We have been living together for 4 years. I have a child and everything was going well. About a year ago, half the sex was very thin for reasons unknown to me. Everything seemed to be fine and I loved myself, and sex was missing in our lives. He is always tired, falls asleep early. I thought he had another, but he gave me no reason to doubt it at all. A healthy man is 30 years old, I'm sure he's not cheating on me, I would feel it. Very strange situation. We have talked many times about what has changed, why. Maybe all couples go through such a phase. Is it normal to be together 4-5 times a month. I think I'll look for a lover. I can't take it like this anymore.
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AFTER YOU TALKED, DIDN'T HE EXPLAIN TO YOU WHY HE IS BEHAVING THIS?
Honey, for me 4-5 times a month is a dream of happiness! My husband and I do it once every two months :( and we don't even have children yet - we have it anyway - unless we believe in storks ... :( And I would catch another one, and that - without remorse. This it is not life - not while we are still so young!
You really don't have to mess with 4-5 times a month. And I have this problem, and we have only been living together for a year. But I'm talking about once every two months. And there is no real explanation. Nothing I would believe. Don't waste your life in suffering. And without that, no one knows how long he will live. Besides a pat on the back for patience and loyalty, you won't get anything.
What can I tell you, I have been living with my boyfriend for a year and a half and we have no problem, we do it 2-3 times a week (well, we are still young, I am 21, he is 26). The thing is, when you live together for a while, things change more or less. Why don't you try to seduce him, make things more interesting for both of you. Light scented candles, put on sexy lingerie, scatter some rose petals, champagne, etc. There are so many ways to try at least, do not immediately rush to infidelity. I will be happy if you listen to my advice and succeed. I hope you succeed.
Solve problems in time. But underwear and candles do not help! And with us it started like this and in the end these things stopped happening completely! Look for an explanation and doubt, you may be cheating!
I'm 40 and a few, I live with my boyfriend and we do it every morning and every night. But as in your case, I had. The ex-husband started to be terribly tired, to go to sports in the evening, to work a lot on weekends. Sex had no strength from fatigue, poor thing. And how will it be, as he knocked several times during the day / such was his job, in free mode /. I wanted to rip his balls off when I found out. You will feel that he is cheating last. Like me. All the relatives knew, my brother spotted him pushing with some, and I found out last. My consolation was that when I kicked him out of the house she had abandoned him after 3 days and he came to pray that I would take him back. I didn't put it away, of course, and I still hate it.
You better masturbate but don't be humiliated to go to k. you have a child job and purpose in life. This is not the most important!
I'm like you and we do it 2 to 5 times a month, but we've been married for 11 years. I resigned myself, at least when sex happens it's great-100%. All acquaintances want a second child, but there is no child because there is no sex.
Darling, this is how it starts - first in a week, then in two and so on until you get down to my position once a year. From the beginning I tried to find out the reason, I talked, I argued, I bought underwear that I was even ashamed of, but nothing happened. In the end, I couldn't stand it and caught my lover - I'm 28, I had needs. Now I'm fine, my husband, with whom we have been married for 10 years, continues in the same way, he doesn't even kiss me anymore, but I get what I want. My advice is to do the same.
If you can't fight your sex being regular, you better dump it. The problem will ripen with each passing year. And when you feel - time will have passed, as well as your life. While you are still young - have sex and the most friendly advice - DROP IT !!!
Sometimes men need a break. And it's normal to have sex so many times, because a lot of people don't do it that much. There is no point in looking for a lover, you will only complicate your life even more like me. I have been married for a long time and if I am still with my husband, then so be it. Listen to me. Give him time.
Bumpy missiles are that.
And I had a friend we didn't have sex with. Well, yes, he just didn't want to, in the beginning I begged, and I almost forced him, but I got tired, I let him see when he would remember, but after seven months, and I don't even have a marriage with this man for 4 years, but no we lived together, and I decided to leave him, I want mine, not such a sleepy man, not to have sex for seven months, pedal
Abe, do you only think about sex, do you have no commitments, you are in a bad mood for a week, there are 3 left; 5-6 times in 3 weeks, share it as you wish.
