Some time ago it happened that my best friend and I found out that there was chemistry between us. An attraction that I can't describe ... We decided that in order not to spoil our friendship we would be friends with privileges ... Things deepened and we started a relationship. This relationship lasted a little and we quarreled very fiercely we did not talk for a while and I tried to fix things by getting along, but without getting together. So we got along, but he kissed me and now we are back in this situation with friends with privileges. He does not want to bond with me, although for me it is a hidden relationship.
We are jealous of each other, we are angry and neither he nor I see other people, but he just doesn't want us to be together. He loves me - he tells me it all the time and proves it to me, that's not the problem. Every time he tells me that ours is special and he doesn't want us to ruin it with some relationship that will last a short time and we won't look at each other again. What to do? How can I make him want to bond with me?
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Well, there are always passengers on the train. Your man just doesn't. he realizes, and it's time to light him up, telling him you want to be with him from now on. How can he not see it too? Let love be before your eyes and you reject it ...
There is another or she is ashamed of you, there is no other reason!
Either he has another, or his friends don't approve of you, and for some men their opinion matters. Tip: go out with others. If you're jealous, tell him you want a relationship. If he is not ready, someone else will be. By his behavior you will know whether he really cares about you or everything is just words.
There is no other, I am convinced ... I told him that I want to be with him ... He is afraid that we may ruin our friendship and lose me forever
Well, some people just DON'T WANT to commit. Point. Woman, 28 years old
First, tell me why you are not in a serious relationship, you are friends with privileges.
Author, have you ever fallen in love? Do you think you're in love with this boy? If so, you know very well how a person behaves when he truly loves. Then we do everything possible to be with the beloved, we make compromises, sacrifices, we want to be with him constantly, we give him all our time and attention. Apparently your man doesn't behave like that at all, which leads me to think that you misinterpreted his feelings. I can't explain how someone shows you that they love you, but at the same time they don't want to have a relationship with you so as not to "ruin things". What kind of nonsense is this? !! I would be happy to explain to me how to sleep together regularly, does not spoil your friendship, and a relationship will ruin it? These are not fears, but a pure sample of escape from responsibility and squabbling. Because it's easier, more convenient ... but it's all up to one time. I do not advise you to try to make him commit, it will not happen by force, nor does it make sense to play and manipulate. If I were you, I would tell him, "Either you're with me or not," and that's it. You have known each other for a long time, there is nothing to think and think about. By this point, he should already know if he wants you to be the girl next to him or not. If he can't answer you, then the job is clear. If you want, keep harassing, you decide for yourself. But your relationship, as it is now, I think is absolutely doomed to end, and you will be the one who will suffer in the end. there is nothing to think and rethink. By this point, he should already know if he wants you to be the girl next to him or not. If he can't answer you, then the job is clear. If you want, keep harassing, you decide for yourself. But your relationship, as it is now, I think is absolutely doomed to end, and you will be the one who will suffer in the end. there is nothing to think and rethink. By this point, he should already know if he wants you to be the girl next to him or not. If he can't answer you, then the job is clear. If you want, keep harassing, you decide for yourself. But your relationship, as it is now, I think is absolutely doomed to end, and you will be the one who will suffer in the end.
Sometimes we get the best "gift" when we don't get something we wanted. Have you ever thought that this person may not be for you - neither as a friend nor as anything. If he wanted you, he would take you. You have taken some lessons and experience with him and it is time to continue, but without him. Maybe ... F 28
Okay, I'm either dumb or I'm just old-fashioned, but I can't figure out the game. You go out, you have sex, you're jealous, you tell yourself you love each other and that's not a relationship? I am confused.
You're right .. I tried to finish everything many times, but when I say something about it, it immediately starts to "roar" and "shake" not to leave it. He told me he didn't want a relationship so he wouldn't feel indebted to anyone. And how to ask for a connection by giving him everything. The moment he starts to get jealous and angry, I explain myself to him as the biggest fool. It's sad that love has blinded me like that
I'm done with the privileges ... Now we're just good friends. I will try to go out with others and if he doesn't do something about it then I have made the right decision!
This is the tragedy of you women! You cling to those who don't want to commit instead of paying attention to those who agree. The next step is to cling to a child in someone who is sterile or just doesn't want children. You are always wrong, but a crowd of feminists and male haters helpfully explain to you that your mistakes are better than the right decisions of men, because you are Amazon and you can cuckoo yourself, but you will cuckoo better than men.
Number 9 took the words from my mouth ... or rather from the keyboard. Perhaps it will be easier to grasp the author's problem if she first defines the word "relationship." Because for me, this is a pure sample of yours ... Or rather it was, judging by the last comment from the author.
Honestly, ours was this: he introduced me to everyone else as his best friend. We didn't go out kissing often only when we were alone. Our sex is not regular. It happened quite rarely, to my regret, because we could not always be with us or with them. He hasn't been with other girls since we started this "thing" ... I'm starting to think that he's holding me as long as he has a girl, and when the right one shows up, he'll probably dump me without blinking. P. C I can't say that this miracle even looked like a relationship