My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half in the beginning, everything was fine sexually until I went on a ship. When he came back he didn't want me at all and didn't want to hear about sex, even when I started targeting him he pulled. He is 23 and that is not normal for me. I don't think he's cheating on me because we're constantly together, and the weirdest thing is that he's constantly watching porn even when I'm in the other room and it ruins me mentally, I'm very sick. I don't know what to think because when everything was fine he didn't care as much as he looks, but now he is constantly supported and never wants to go out with me and my friends, I'm just terrified, I don't know what to do and I think ....: (
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Calm down, it's nothing personal. It's just that the man has contracted a sexually transmitted disease from one of the port prostitutes. When he recovers, he will still want sex with you. Other times, don't be so naive, but think a little critically and LOGICALLY. The treatment otherwise lasts differently ... from 1-2 weeks to months. You decide if you will stay with him. I know a lot of women like you - such a man is not missed, right? Money, housing and life. Honestly, don't you think other men are a bigger commodity? You decide, but don't get angry and don't take it personally - the person is being treated. (well, unless you've gained 100 pounds in that time or changed an awful lot in another unattractive way)
don't get involved with a sailor if you want to have a normal life ...
I don't think he is sick because we did it but very few times the problem is that he is forced just doesn't want I don't know what to think I feel very bad
Well, I've always found it strange how women don't realize that they're bored, even if you're with the vision of Claudia Schiffer or another model, after the phase of falling in love comes the moment when the man is full, not that he doesn't love you or has no thrill, you just know each other so well that sex becomes a routine, it's nothing personal to you, it's just that for most men. Now comes the moment when you have to take the initiative, not just wait in bed hoping to grab you, show imagination, this is what works 100%, improvise, invent a game, tell him you want to fuck you like in porn, start to watch the two of you instead of leaving him alone, or while he's watching, ask him to give him an oral surprise. this is what can make your life interesting, if you don't do it, it's best to find a lover or a vibrator, out of self-pity,
The boy is watering someone else's garden and he is no longer interested in you. Infidelity is like a super-smart homing missile - it kills everything good in a relationship and remembers only the bad. Checked.
It's just porn. First is addiction, followed by desensitization (numbness), higher compensatory doses (normal sex is eliminated first) and mental disability. Porn maniac = drug addict = gambler. The same pleasure center in the brain is stimulated. The similarity between the three states is that giving up is difficult and uncertain, there is no guarantee that you will be human again.
is this comment broke me although it is quite possible that this will soon become a disease .. I have no words ...
don't worry, you're not the only one. and so am I with my husband! over time we got tired of amazing sex, we already have boring and hellish dumb sex. Of course, when I try to diversify or give an idea - guess what, it repulses me ... and I found the solution - other men! if you know how much I tormented myself and later blamed myself. my guilty conscience kept calling, well, obviously getting used to it, because it's not like that anymore! :) this is not the best solution, talk to him, but ... it's still theirs, to be honest. so either find someone else or follow me!
unfortunately you are right that they are all this she doesn't even want to talk about how to have a family with such a person and comes out with the excuse that this was not the most important thing in a relationship lol and until when? until I get tired of it at all, apart from parting with another option, it seems that at least his behavior will not be as it should be, but it is not good either ..
I envy these men-drummers, because they have such women ... For me it's the opposite- I want, I don't- and they explain to me how it wasn't the most important thing ... And I don't just have porter sex- I kiss, caress, I love to kiss her, to see the pleasure in her eyes And, only then the other ... However - a nut ...
He may have turned the thread. ;)
he must have become gay on this ship
Hhaha, I've worked on a ship and not on one and not for a long time and although now many people will get sick or start arguing, but the truth is that there is no man, and if there is any exception / there are probably some, but I have not seen them / who does not cheat while on the ship, maybe not on the first or second course, but he does! Moreover, such soap operas are being aired on these ships, which is not really true! In most cases, men really care about their wives or girlfriends who are waiting for them at home, but just on these ships the situation is such that it predisposes to infidelity! And the standard remark to the jealous wife is that they are so tired that they don't even have time to think about looking at another woman! And this is nonsense - the men there have good sex, sex to satisfy the urge, they fall in love with the young colleague and when they get home they go crazy at the thought that this same colleague is having sex with another man ... and so on! Everyone cheats, but for different reasons! In my opinion, no matter how much it hurts you, your husband has sunk a girl from the ship and the thought of being away from her drives him crazy! Separately, if she is beautiful, his self-esteem has risen and he has begun to support himself more! Yes, it hurts, but no one is insured against cheating on him or cheating on him! Rarely would a man who is attracted to his wife say that sex is not the most important thing in a relationship! If you have the strength, talk to him and see what he will tell you and what his eyes will show you, even shoot straight, tell him what you think, if you have to bluff, make him angry to admit it to you! The truth is, you don't lose anything, because even if he doesn't cheat on you while he's on the road, which, as I said from personal experience, is unlikely, you are still not satisfied with this relationship! Money is not everything in this world and it is one thing for you or your husband to have an accidental adventure, one for one night, but it is another to keep in touch and at the same time to have a constant lover!
Number 4, you're very confused buddy. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for 3 years and I can say that it is, to put it mildly, SUPREME! Not to mention that he constantly wants it, he gets aroused just by touching it, sometimes it comes to me more. I wish it to everyone. The point is to play around and know what you're doing, how to do it - to know how to do French to him, how to kiss him, how to move, how to caress him, how to talk to him ... get imaginative. I'm not Claudia Schiffer (who gave example number 4) - I'm usually a young girl, but I'd say I can have great sex, and can you do that, forget to cheat on you ... or not want you ;) Although I don't know how things are on the ship, it is doubtful that he doesn't want you when he is with you. - Good luck! Edelweiss