Hello, I have been married for 5 years, but I have no children. Several times I wanted to, but my husband kept saying we couldn't look after a child, and he stopped. Anyway. Lately, I've only gotten tired of going to work and going home. I decided that I wanted to go to the gym, straighten my hair a little and feel beautiful. But he forbids me to go to any gym. Only the fat went to the gym and invested in their appearance, because they made money from it. Lately, I feel unattractive about everything he imposes on me. I used to be beautiful and everyone was staring at me, but now I'm like a shadow. Does the fact that I want to make up and do my hair make me a light woman? I get depressed just by going to work and I can't even afford to be feminine. I am asking for advice.
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My question is: What else are you doing with this man? I don't want to be rude, but darling, I lived like this for 3 years with such a man .. run, run away while you still don't have children .. Why should you be a shadow, why do you ask if you are a light woman, if you support yourself? He has washed your mind to such an extent that you feel almost a sinner, that you want to have a haircut, etc. Your life with this person will be connected only with such outbursts on his part, I know from personal experience ...
I'm sorry to say that, but sometimes I wonder if Bulgarian women have any brains in their heads at all ... How long are you going to let some rubbish crush you ?? Don't you have any dignity and sense of self-preservation ?? Of course, you will go to the gym and support yourself. What are you asking a drummer can or can't do? Are you Kurds what are you? Do we live here in a Turkish TV series, I can't understand? Once you work, what's the problem? You both make money for him, and he will order you .. Realize it .. And the light should come on for the fact that he refuses to have children. How so married people for 5 years and do not want children? There is something wrong here, dear author - my advice is for such an individual to drop it directly and live in reality. Forgive me for the strong words, but some things need to be said. After all, we do not live in Turkish slavery and communism is long over! SUCCESS!
It's that simple when you look at the situation from the sidelines. And she, the situation, is the following: He has found a wife and thinks that he has arranged his life - now it will be only his and he will look after it, regardless of whether he is supported or not. The trap has clicked. Now he is not happy that you are looking for new experiences, if we can describe going to the gym as such, and he is trying to take you back to his swamp of a calm and unchanging life. I guess you are still young, and he has already become an obsolete uncle and dictator. I would say that it is imperative for a woman to take care of herself. If you don't start paying attention when you are young, when you enter menopause you will gain some weight - one appearance on hand, but health problems? Cosmetics - it is already a matter of vanity, but anti-wrinkle creams after a certain age are mandatory. Take matters into your own hands and don't let any inveterate man decide where to go and what to do. I sounded like a feminist for sure, but anyway :)
Author, do not be one of those who, after receiving a few comments, do not want to hear and disappear. Otherwise, I agree with the previous ones - be aware. I'm not saying to dump him right away, but have a mature conversation with this man and if he doesn't get up, take your luggage - and you're gone. For example, I don't like to put on make-up (I've put on make-up 3 times in my life), but if my husband treats me like that ... He took you for his property, he takes care of your life, he tells you what, how and what why, he doesn't want children (you didn't say how old you are, not that it matters much) and you're rubbing. And it is very likely that there is a mistress (I do not say for sure, but the fact that she does not want children, I do not like something). Maybe he's afraid of "not tying him up," and the little man wants to make a living
You lack self-esteem. What matters is you and what exactly you want, not someone you have admitted to for some reason in your life. As you have allowed him, so you must leave him if he does not understand some things. Who is he that will tell you if you can go to the gym, what to wear, whether to put on make-up or go out at all. If he takes you home and you have a big problem from work - a pure sample of a pathological jealous. You decide whether to be the person through whom he will kill his complexes!
Your husband is a complete egoist, he is afraid that you are something more than him and he kills his complexes on you. Run fast and far!
Get away from this man. What he tells you is not normal. Thank God that you have no children from him, because you can leave without complications, hurting only the one who clearly deserves ... Do not hurt yourself or your unborn children by facing the challenge of such a person to be their father . Ask yourself, how would you treat your daughters?
Your man has a Turkish mentality and whatever you do, his thinking will not change. The problem is yours, and that's why you decide if you can live your whole life with him and his forgiveness.
Glad you don't have a child from him and find someone to have one from. _Az_
There is not a single comment from the above that I do not agree with. I am a 49-year-old man with two children and my advice is an hour to disappear from this unfortunate person and to arrange your life with someone who deserves, someone who will want children, will want you to be well dressed, to be well dressed and well looking. And I, like the others, am amazed at your patience, don't let it crush you once and for all, take measures so that you don't have children from such a person, because then hell will come! Good luck and hurry!
Real men are rare, you're very lucky. I hope you have a baby, and why not two. :) What set are you? Think of a child, time flies. You have something much more valuable than gold next to you / Bulgarian man who defends the traditional family principles that preserved 100 years of steel benevolence and honesty. If all men were like that, there would be no such demoralization in Bulgaria. Thanks to this type of behavior, Bulgarian women hated the meaning of the words "infidelity and whining", and families lived happily ever after. Men, do not bend down! Be above the slipper! Your wife has reasons to be jealous. Is it a lie that most are supported and have specific goals? Is it a lie that they put it in our heads to be players and bartenders in order to deserve them? Let's not blame our souls, shall we? Get away from this man, in case you want to be a part of the latter. Save him, little man, maybe he will come across a Bulgarian woman who will love him more.
I don't understand why you are still standing with this complex? !!
I agree with everyone except number 12. I think that people are higher beings who do not need training and "guarding" to have morality. And the ugliest and most unsupported woman will cheat if she wants to, even at work. There are passengers for each train. Even if you limit it, it will do it in vain. The man and the woman get together to be happy together, or so it should be. It is the woman who maintains the thrill and romance, wants to be beautiful and desirable for her husband. When you don't like yourself, you have neither a desire for tenderness nor a mood. Fortunately, most men understand this. I don't know if number 12 is married, but let her imagine her daughter / if there is one / in the role of the author: she was raised, studied, she has been trembling for years and suddenly the great Bulgarian man appears to limit her ....
He can't forbid you ... what will he do ... will he tie your hands so you don't wear make-up? I doubt. Raise his nerves and do everything that 'forbids' you, at least to open your eyes to what kind of person you live with ...
Darling, how will you react if your wife is relieved before your eyes? Answer honestly if you follow this topic. You just justify yourself and pretend to be a victim. She wanted to be beautiful, she was oppressed and so on. Look him in the eyes and tell him that there is no more thrill and interest, release the little man. And don't listen to the advice for H12 children, you will ruin their childhood. There is no point in giving birth to this man, then you will separate due to the fact that your rose will bloom and you will fuck someone else. You've known each other for miles, muffins.
№16 Just because a woman keeps to herself and wants to look good doesn't mean she's a whore. You obviously have a Turkish mentality, and you probably are. I won't be surprised if you drive your wife out and put on a veil.
A horror for all women - childlessness and low income. And now you're looking for a rich tramp to pat yourself on the chest and call yourself a fighting mother. I don't know about you, but I feel sorry for the future cuckold. Absolute support for number 12.