Dear friends, I need help! My heart will jump, I'm barely writing this. Please give me advice! I met the man of my life. He proposed to me. I accepted. Our wedding will be in two weeks. A little background. When we met, I came across a collection of photos of naked women on his computer. We deleted them together and he said that since he was with me he doesn't look at such photos. I was calm. Then I suspected that in the history of the computer I came across a site with naked women, which he entered shortly after we left, which he denied. Okay, I closed my eyes. It's been a long time since then. And today I was just rummaging through my computer to look at our shared photos and came across a folder called 'recent downloads', and as I see it ... on May 17, which was a month ago, typical of it, downloaded an entire archive of photos of a Michelle Schaefer. When I opened the archive it was full of several folders and in each with 50 photos of the naked woman. I immediately remembered the beginning when I saw in his chronology that he knew the names of every naked woman being photographed and was typing them in the search engine. Lately we have sex less often, even a little avoids me, and now I see this ... and I'm crying a lot ... I don't know what to do ... He's very nice, he takes care of me, but because he refuses me sex and caresses, and looking at her? What makes her prettier than me? I have a nice body, I take care of myself and I look very good, why look at her? Please give me advice, I can't stop crying ... please friends .... that he knew the names of every naked woman photographed and wrote them in the search engine. Lately we have sex less often, even a little avoids me, and now I see this ... and I'm crying a lot ... I don't know what to do ... He's very nice, he takes care of me, but because he refuses me sex and caresses, and looking at her? What makes her prettier than me? I have a nice body, I take care of myself and I look very good, why look at her? Please give me advice, I can't stop crying ... please friends .... that he knew the names of every naked woman photographed and wrote them in the search engine. Lately we have sex less often, even a little avoids me, and now I see this ... and I'm crying a lot ... I don't know what to do ... He's very nice, he takes care of me, but because he refuses me sex and caresses, and looking at her? What makes her prettier than me? I have a nice body, I take care of myself and I look very good, why look at her? Please give me advice, I can't stop crying ... please friends ....
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Talk to him! Your wedding is in 2 weeks !!! Tell him you don't like looking at other people's bodies and avoiding you. Tell him that if you continue like this, and if he continues to avoid your intimate moments - there is no point in being together. Also tell him that if he is not ready to be with you for life, give up while it's time !!! And speak calmly without raising your voice ... if there's anything, he'll tell you. Speak amicably, let him tell you the truth. Or maybe he just liked the lady in question .... there are also women who like men and put their pictures on the phone and computer ... People of all kinds. So ... talk to him, because if he avoids you, then there's a problem.
There's nothing to worry about. It is quite normal for a man to be interested in this type of photography, but the nature of men is like that. Personally, I do not think that the lack of caresses on his part and sex is due to this, maybe just going through some difficulties in the workplace. The advice I could give you is just to talk to him and explain how you feel. Good luck :)
I think you're Paranoid, you're a people jealous of computer girls who will never be there, it's the same with porn, there's nothing wrong with watching things like that, almost everyone does. And as for how often you have sex, it's up to you. People tell him a variety of things. The man may need more variety with you in sex. If you just can't make him want you, no one can. Good luck
You're crazy; this is not an insult, but a finding. Think about what nonsense you think and do. This is not your normal jealousy, but abnormal. And I'm pretty jealous and annoyed when you look at other women, but yours is out of bounds. At least he reassured me that there was something worse than me and I saw how stupid and crazy it sounded from the side. You better not get married until you overcome this phobia and illness, because you and he will suffer and you will eventually separate. You will forbid him to look at women and it will become even more interesting to him and he will start to look even more and hide, you will provoke him and want them, not to want you and to look at you not as a woman, but as a guard to avoid. It seems to have already begun. You will suffer all the time, you will suffer, you will get sick, in the end you will give it back to him by cheating on him. he will understand you will quarrel and divorce. And why? Because he had pictures on the computer of some naked model that he will never see live in his life. seek a psychologist before it got worse. become a more interesting woman and don't expose yourself like that. Let him be jealous of you (moderately) and fight for you, not you to follow him. It's a pity.
Never be jealous of your husband from porn sites, pictures of naked women, etc. He will not stop doing it, he will just start hiding more. Every man watches porn, and of course a lot of women, but you shouldn't be jealous of it. He doesn't think he's ignoring you because of the nude photos, he just obviously doesn't have sex, I don't know, but I don't think you should worry at all. Let him look at them, obviously men need such solitude, which we don't approve of much, but we can't change! Enjoy the wedding and I wish you only good moments! Do not doubt that he loves you!