Don't worry, everything will be fine. so am I, but patience is required. sometimes we have to understand the person next to us, because there are cases when he is tired or not in the mood. the family is to understand each other
He may be gay!
I have the same problem. We have only been married for two years, but we have sex twice a month. Horror, and I fill baths and light candles, but in the end I feel even more humiliated. I'm 28. I think I look good, at least other men are looking at me, but mine is not particularly interested in that. And how I want ... Still only from him.
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO ADVISE YOU. I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM FOR SEVERAL YEARS. WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 10 YEARS. I CAN'T EXPLAIN TO MYSELF. SO FAR I HAVE NOT SEEN ANOTHER MAN, I LOVE MY VERY MUCH AND I HOPE THAT IT IS THE SAME ON HIS SIDE, BUT DAYS AGO I DISCOVERED THAT HE ENTERED / WAS ENTERED / AND HE DOES NOT ACKNOWLEDGE, HE MAKES ME GUILTY; I ALMOST HAVE ENTERED THE SITE ALONE. HE FINALLY CURSED ME ON THE PHONE AND SHUT UP. / HE WORKS OUTSIDE THE CITY AND COMES HOME 1-2 TIMES A WEEK / THIS IS HOW WE HAVE LIVED FOR YEARS. OTHERWISE WHEN WE ARE ALONE INTIMATE, HE TELLS ME HOW MUCH HE LOVES ME, ETC. I CANNOT DENY THAT HE IS WATCHING US AND PLEASING HIM AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. WE HAVE 2 CHILDREN. BUT THE DOUBT STILL CREATS.
Horror. straight to me from this topic. but as I read, I realize that I'm not the only one with a similar problem. I love my boyfriend, of course, but sex is rare. when it happens it's great, but it's not enough for me. I have no explanation as to why this is happening.
I have this problem too. I know she loves me, but I want to feel that love
Male, I'm goosebumps, I have the same problem, but it sucks ... we just humiliate ourselves, it's not normal, there must be a reason.
Hello! I'm like you too. My husband and I have been together for 5 years. With us, sex started several times a day and is currently 1-2 months. I tried to seduce him, but it didn't work. He was always tired, he still had no desire, he always stayed for tomorrow, which never came. There was a period of 3 months in which we lived separately and then it was as if his desire from 5 years ago had returned. "He wasn't tired," and we had sex every day. A few months ago, when he was more outspoken, I asked him why we don't have sex as often as we used to, and he said, "Because I used to love you." "And now don't you love me?" I asked. "I love you, but in a different way." he replied. "Otherwise you can love me when I'm 60 or 70." - I answered him. And that was it. I also wanted more sex. Even a year ago I was close to infidelity, but then I gave up. I love it. Then things would not be the same. I would feel guilty and he would understand. It didn't make sense. Well, there are not many options: 1. You buy a vibrator. 2. You find a lover, and he must never understand. 3. You are parting. 4. You stay with him and come to terms with the frequency of your sexual intercourse. I chose the fourth option. (At least for now) It's hard at first, but then you get used to it. Whatever you do, I wish you success! You stay with him and come to terms with the frequency of your sexual intercourse. I chose the fourth option. (At least for now) It's hard at first, but then you get used to it. Whatever you do, I wish you success! You stay with him and come to terms with the frequency of your sexual intercourse. I chose the fourth option. (At least for now) It's hard at first, but then you get used to it. Whatever you do, I wish you success!
