Hello. I have a problem and I hope people with more experience and knowledge will answer my questions. For a month now, I've been dating a 35-year-old man who claims to adore me. I have no doubt about that. We fell in love a few months before we started seeing each other. We meet outside, in restaurants. He hugs me and kisses me a lot. He claims that he loves me and I am very attracted to him. He has always been very passionate about me and has driven me crazy with tenderness. The problem, however, is that every time I inadvertently put my hand on his pants, there is nothing there .... Once I asked him a specific question and he said that only kisses did not work for him, he is not 20 years old. It needed more. I asked him if I was the problem and maybe I wasn't physically attracted to him. However, he was adamant and said that if I did not attract him, there was no other. It just wasn't that easy for him in general. And that he hasn't had an erection with me so far, but that doesn't mean I don't attract him and that it won't happen when the time comes. I'm worried he's not impotent and doesn't admit it. He said he wanted us to have sex a lot, he even had a dream, but so far he has not found the time and place. It is true that we are both busy and quite a lot, but if there is a desire, he will always find where and when. At first I was glad that I finally met a man who would not harass me for sex from the second date, but now I began to worry about the opposite .... My specific questions are whether it is normal for a 35-year-old man not to receive an erection from a woman who loves and attracts him, just from kissing her And does that mean she'll get it if they're in a quiet place and she "tries" harder? Could it be that he has not had sexual intercourse with a woman for more than a year, or is it that
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In my opinion, the problem is that you like it too much, I've heard that men have such a kind of complex to see in the beloved woman a small part of the filth in her, but everything will be clear if you stay alone and in an intimate setting then no how not to get an erection right? Don't bother unnecessarily :) Just find the time and place. Good luck.
Abe, let him drink a little more and wait for him to get up, or if he does, he will fall while he puts it in. I say this from experience with a person who drank every day, supposedly normal. Alcohol increases desire, but kills opportunities. I hope I'm wrong ...
To number 2: Oh, pieces, as long as you talked nonsense! He didn't like alcohol! Come to bed with me to see if alcohol works ?! And as for the author - do not worry, it will be fine, but you should have sex!
Hey, women have no pleasure! :) But it's really disturbing that you've been together for a few months and not having sex ...
In my opinion, the problem is serious. First, who will be waiting for you for a few months, if the boy is literate, if you have had sex so far, and not once. Considering that the weather is warm, the problem of where and when disappears :)))) Get him somewhere and take the initiative, otherwise you can take a nap until the Second Coming. And the more the man procrastinates, the greater his fears become, and from there the problem deepens. For healthy men and from one - the only kiss they get, I say it from personal experience.
Calmly, I have a friend who is 34 and it happened to him that it didn't happen to him at times, but that didn't stop me from loving him. And when we really decide to do it right, it doesn't happen from a kiss, but we do it very well together. There is a little understanding, there may be an emotional problem or it may be temporary. Calm down, if you really love each other, this is not a problem when the time comes, you will do it. :)
The author: To number 6: Yes, but he said that he had never been able to do it with me before ... And that, in principle, kissing only with no one will happen to him. We have been going out for 1 month and we have had about 6-7 meetings alone outside, and before that we only saw each other at the trainings, now also, but we are there with other people.
Don't worry, I was the same case in my youth. This is because he did not have intimate contacts with women, ie. he didn't have sex. I had kissed a lot, but that was not enough. Later I got a little aroused and now I have two big children. Try without shame once or twice and he should relax without straining his nervous system. He's just embarrassed that's why. Two or three months passed for me and then I calmed down and had sex. If there is a desire, there will be no way, and now there are doctors who help, there is no shame in that. There is a mental barrier that needs to be removed.
Author: Number 8, had sex, was 35, had other relationships. He simply had not had intimate contact with a woman for more than a year.
I was with a 30-year-old man. and it couldn't happen to him the reason wasn't in me because there's no way I can't arouse him because he was a little ugly but with him I think the problem was that he didn't have sex for a long time he also drinks alcohol and maybe uses drugs that exactly on A drug addict has an appearance, but mostly because he doesn't have sex, because my husband and I have sex every day, even twice a day, and he only gets close to me when he approaches me.
Up to 10 - And my ex-boyfriend got up as soon as he approached me ... Eh, where are these men now :(
Well, explain, at least one night, did you sleep together without clothes, so we can give real advice ..
