let them hang out with the bald uncle, one day the pressure cooker will heat up.
Be patient!
This one is not for you at all, get away from it.