Oh, what can I tell you ... Mine is already 2 months without work, to say6 4e getting tired - no, nothing, just sitting at the computer, watching porn pictures early in the morning before I got up, we didn't have sex I don't remember Since when. It may have happened twice this year, and I'm already in an advanced pregnancy, when I needed sex the most, he sleeps on the other side. But it started a long time before he lost his job, I think it started a little before I found out I was pregnant. I'm only 23 and I'm crazy, I don't know what to do. I have already tried 100 times to find out if there is a problem, but without success. In the beginning I was very tactful and I approached the question carefully so as not to startle him. Because I am a person who would understand the problem but ... alas. When I asked him if he was having sex, then I asked what was going on, he said I didn't know or he was avoiding the topic. Now I don't open the topic only. Mzhdr he is 34. He says he loves me and I believe in that, he hardly cheats on me, we are together all day. ?? I don't know, I don't understand. Someone give advice please; (
Up to 23. It may be because you are pregnant, and once he has lost his job, it creates additional tension. When I was pregnant I wanted to have sex with him more often. I have to tell you that men feel more pregnant than we do. Mine admitted to me that while I was pregnant I was very tense. He even makes a joke and shouts to me: "Can't we get a ready-made baby from somewhere? And I answer him:" You seem to be afraid of making it. :))) "If you love each other, you shouldn't just worry about his tension. has come in more, things will return to normal.
I hope it is temporary
What to say. We have been together for 8 years, married for a year and a half, a 9-month-old child. He was always very strange. We didn't have sex often, there wasn't in the beginning every day or every other day or 2. We did it once a week, and I was 17 ... young, beautiful, she seemed to love me very much. Now we are doing ... um, well, we haven't done it since 2007, and then there was only once in 1 year, and that's exactly what the baby became, I can't believe it. He doesn't want to. I beg him, I exhort what I do not do. I don't have a lover because I'm ashamed to show myself to a stranger after birth. I'm not very fat, but I'm still uncomfortable. What to do. I can't stand it is not normal
For me, the problem is the following: I am a man of 30, the woman is a little younger than me and we have the same problem, except that I have a desire and she is not particularly enthusiastic. We do it 1.2 times a month, but I haven't had enough together for almost 7 years. We love each other, we haven't cheated on each other until now, but I'm starting to think seriously ..... How did I not find her like that ... - I don't know, why didn't I come across someone like you? I would do it at least once a day, but good luck what to do. I think I'll look for a mistress too, just for sex, of course - I don't need anything else. Girls, I wish you good luck, and if we can help each other, even better.
I have the same problem. We have been married for 5 years, in the beginning we had sex 3-4 times a week, and now 3-4 times a year. He is still tired, sleepy or has a headache. I'm tired of telling him I want to. I stopped talking to him about sex. And he has the feeling that he doesn't care at all. I just wonder how he endures. I'm sure he's not cheating on me. I can't understand why he doesn't want to. I asked him, and he kept turning. Horror, and I'm still 28 years old.
What she wrote number 28, it's as if I wrote it .............. It's just awful, I was especially nervous, I'm very angry ..... Just not I'm sure he's not cheating ............. I just can't believe he's not having sex, that's not normal .......... I haven't gone with other men yet, and I don't want to, but ............... for now .................. if we continue like this- "I'll go crazy" ... ......... In my opinion, they humiliate us in this way ...... A. 28 years
And last night they admitted to me that the feeling is not the same as in the beginning ... Is it normal when we have been together for only half a year? I don't know what to do ... Is there a way to change something? We love each other and we will it is very difficult for me to part.
Hello, let me tell you the pain :) Second marriage of 7 years. The first two gd every night sex. Then dilute little by little. From 4 years no, not once. I am 44 and he is 48 years old. Stopping sex coincided with my menopause. And so 4 years critical and no sex. I'm still not for disposal, I keep in good shape - 50 kg. The explanation is "I can't anymore, I don't become like a man." I want my husband, I want his caresses. Love it. Ah, I forgot to mention that he didn't even touch me during that time — at all. Please advise me what to do. It started to affect my nerves, not that we don't have sex as much as all this neglect. I can put up with sex,
The only advice I can give you is that your spouses are just desperate. There is something that bothers them and they do not feel in their skin. It is best to talk to them. You may also just be interested in another woman - infidelity.