Find a man!
The author until 12: No, we haven't slept together yet, neither with clothes, nor without .....
Give him a blowjob!
The author to 15: I would gladly do it for him, but I did not have the opportunity :))))))))))))
To 11: You don't know where to look! Now to the author: If he hasn't been with a woman for 1 year, then he's being killed by checks! If when you see each other he has already made 2, how do you want it to happen to him?
He's cheating on you. It has to happen to him, the man has a problem! Leave it, don't deal with it ...
As far as I understand, see you recently. Wait for the person to recover. He may have more serious intentions towards you and need time to decide. If you're super cool, you must be worried. Some men are worried about meeting beautiful and experienced women. Usually we women think that men are without restraint, but this does not seem to be the case. Who is the stronger sex ...?
Hello! The same thing happened to me. The symptoms are clear to me and so are the signs. In my opinion, you should end your relationship with him as delicately as possible as soon as possible! Because if the problem is what I think it is the most sensible action for you! You write that you did not feel anything in his pants. This is because he probably has Micropenis. Save your view! It will be imprinted in your mind for a lifetime. It's not his fault. This is an anomaly! Terminate your relationship with him so you don't regret it later. Just run your hand over his crotch and look at him. He will sweat and look at you as if you want to cut him!
I would ask why he hasn't had sex in a year. Without medical advice it is difficult to assess. I think the problem is serious.
Author: It's not about a micropenis or any such nonsense. We talked and he said that he fell in love too fast and too hard and didn't know what was going on, but he couldn't relax. Please help me ... We both love each other. I'm desperate ..... I don't want to part because of this.
Can you give me an e-mail where I can answer you? I wouldn't want everyone to read it.
Until 23: [email protected]
I am a man and I have had the same problem, I am married, I have sex with my wife regularly, BUT when I am with another until I get used to it, I can't. Give him time once you do it everything will be fine when you are together and go to bed let him sleep. Things will get better.
I had a similar problem with my friend at first, the previous one had crushed him like a man - I have no words. He was very emotional and sensitive to a man. Before we had sex we talked and I told him that even if he can't, he has a tongue, he has hands, he has vibrators ... the first few times it wasn't good, then things started to work, he started to relax, not to think about the problem. Now we have a lot of different sex, he let his imagination run wild :). So my advice is to talk, do not ask him why it does not work for you, but try, otherwise you will never understand what awaits you. And give him a chance and time, then make cardinal decisions.
Thank you 26. The problem is that he does not share anything. And another problem is that he thinks he's not worthy of me. I was much more beautiful, and so on. I'll wait, I don't want to push him away.
The author to 26: Darling, I just talked to him and asked him only one question, which he had to answer only with yes or no. My question was if he had ever had an unpleasant sex experience, something humiliating, something that hurt him, or anything like that. The answer was yes. So it's obviously your problem. Thank you for the advice.
Hello, I am a boy, I have the following problem ... I have a girlfriend ... we go to do something and it happens and then it falls, I worry about her if this is the problem and how to avoid it PLEASE TELL ME. I know I have to stop worrying, other tips ... thank you in advance.
Hello, I also want to share something from me, two years ago I had a relationship with a boy, we were together for two years, we had no sex! There is something else that we do not live in the same city and for these two years we have seen 3 -4 times a month, we had only made one attempt, but it didn't work out otherwise everything in our relationship was perfect! After him I have been in a relationship with another boy for 2 years, sex is scary, we are very cool! From time to time I see my ex, I'm very nice to him but we don't have sex! Two days ago we tried again, two nights in a row, both evenings happen in seconds and then it drops, without asking him he said that he is very worried about me and that there is no problem with others! He said he didn't care about me for that. I can't understand why, everything else is fine, we're very much in love, we're very nice and we've never had any problems,
Oh, I have a similar problem. Every time I try for intimacy, the man runs away like a sting and invents something to justify himself. According to the problem, it is either sexual, either because of the size of the penis, an erection problem or a problem with sexual orientation ...... Horror, I am just angry that I am in love with a man with similar problems, at least to say what is wrong with him okay, because that's the only way I feel guilty.
The bad thing is that he may be gay and try to be normal, because normal men get it from women they like, especially if they get used to it, and how can he not get kissed?
