Hello, I have a friend who is 30 years old and I am 23 ... We have been together for almost 3 years, but unfortunately not in the full sense of the word.
I study in another city and we see each other for 3-4 days a week, and when I'm with him we have almost nowhere to stay alone. He lives with his parents, so do I. When I come home for 3 days, for example, I want to make up for the lost time and I think this should make us want more, but he obviously does not accept sex as the most important thing. We can see each other mostly in the evening and when we are alone, which is rare, he falls asleep very early, and he doesn't even work at the moment.
I talked to him about this topic and he understood me, but when we are alone he tells me to do it, that then I will fall asleep, which sounds like an obligation to me. I did it with my ex 4-5 times a day, but I don't want that from him, but a little more than 3 times a month ... There is always a way if there is a desire.
Yesterday I asked him why for 3 years we never did it more than once a day and he said well we will do it and when he came to us we did it once and he said nothing more and I had a desire I asked him and he didn't even he could finish and started accusing me of being worried because he had problems, why I spurred him on and so on. I don't know what to do, because he is kind and good, they are rare but that weighs on me