Normal for every man, especially if he is engaged or married, the important thing is that he loves you and takes care of you.
You take over. My friend watches porn, so do I, and we both masturbate and know each other. And yet we have great sex. You may be too conservative and find it difficult to accept that the "sin" you are describing is not a sin. He hasn't cheated on you, though. Don't make an elephant out of a fly and you will be happy together. Gv.
First for men, and for us humans in general, it is normal to watch porn and photos of porn actresses or other unknown women, this should not bother you, even better for you, I think that's how they get something like variety and infidelity rate. decreases. And in addition to not wanting you very often now, there may be thousands of reasons, stress, work, some other personal problem, fatigue or just be in such a period and it happens that a person does not have much desire for sex, but is over;)
I don't think photography is a problem. We can't obsess over our partner for fear of running away from us. To react so sharply to a folder of photos, then you feel something is wrong in your relationship and the problem is far deeper than a folder on your computer. My advice is an open conversation. No accusations and questions "why are you looking at other naked women, am I uglier than them?" .. this will not help. To avoid you as an intimate partner - there is another problem. Get to the point. Lack of sex is not the disease, but the symptom. Wedding - the last thing you need right now. give yourself a year off. You are engaged - at this stage it is enough.
AUTHOR: He later apologized for not looking at the archive, and he automatically downloaded, and that he just opened an article about this woman who stripped naked for men in black ... I believed, but is he honest .... swear your life ...
Oh, leave this patient immediately. Otherwise your psyche will break and then you will be unfit for another relationship. And the worst thing is that because of such people, women get breast cancer. There is a direct link between breast cancer and the presence of a husband DEPRIVING his wife of the most natural.
It's not in class - it is! I don't know how you will swallow this in the future. It is true that they are photos, but if he feels the need to download and look at them, then he has a problem, and therefore you have one. I'm not a psychologist and I can't make adequate assumptions, but I don't believe it will change - that's part of it. I would also be annoyed, no matter how much they explain to me that it was normal - to the extent that you describe, I do not find it normal at all. I don't know, you have to talk to him, at least to understand to some extent the reason for this deviation, don't hope for a change! The other option is to separate, but I don't know how it will happen.
Another crazy ... You took down three folders with photos - WORLD PROBLEM !!! Realize a little - all men stare at porn, whether they have girlfriends or not. bile
Well, if all the women in the world were veiled, he wouldn't be able to watch anyone but you if he wanted to! The Arab brothers are right ...
Oh well, I can't understand you with these pictures! That they even discuss them and rub demonstratively together, they promise not to look at things like that anymore ... Horror and madness! Aren't you overdoing it, huh? I would never be jealous of such a thing. My friend has a lot of porn on the computer, we even watch together. We both masturbate and have no problem with that. If your boyfriend doesn't want sex, the reason is hardly in the photos. It's just funny to say that, and it's even funnier to make it a problem. Imagine how annoying all this female hysteria was to him. He will continue to watch porn, he will just do it as discreetly as possible. F27
It is not true that it is normal, nor are all men. If they were all like that, the world would really only be inhabited by the unfortunate and the insane. Those who read here regularly - have come across the confessions of many men who say that they have been with their partner for years and never thought of another, and sex continues to be supreme and becomes even more nice. In general, the rule is universal - the relationship is totally expensive over time, and where there is a special attitude towards the partner and mutual devotion - the relationship thrives. It is the same in all other aspects - for example, if you go to work - you remain bare water forever, and if you approach with love and enthusiasm - you progress and become a professional. So my thought was,
Your wife, I think you're crazy. Let the man watch, great job all men watch nude photos and porn !!! I watch when I want and my wife says I'll just watch and she's right :) What's so great? And do you predispose him to sex or do you just grumble? M27
You killed me, are you shaking because of some American porn actress? !! I don't think she's guilty, she may be tired of the man, and she'd rather hit one of them for a quick one than sweat over you in the heat. Ask him best what the problem is and why he avoids you in bed
On the plus side, at least he's not gay. And as long as it dramatizes. He watched photos, porn ... big leeks, if that seems unacceptable to you and you can't overcome it - don't get married, you can't change it. The best option is for you to relax a bit. After all, we are in the 21st century. Offer him to watch porn together, ask him what he likes, tell him what you like. If you can't do it - don't get married at all, it won't work out. This is the question, you have to accept it.
