Hello. I have a friend with whom we have been together for a year. I am from Varna and he is from Sofia, I recently moved to him in Sofia. Things were going very well until he cheated on me. He hadn't been home all night a few days ago, and the morning he came he admitted to me that a woman at a club had kissed him tonight. I packed my bags and left, I don't know what to do. He keeps calling me and asking me to come back to him. Please give me some advice, should I go back to him or not?
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In general, the guy is obviously correct, once he told you, he was sick. I would not say that this is infidelity.
Once he has done it, he will do it again. I tell you from personal experience, but it can be up to a person.
Once it happens, it will happen again. Run in time, that you will only suffer more.
Some woman kissed him, he comes and confesses to you, and you dump him! You show low self-esteem! All you had to do was laugh and ask him, "Did you like it?" If he had taken her down and dragged her to a hotel or to his car or to the toilet, I would have told you to run away with 200. But someone kissed him ... Yes, he wasn't a flower and he gave her a reason to did, but that's all that's left. Now go back to him if you love him! And tell him it's showy - if it happens again, let him know what to expect. If you do not love him - you have found a reason to leave. We are women, in addition to being impulsive, we must also be smart.
And what kind of work does he have there, if I was on it, I would be at home in front of the TV, I don't have to go somewhere to spend money! This shows if you give birth, what kind of father he will be and whether you will stay together at all when the baby appears! Take conversations with him about these things - a future husband does not go to clubs and spend a lot of money overnight, but stays with them and presses his rags! Well, if he tells you that he wants to get on the train and go somewhere for tourism, you'll probably let him go, and he won't spend a lot of money except for tickets - to go for 24 hours, and the rest of the time he'll sleep on the train. , so what? Just talk to him if he is ready for a father and if he will change for the better!
No. Go away. Not you. your doormat
So what if she kissed him? Go back to him, of course. You love him, don't you? Even if he had sex with the other one, isn't he coming back to you and wanting you? He even confessed to you what happened. He has neither wings nor anything. He didn't have a child with her, nor did he want to start a family with her. It was just sex. When a man cheats, there are no problems because he only gives genetic material to the mistress. While if a woman cheats, she brings another child into the family, which is much worse. That is why in many countries the laws for adulterous women are much stricter than those for adulterous men.
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Everyone makes mistakes! Forgive me once, if it happens again then you can leave it ...
HAH, it wouldn't be just a kiss :) You're very naive, if you think it was just a kiss, he had the courage to admit it to you;) And it's normal to live with someone and have fun with him, it's a little weird to go and look at your life and you sit at home. You better find someone who will go to discos with you and kiss you outside;)
Of course, if you get up it will never be the same. To have thought in time.
Someone kissed him, he told you and you are already breaking up the relationship !! Are you still in kindergarten? So how far will you get if you ruin a whole relationship? So the next and the next, until there are no people left on Earth. The problem is in you, think seriously!
From number 8: Do you disagree with me? Well check. In most societies, adultery committed by the wife is illegal and severely punished, while infidelity is tolerated or lightly punished. Until the 19th century, it was possible in England to file a civil lawsuit against the offended spouse for "criminal conversations." Even the inhabitants of Trobrian Island, praised by Bronislaw Malinowski in 1927 as sexually liberated people, punished women who committed adultery with death. It is generally accepted that this double standard is a typical example of society's prejudice and nothing more. But the laws for other crimes are not like that. Women have never been punished more severely than men for theft or murder. The reason for this difference in the severity of the offense depending on whether she is cheating on the man or woman is exactly as I said in my comment above: The law does not punish adultery as such, but only the possible introduction of foreign children into the family and even the insecurity that infidelity brings this attitude. Infidelity on the part of the husband does not lead to such consequences. Angel Clare from Thomas Hardy's novel "Tess of the D'Uberville Family" confesses to his new wife Tess before his first wedding night that he sailed before marriage. Then, reassured, she tells him about her own seduction by Alec D'Uberville. She thinks their transgressions are equivalent. Here's a quote directly from the book and see what happens at the end: "- Forgive me as I forgive you, Angel! I forgive you. - You - yes, you forgive me. "Aren't you forgiving me?" "Oh, Tess, this can't be forgiveness." You were one, now you are another. My God, what forgiveness can there be for such tricks? Claire left her that night. "
Look now - on the one hand he shared with you and now he asks you to come back. Everyone makes mistakes. I believe in the second chance, but only in the second, not in the third, etc. On the other hand - you soon moved to him from another city, and he goes alone to nightclubs, does not go home all night and so on. "out of nowhere" a woman kisses him? What the fuck? !? !? And did the situation end with just the kiss? The decision is yours. Heads up - life is wonderful! :) Ж30
Come back! Talk, he confessed to you, so he's a man of the place. Everyone is wrong. G., 34 years old
Are you normal, if only you had left. First, there is no infidelity here. Second, she robbed him. And third, there are few men who will talk about what happened, which means that the guy is super decent and honest. Author, go back to him without even thinking about it. What a trifle. And those who advise the opposite just envy your decent friend. I'm sure some will splash me now, but that's my advice. Such men are almost non-existent.
The problem in this case is not for an unsolicited kiss, but that he was somewhere all night (maybe a club). And this person in a relationship ... doesn't anyone see a problem in that? it seems that the author has not talked to her friend about the type of relationship they expect. Whether just to live together in a dormitory, and each to spend the nights separately in clubs, or a serious relationship with a proper relationship.
Come on, please. If it was the other way around and she was a woman in his place, you would all say, "She just didn't back down; what did she do to be kissed; who knows what she told him," so ask yourself the same questions.
23 the author nowhere mentions his reaction ... she says that she kissed him, not that they kissed.
She kissed him ... not he kissed her ... he probably backed away after that, he doesn't make the fly an elephant.