Hello! I will drive it briefly, although the story is long. My boyfriend and I have been together since the beginning of the year. We are from different cities, but we have known each other for many years because I have relatives in his city. We rarely saw each other, then we lived together for 3 months and everything was great, but he went abroad. After 4 months he returned, but to his city. I'm still in mine because I'm working right now and I'm waiting to make my money for the semester and the bills for January and I'm leaving. We plan to go to him soon. I had a birthday 2 weeks ago. For the holiday I went to see him because my mother is here at home and he doesn't want him to come, and to save our nerves I went. We met for the first time in 4 months. The holiday did not pass much, because I arrived in the evening and I was tired because I had not rested for 16 days. He asks me what I want to do - whether to be home or go out to eat. I chose the 1st one because I was very tired. We ate at home, talked and went to bed even early before 00:00. Last night my friend was at a banquet with his former colleagues. There was a woman who was his friend and colleague, to whom he had a lot of sympathy, but she was married. There was a little mess at the beginning of our relationship because of her, but he assures me that only I am interested.
I looked at photos on Facebook, there were with her, of course. I reacted sharply and stupidly, I was jealous, because I just feel this woman as a threat. After the disco, he called me at 5 in the morning to talk a little and tell me I was acting stupid. I agree with that. But it was about my birthday, when I didn't even get a flower and I was offended. He took up the subject himself and shared, that he thought when we went out to propose marriage to me because he wanted to live his life with me. If I didn't believe I could ask his best friend, who was there too, but I didn't. Today I asked him if what he told me last night was true. And the answer was, "Well, yes, I had such an idea and I really want it, but it wasn't the moment, I ruined the moment." And to add that no ring was bought. In the end, it was just his thoughts that he got so that everything was planned, and I ruined it by wanting to go home, and he asked me what I preferred, and I chose home. And even if we had gone out - there would be no ring. Honestly, I've never thought about it because we've been together recently. I love him, I know he loves me too. It can be seen in his eyes. Almost every woman dreams of marrying a man, whom he loves. Me too. But I just didn't think it would be soon, and when he told me that on the phone, I realized that he really wanted to be with me, and that it was stupid to be jealous of other people who obviously weren't. factor already in his life. And when I asked him soberly - is this true, I turned him around. They have never insulted me in my life.
I had other friends, but this is the only person I loved and I want to be with him in the future. But it just blackened me. He told me "I shouldn't have just told you, I'm sorry" after I told him how much he hurt me. Whatever I've done, I don't deserve to be misled into such a serious matter. I feel shattered. See you on December 24 for 2 days. I don't know how to react. Please calm me down. Give me good advice. I'm green, I have no experience in life, only 22 years old. I am, but I dream of having a family. He is 30 years old. This pain does not subside, I feel like garbage. I must be wrong - tell me where. Am I allowed to be angry? Expectations have taken root in me, it hurts terribly. This is a mockery in my eyes.
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Wait a minute, wait now ... You are 22 years old and you regret the "failed" proposal of your frivolous friend? Don't, it doesn't make sense. That's not how it's done ... And from all this, I only understood some stupid incitement to frivolous arguments. He is 30 and behaves like that? He just guessed he was going to offer you? !! Please rethink things, don't just focus on the proposal, think logically and maybe you will understand that you will probably not be with this person soon ....