And my husband and I don't want to have sex, we've been together for 2 years, we have a child of one year and I don't know what happened to him. I'm 20 I need sex, I told him 100 times and he always finds a reason and I like it more and more! I told him that if we continue like this I will find a lover, he replied that he will not allow it but alas. ..we still rarely fuck :(
Hahaha, usually women are the ones who don't want sex. See if it's nice now when the man starts pretending to be interesting.
To number 34 - this is not true. It depends on the person not on gender.
Dear ladies! Listen to my professional, female and life opinion. I am a doctor married and with the same problem as all of you. I say it quite responsibly: there is no man who does not have an instinct / even animals have it / nothing that is not an animal. importance of age / from 12 to 65 years / who does not have a morning erection. There is simply no and I do not claim it. Besides it is a more mental disorder and it is a very rare form, prostate disease, urinary tract or testicular tumors. Do you understand this ?! You are intelligent women, think about it. They just find a place to have sex and you look for reasons and excuses for it. You are the last, but very last, sometimes after many years you will find out. There are also cunning men and ours are from them. maid, do not create scandals and troubles, They just throw us on the willows with all the false sincerity they are capable of. Very convenient and effective. Don't tell them anything. Don't ask. Don't force them for sex. Don't resort to friends (either theirs or yours) to find out. Follow them, check their phones very quietly and for a long time. Compare their behavior with events, outings, tasks, business trips, etc. There is always a pattern - animals have a stereotype of behavior and habits. Use it. Do not raise scandals from the first doubt. Catch them on the spot, being very careful not to understand that doubt.The result is always the same-no matter how long the birth of the truth lasted.Dear, cool and conscientious wives do not believe in fabrications and phantasmagoria.Everything has an explanation and it is either a disease or brazen infidelity, unfortunately! Do not tell them anything. Do not ask. Do not force them for sex. Do not turn to friends / either theirs or yours / to find out. Follow them, check their phones very quietly and for a long time. Compare their behavior with events, outings, tasks, business trips, etc. There is always a pattern - animals have a stereotype of behavior and habits. Use it. Do not raise scandals from the first doubt. Catch them on the spot, being very careful not to understand that doubt.The result is always the same-no matter how long the birth of the truth lasted.Dear, cool and conscientious wives do not believe in fabrications and phantasmagoria.Everything has an explanation and it is either a disease or brazen infidelity, unfortunately! Do not tell them anything. Do not ask. Do not force them for sex. Do not turn to friends / either theirs or yours / to find out. Follow them, check their phones very quietly and for a long time. Compare their behavior with events, outings, tasks, business trips, etc. There is always a pattern - animals have a stereotype of behavior and habits. Use it. Do not raise scandals from the first doubt. Catch them on the spot, being very careful not to understand that doubt.The result is always the same-no matter how long the birth of the truth lasted.Dear, cool and conscientious wives do not believe in fabrications and phantasmagoria.Everything has an explanation and it is either a disease or brazen infidelity, unfortunately! check their phones very quietly and for a long time. Compare their behavior with events, outings, tasks, business trips, etc. There is always a pattern - animals have a stereotype of behavior and habits. Use it. Do not raise scandals from the first doubt. Catch them on the spot, being very careful not to understand that doubt.The result is always the same-no matter how long the birth of the truth lasted.Dear, cool and conscientious wives do not believe in fabrications and phantasmagoria.Everything has an explanation and it is either a disease or brazen infidelity, unfortunately! check their phones very quietly and for a long time. Compare their behavior with events, outings, tasks, business trips, etc. There is always a pattern - animals have a stereotype of behavior and habits. Use it. Do not raise scandals from the first doubt. Catch them on the spot, being very careful not to understand that doubt.The result is always the same-no matter how long the birth of the truth lasted.Dear, cool and conscientious wives do not believe in fabrications and phantasmagoria.Everything has an explanation and it is either a disease or brazen infidelity, unfortunately!
