My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year, she has been living with me for as long. The situation required him to be more precise: he ran away from his ex because he was harassing her, she cheated on him with me, he understood and it became scary. I understand that an individual like him can hardly be forgotten, but to call me by his name bothered me a little. I watched her in the evening and somehow, I don't know, I obviously pushed her harder. She pushed me away and called me by her ex's name. He was quite embarrassed, upset, it was a bad situation. I didn't make scandals, I even calmed her down all night and we talked, but she didn't tell me why she called me that. He doesn't have any connection with that guy, it's weird that it just happens ... and it's not very pleasant. I don't know if there's any reason to worry after being separated for so long. Are there any feelings for him, I don't know why it happened. I may take it too seriously, it may not have happened that much, but it worries me personally. She won't tell me anything, I asked her directly once, but she gets nervous and doesn't tell me anything. It's weird, I don't want to press her and act like a maniac, but I don't think the incident is to be underestimated.
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Surely with your behavior? reminded him subconsciously. My mother-in-law, for example, often calls my husband by her grandson's name because she gave birth over the age of 40 and both (son and grandson) have a similar lifestyle, age, behavior and so on ... I think these are subconscious processes. Your friend is sorry about this, another time she will think before she speaks. Calm down - no feelings for him, but don't be a group to her anymore ...
Coincidentally, the human brain sometimes makes such jokes. Precisely because it happened completely unintentionally, she was upset. Don't bother about such nonsense. It happened to me once with my friend. While we were talking involuntarily, I don't know how, I dropped out and turned to him as I had told my previous serious boyfriend. And I didn't miss my ex, nor did I think about him. Even I had ended this relationship long before this incident ... but that's another topic. And then when that happened, I was very much in love with my current boyfriend ... and everything between us was great. So don't bother and talk about this anymore. Haven't you ever been confused without knowing why to call someone by another name?
hmm .. :) .. Maybe because you pressed her harder and she, because she is not used to you doing it and only one person is normal, don't worry .. I'm the same, my ex-boyfriend bothered me a lot, we are already separated but at for example, a situation that reminds me of something bad that he did to me and someone else did it to me, I call him by his name .. You have nothing to worry about .. :)
And to want him still, that's not what she said his name, in my opinion. It has happened to me to call my ex by the name of my ex. But I just don't know how it happened, I didn't think about it at all! My friend at the time was startled, but believe me, I was no less startled than he was. Also (this is already quite rude) my husband called me by the name of his ex (with whom they were separated a long time ago) the day after our wedding. So, we sat down for coffee and she just called me by her name. I, who is quite conservative and jealous, got angry at first, got angry that the very day after the wedding he called me that, but a little later I realized that mistakes are really made and I stopped paying attention to what happened. . I advise you to do the same.
You also reminded him with your attitude about him. If you have a relationship with a girl who is sensitive to a topic, you need to be careful. Show that you understand it, and most importantly - do not touch on the sick topic and do not mention the other type. Try to be happy with you and do not make the mistakes of the other person who harassed her. You did a very good job of not raising a scandal, you sound like a reasonable and understanding person, she is lucky to have your support.
Oh, that doesn't mean anything, believe me. It has happened to me: - to call the cat by the name of my daughter - to call my husband by the name of my sister !!! :) - my grandmother called me by my uncle's name! - and countless other less striking cases. Your friend didn't make any analogy, it's just sealed in her mind and it takes time to erase it.
It is more than clear that she has not forgotten him, but if you like being with her, under another name, fine ..
Number 6, so cheered me up ....
Number 6 - we are talking about completely different things;)