Have you ever thought that this one is talking to you, but complete nonsense? Tomorrow he will tell you that he will take your car, for example. Then it turns out he didn't take your car because you sneezed. And don't you think his best friends will tell you the truth? They are his friends, not yours. You let yourself be manipulated, nothing more. Baba Torbalana
Nonsense. My very close friends got engaged after a violent scandal. Probably the most serious in their relationship. The boy had long wanted to propose to her and was raising money for a ring, we all knew that. He offered it to her without a ring, only with speech and worries the same day they had quarreled. He told her he didn't want to lose her, so he wouldn't wait any longer. He didn't explain it to his friends like that, probably to make him look harder. At school, I kept lying that I was with my girlfriend when she was with her boyfriend. Friends do such things. We are much more mature, but even if he calls me today and tells me that we are together at home, I will confirm that it is so and I will not ask. He must have said that about the proposal in his anger in order to hurt you. Feeling guilty that you stayed home and didn't go out. Feeling bad about having a fit of jealousy. To think that you are bad and you ruin everything. There is no way to ruin anything when your partner loves you sincerely, you are faithful and you have no doubt that you want to be together for a long time. Tomorrow he will tell you that he was going to organize a romantic weekend in a hotel, but he didn't do it because you said you didn't like cats. And I don't think a man who really wants to make a romantic proposal will sing everything in a fit of anger. That's how it will spoil the surprise. in a fit of rage he will sing everything. That's how it will spoil the surprise. in a fit of rage he will sing everything. That's how it will spoil the surprise.
So, I don't want to be critical, but a 1 year relationship - what do you expect? 1 - To offer you a romantic 2- To tell you that he wants a child from you / To end up in you with a purpose. 3 - To behave as property with you. 4 - Everything should be flowers and roses. People experience different emotions - drunk, upset, sensitive ... Do not be angry with him, nor blame him - do not be selfish.
"" I shouldn't have just told you, I'm sorry, "and only after I told him how much he hurt me." Well, he told you the truth, why don't you accept it. I want to have a Mercedes too, but there is no one to give it to me. You don't know him yet, but you dream of a ring !? Get to know him first and then trust him. If you have already given him what he wants, do not wait for retribution from one, he just used you.
Girl, get out of here. You are really too green, and he is behaving inappropriately for this age. Imagine how he would manipulate you as a husband.
I am in almost the same situation. I'm a man of 39 and we look a lot like your boyfriend. First, that remote connection cannot be any connection. He went abroad for 4 months and returned to them. If I had feelings for a woman, I would like to see her first. But he would not offer? !! You either want and act or you don't. I started working in one place 17 years ago. Everything was going well. Until 3-4 months after the start "SHE" did not appear! The daughters of the bosses. It wasn't much of a charm. Her father spoke quite insultingly and contemptuously, and her mother tried not to take sides. So the daughter had quite unbridled behavior years ago and ran away to the shop. She got married there once. She gave birth to a girl. Then she divorced for another. Then she gave birth to a boy. Finally, she fled to her hometown with only the 4-year-old girl. And he appears around me, his mother and father with someone else. Frequent visits began and from there I sank into it. He was constantly around me, either for advice or for company. Years passed like that. I was hoping we could get closer, but at one point a new person appeared next to her. With money. With apartment. With a fairly stable income. It doesn't matter that he is 12 years older than her and looks like an amoeba. It crushed me. I was trying to start new relationships to forget her. It had no effect. And to this day she does not stop consulting me. To offer help. Until I decided I had to hate her to start my family. At 33, I met a person with whom we matched within 10-11 months of the relationship. And I told her directly that I didn't want to waste our time dating. Either we hold on tightly to each other or goodbye. My dream was to have a child to love with all my soul. And TV agreed. Until she realized she was pregnant and everything turned upside down. To hurry to forget that beauty. Don't get too old to have a child. I strung myself on a beach umbrella that was opened from behind! You are not too big or too old for a new relationship. But this man does not stand firmly on the ground behind his words and actions. Ask him directly in the eye how he thinks this relationship of yours can continue. But this man does not stand firmly on the ground behind his words and actions. Ask him directly in the eye how he thinks this relationship of yours can continue. But this man does not stand firmly on the ground behind his words and actions. Ask him directly in the eye how he thinks this relationship of yours can continue.
It seems super frivolous to me for a 30 year old.
And I define it as not serious. And if we hadn't seen each other for 4 months, I would have spent the whole night with former colleagues, and I would want to be with you. And another thing, I guess you worked 16 days without a break, so that you could take 2-4 days off and be together. And if he still offers you marriage, you better refuse, first you don't know each other well enough, and second, you don't know when you graduate from university if you won't think differently.