To number 35 ............ Hello !!!!!!!!!!!!! We do not know each other, but I would like to write to you if you wish, of course !!!!!!!!!!!! Write to me here, if you agree, I will leave you an email or Skype !!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!
I'm sorry, I meant number 36, which is a doctor !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Welcome to the club! We have been married for 11 years. We haven't had sex in 6 months. He is passive, but I don't want him either. If I have the opportunity, I will catch a lover, but for now, alas, no. We have a child, so I'm still with him. I love him, but as a brother. How to have sex with your brother? Maybe there is one, I do not know, but and I don't seem to care. He is alone, he stays at home, he seems to be bored ... I miss sex, but not at any cost. I would only cheat if I have feelings.
№36, once I explained things like you, but some ladies didn't believe me. I may not be a doctor, but we are educated people and with a little more intuition we come to unpleasant and painful conclusions. №39, there is no such thing as a "sexual lazy" animal, even if it is elderly.
I completely agree with number 40 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sooner or later, unfortunately, there are painful answers, BUT AS LONG AS WE HAVE A DESIRE FOR IT ........... I "closed" my eyes for a long time, I didn't want to dig, search or watch or whatever it is, but one day something hit me, so I took it and "moved" ........... And I found out what I hate the most - lies !!!!!!! !!!!!! Since then I can't understand it, I can't accept it, IF I FORGIVE..Most furniture (to put it mildly) - exactly from the betrayal and from the fact that I DIDN'T ACKNOWLEDGE !!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and I think he won't do it, he's very selfish .................. If he had confessed in plain text, things would have turned out differently, I would never have forgiven it-NEVER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, but now, oh now .......... "cried the hell out of me" -sounds pretty confused, that's right !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't think there is a man who sooner or later doesn't cheat. I think we are all aware of this fact, another issue is that some are hoping for a great man. Well mine is not like that. I didn't catch him cheating on me, and I don't want to. These older people have clearly said to themselves, "Don't chase because you will get caught." The solution for me is to find a sexual partner outside the home, as he did. I think it will have a good effect on your marriage / relationship as a whole. After a 5-year relationship, sex is already 6-7 times a month, but I'm not 19 and I'm not only nice, but also interesting. I love him, but since he doesn't satisfy my needs, I plan to find someone else to do it, and let him cheat as he wants. For me, the important thing is that things will go well at home, we will love each other and be together. I may be too young to think that, but all of you,
"I don't think there is a man who sooner or later doesn't cheat" Number 42 I want to tell you (without bragging) that you are very wrong. I am one of the men who never cheats and never am. Simply because I think that when I find my partner, she is enough for me and I don't need anything else! And the fact that there was no man who did not cheat is a preserved joke of the breakers!
I have been married for 20 years. My husband is overactive. He wants sex twice a day, and I can't so often. I work in two places, and he hardly works. He is always angry that I do not meet his wishes. She watches porn sites and masturbates every day and that makes me angry and repulsive. I didn't tell him I knew about his weakness because I was afraid he would get angry. Is it normal to watch porn every day? Please men share.
Number 43, such a thing as never before! Used in psychological tests to determine whether the test lies or not, always or never - exist only as concepts!
Male, I thought only we men roared for sex. It is said not to rejoice in a new chief and a little pig, because it is not known what kind of pig it will become. So as far as I read, in the beginning everyone was satisfied, and then the work became thinner, so in the beginning you could not know that things would change, and how to know. 35 rightly says - it's up to a person. It doesn't fit my mind like how you put up with sex so rarely, it's not normal for me at all, if I am I will cheat on destruction. Sex was not the most important thing - money and money are not for me ... I never brag about my sexual skills, but it is a common practice for men to brag, I just get tired of listening. E, how come there are so many dissatisfied women then? How did your partners' interest in you suddenly drop? Dear ladies, there are reasons for everything in this world, if your men are not pedals, look for the woman. I don't cheat on mine, I have nothing to look for outside, well, it doesn't shine on me with the anal, but no, you live like that. Don't resign yourself, girls, look for the reason and enjoy life, it's short.