Don't talk to him, he will never change. If you do not believe - stay with him, but be prepared - in time you will stop wanting to be a woman, because you will learn to loathe beauties. This is what neurotic decompensation leads to when you live with such a lunatic. Yes, he tells the truth that he downloads them automatically. With these men, everything is automatic, there is no escape.
Honey, it's your own fault. I was in a state of jealousy like you, and my advice is to take matters into your own hands - not to talk to him, but to change yourself. The more you forbid, the sweeter it will become. In three years, my face lost all vitality from such worries, simply because I was unsure of his feelings. Wake up in the morning with a smile, love it and show it to him, but by no means be jealous of portraits of naked chicks. It's funny, I realized it, I realize how funny I was. He changed like me and just paid more attention to himself than to the one he was staring at. Only in this way will he start wanting you more and be jealous of you, because you will become the object of attention from other men as well. If you want not to be a guard, but a favorite next to him, just be his friend and trust him! In case it blows, so you're just not for each other. See how simple everything is :) Good luck, darling! Don't be upset, look at yourself more, get all this nonsense out of your head! IN.
Porn is watched when there are problems in the relationship or personality. The problem is that the reasons are too deep and remain unconscious. These are the results of a study on men and women who stopped watching porn.
Are you serious? And I want to watch the naked Brother Pitt or Shemar Moore, or Antonio Banderas, for example. And what? I love my husband again, and he loves me. One has nothing to do with the other. Your problems are more serious. Talk to him and see where the problem is. It's not in the pictures, it's elsewhere. Magicians
I understand why he has sex less and less, you force him to eat only beans. I'm not for infidelity, but from porn and erotic photos I think that ideas can be borrowed to be applied afterwards and to diversify your games. At least that's how it works for me. M 28
"Porn is watched when there are problems in the relationship or personality." Hahahahahaha - I will die laughing. I can't imagine anyone telling me "don't watch pictures or movies like that". It's as if I tell her not to eat lollipops, because then she won't make me a fr. love: D
27, even if you eat lollipops all the time, it will make you even better French love, because you will be left without teeth. And then the suction is fantastic!
Of course, every woman is upset by the fact that the man next to her likes to download photos and make folders with archives of naked women on the net! And what are these women who show up there is a separate question !!! And in general, this banal explanation - well, it's normal for men to be like that, that's their nature, is the dumbest male excuse! And why should a woman be crazy that she feels offended by this fact !!!! And it's not about the fact that men looking at nude photos will never be able to be with these women and therefore there is nothing to be afraid of women, to be calm that there is no way they can cheat on us, these are just pictures !!! !! It's about the fact that men have such thoughts and desires and it's insulting enough !! And then they roar that the women are abandoning them or finding another one! Come on, no more nonsense, if you love the woman next to you, you won't need this nonsense! And for information, not all men need to rummage through the net and look at naked bleeding, but that doesn't make them any less men! This is not the great masculinity !!! And it's a pity that I see that many women write comments, that it was normal, that this was the nature of men and almost nothing abnormal and nonsense of the sort !!! And they are annoyed, there is no woman who burns her, but why are you pretending to be nice ladies !!!!
Number 29, when a woman knows her price, she is not jealous and does not tremble because of the naked pictures on the computer. We are not talking about the nature of man, but about the right of every person to look at naked individuals of the opposite sex. And I prefer to watch naked men instead of naked women, but my husband doesn't make this a global problem. Magicians
And what to watch? Homicide movies?
Oh darling :( Drop it. It doesn't deserve you. I have the feeling that you are so kind and pleasant, you don't deserve to suffer. Men are like that. They can be with you, but they will always have eyes for others. Have dignity and leave this fact in time.The very fact that he is lying to you is indicative enough of what a person he is :) Good luck and be happy!
Oh darling :( Drop it. It doesn't deserve you. I have the feeling that you are so kind and pleasant, you don't deserve to suffer. Men are like that. They can be with you, but they will always have eyes for others. Have dignity and leave this fact in time.The very fact that he is lying to you is indicative enough of what a person he is :) Good luck and be happy!
Honey, don't despair, be a slut. Suggest that you both watch porn videos while doing this will make him very aroused and make him want you even more. Get rid of the restraints. Mine and I had a similar problem, but since we do various things, I can't get enough. Buy erotic lingerie, be sexy in the bedroom for him. Try cream and other such tricks. Success!
Aren't you fat? My ex-wife gained 12 kilos and never lost them. She was just physically pushing me away and I didn't want to touch her.