From the Author to everyone: The problem is almost solved, it was on a mental basis because of a bitch who humiliated him in bed and did not get up. Then he and I were afraid of abandoning him, but when he calmed down and the sex started. There is still something to be desired, but at least the erection is there, and before it was not there. He is not gay - I am categorical. Most of these problems in men are mental. Up to number 30 - and with him it is on a mental basis. When a man cares a lot about a woman, he worries and then the erection suffers ....
Real sex is done with the brain!
I am the author again. To say to anyone who has a similar problem, once you make sure it is not physiological, you need to be patient. Women need to be patient with the man and make him relax. This problem occurs in more sensitive men. Sometimes it takes months and years, but in any case things stabilize. With us now everything is perfect.
Well, yes, that's right ... but if you hate the girl next to you, it won't happen again ...
Let's hope it happens
Hello. I have a similar problem and I don't know how to deal with it. I recently started dating a boy and everything was great until I got to bed. We tried three times and he still doesn't succeed. I like it very much and I don't want it to end so quickly. And I have the feeling that he is already starting to pull away from me. Before, it was constantly reaping for me now. Please give advice!
Everything will fall into place due to me :)
I have a similar problem, we have known each other for more than a year, we are colleagues, we have been out several times, we both want each other terribly, we hear each other 5-6 times a day, considering that he is married, he claims that I am terribly attracted to him. he wants, which I have no doubt, he is even madly in love with me, but when it comes to bed it has happened 3 times already, it just doesn't work, even French love doesn't help ... I don't understand where the problem is, both we are struggling, he claims that he has never had such a problem before and that he has never cheated on his wife before, is that the problem ??? Please give me advice men, I have never had such a problem before !?
To 42: Certainly this is the problem maybe when it comes almost to sex and obviously thinks about his wife and knows that he is doing something wrong and mentally it stops him as a man at least I think so :) and it probably is :) mine advice is as much as you like yourself if he is married don't bother he will hurt you unwillingly. And this will be because he has to choose between family and just an insecure relationship :) You know him, I just think so :)
Hello :) I want you to give me a piece of advice. My case is this: I am a man of 28 years, but for this age I am not experienced enough in sex and at the moment I love a woman she is my friend (not intimate). However, I don't know if she won't back down if I tell her she's attracted to me. The problem is that I don't know how to tell her that I want to have sex and won't we ruin our friendship because of it? If you can give me some advice I will listen to it :). The advice would be good to be something like a sentence quote :) in the sense of the words themselves what can I say to her? Should I just tell her or with a twist? Thanks in advance :)
To 44 Learn to know the state of women's psychology Give yourself a clear assessment of what women want. Imagine the man you want to conquer, not as a friend, but as a woman with all her extras and innate whims. Sharpen your tongue. Clear your mind. Understand one very important thing - IMPROVISATION. Try to look at things from her angle! When you take it off, you should feel pleasure, not worry. You sting and pull - the pause is very important to provoke her imagination. Then you sting again and pull again. You have to fly who you enchant. Makes lightning fast and quick judgments. Be specific and clear enough and at the same time a little unspoken. Don't be empty-handed, because if she plays you, in addition to not understanding the size of her slings, you will lose your friendship. Don't say you want to have sex with her. Women are not so dumb as not to feel our aspirations. Take her out to dinner and show your other self. If she is kind to you, she will show it. If not ... you go to masturbation. There are many women :) :) :) paradoxically
Hi, I'm a 15 year old boy. I want to ask you something. When I'm with my friends and we see some cool chicks and they always say "ohh it's up to me" and I can't do it at all .. Or when I look at pictures of cool chicks and see for example one with thongs I can't do it again .. And when I started to touch him, I crushed him, I even hit my cheek, I ejaculated, however .. I'm sorry that I can't take pictures of myself on photos .. PS: I haven't had a serious boyfriend until now or even at all I haven't kissed a girl. Is this normal? I started to worry about something.
My problem is similar - I've been dating him for more than a year, with a break of a few months ... We've had sex twice during that time, once before the break and the second time recently. Both times ended very quickly. Immediately the meetings were diluted, postponed, and when we see each other - he flatly refuses to have sex, for no logical reason! I don't know what to do ... Here we had to see each other today - some work came up! I try to be tactful, understanding, but I'm starting to wonder if the problem is not in me ...