Women, I don't understand what kind of men you like, what this thing is, I'm shocked, how can it happen that the man always disappoints you more or less: (.... how could I know a woman who would tell me how with her husband or friend everything is WONDERFUL!
I'm on the other side ..... all of us are fine, of course, he loves me very much, I love him too, but ...... there came a time when just thinking about sex with him and I replied, I don't know why! I barely complained once a month, horror, grief for me and him, he kept asking me what was going on and I never knew what was wrong with me! Very nasty, then I started to miss having sex, I imagined how we do, but the moment we started and again nothing happens ....... but now I feel good, I don't know, we have sex 1- 2 times a week, and I found that if I watch porn just before we see each other, it feels very good, it heats me up and I have great enthusiasm to be with him :)
Hello, I have read all 48 opinions on the topic and I find a total of at least 40 of them. I'm not married, but I've had a boyfriend for almost two years now. I am 21, my friend is 22. We both live and study abroad. We met there. We attend the same university, we are together every day when we are not at lectures, we get along great, but for some time now, a year has passed since our sexual relations began to dilute more and more. While at first we did it 3-4 times a week, watched porn together and everything was great, suddenly he started lying down next to me, hugging me and ... falling asleep ... I didn't take him seriously until the sex stopped completely to happen. I talked to him, no use. His answer is always that everything is fine, no matter what I say and what arguments I make to him. As I told you at the beginning, we both study abroad. During the holidays we part (we live in different cities in Bulgaria, quite far away). We never see each other during this time, but we write to each other every day. And he tells me every day how much he misses me, how he wants us to do it, where, how much, he even made me undress in front of the camera because he couldn't stand it. So it was last summer. When we met again in September, everything seemed to be back to square one, we had sex twice a day ... but it only lasted two weeks. Then everything stopped again. He had sex once a month ... and now he hasn't touched me in two months. It turns out that every time we are separated, he dies of desire for me, then a week we do not stop doing it. But when more time passes and everything stops again. I tried to talk again, but the only thing what happened was that he left without saying a word to me. We do not live together, we are both in dormitories, in different neighborhoods, but he wants to come to sleep with us every night, to be together, although here, where we live, it is generally forbidden for another person to sleep in your room (in a room we are one person, without roommates). He never wants to sleep alone, although if he has another or no longer wants to be with me, he can always tell me that there are lectures in the morning or something. At first I really thought there was another one and took all the first steps to find out if that was the case. But I didn't find anything, not where I know how to look. Not to mention that he gave me his Facebook password voluntarily, without me asking for it, and sometimes he forgets his phone at home. I've looked at it all, my text messages, calls, directories, photos, there's nothing to tell me, that maybe there is another. There is no second mobile phone, I'm sure of that, and to forget the phone when someone else can call it, I doubt it. I can't follow him because we have a lot of acquaintances who can see me, neighbors I know would tell him right away. Finally, about a month ago, a friend saw him leave the pharmacy. I asked him what he was doing there, he said he went to buy condoms because he saw we didn't have any. I was happy, I thought everything would be fine. Alas, these burrs remain with them, not open since then. I wondered if he had bought more that I didn't know about. But alas, I can not understand. I want to know the truth, I want to know if there is another, or he has just lost his sexual interest in me. This is something I do not want to put up with. And to leave him just because he doesn't sleep with me ... I don't know what to do anymore. I want him every day, and it doesn't stop just because he doesn't want me ... I hope I haven't bothered you with my long explanations. Thank you for listening to me.
we will continue there on the issue of your concerns, I am waiting for you there