I've been dating a man for five years, I've lived with him for two years, but he doesn't want us to have a family, to get married, to have children. I don't know if the reason is fear of great commitment or just a lack of love and doubts in your own feelings. He himself told me that he had been on the road to take the big step several times, but he kept dissuading himself because we had quarrels at the time, which sounds frivolous to me. He has an extremely strong relationship with his mother and for him she is the most important figure in his life and I still think that if she advises him to get married, he will listen to her, but otherwise, he will make him older. There is love between us, but this is not enough to preserve our relationship and I increasingly think that parting with him is a possible way out of the situation. I want a full relationship, not a partial commitment. I am 26 years old, as is he.
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Exactly at your age, I ended a nearly 6-year relationship, more or less for the same reasons - I as a man did not want marriage and children yet, and the woman next to me wanted them and it came to separation. In fact, I can't say that this was the main reason for our separation, because it wasn't, but it definitely had an impact, albeit to a lesser extent. It is completely normal not to want a man of these years to have a marriage and children, and especially marriage may not want it at all, keep that in mind. It will be difficult to fight for marriage at this age, but for children you can easily start pushing, because over the years I myself have become convinced that the earlier the children are born, the better for the parents. Leave this nonsense to the mother and his influence - if you want to have a family together, you just have to lose all possible relatives, and make your own decisions, because otherwise there are a lot of scandals waiting for you, and huge scandals, keep that in mind as well. It is best to start insisting on a child right now, and if it still doesn't decide, and the mother's instinct continues to speak to you - separation and then who is from where.;) You as a woman will surely find a new boyfriend very soon. to make you a child, but when he feels that the supposedly certain that is in your face is slipping away from him, then like nothing he can incline at least for the child.
Are you sure you want to start a family with him? The fact that you thought about separation is not very encouraging and about your feelings as well ... I can't imagine thinking about separation from the person I want to marry.
Each relationship is individual and there is no way anyone can answer your question correctly, because no one knows either you or your husband. My observations of my girlfriends' long-term relationships show that such relationships sooner or later end in separation. For so much time spent with someone, you should know them and know if this is the person for you or not. After 5 years of relationship and 2 years of living together for me, he should know what he wants and not hesitate, not be silent. And at 26 you are not small - there is no point in living like this for another 2-3 years and then you have yet to decide on your relationship. In general, it would not be a problem to live like this for another 10 years, if both suited you, but you, to ask in this forum, obviously do not like this unknown situation. Talk to him and see what you can clarify on the topic.
Honey, leave him alone, you'll only waste your time
Things do not happen by force. Make no mistake. If he hasn't done it now and there are such excuses, remember my comment! YOU WILL NEVER BE A FAMILY.
With such emotional dependence on the mother, run 100 km. per hour! She is the third person in your relationship. Avoid such men because they only expect trouble.
The relationship with mom is a very naughty thing. I am a man and I am in such a situation. There is no escape. Constant conversations, messages, advice on how to live your life. When I go on a business trip, the mom immediately comes to visit. I also want a family, to take our lives into our own hands, but it doesn't work. Because of the mom, I am already on the verge of turning my back on everything and looking for happiness elsewhere ...
10 years after such a situation, my only regret is that I stayed so long, instead of freeing myself and actively looking for other alternatives. It makes me sick to remember the time lost, right in my busiest years, surrounded by people, some of whom I liked, but alas - while you have a relationship with someone other men stay away. Even if they are interested in you, they will avoid you so that they do not enter foreign territory. The relationship fell apart and now I only feel hatred for this person, because it becomes clear to me that he used me, lost my time, my life could have gone much better, to start a family, to have children, a house etcetera. I advise you to make the most of your youth, be glad you have it, regain your freedom and look for other people.
If he listens 100% to his mother, then he is a mother's son, run with 300 of him, is my advice.
8, why do you talk with such hatred about a person you have lived with for 10 years ?? why did he use you, did you make the decision to live together and live together? after all, you both gave and received from this relationship. did he promise you something he didn't fulfill? it looks pretty rough to me, but you wrote very little to draw an accurate conclusion. author, just talk seriously with your friend about the future without pushing him and giving ultimatums. ask him what his views are on marriage and children. at 26 you are not old, but you are not small. and if the relationship has no future, maybe your place really isn't with him. F43
I am a man of 30 years. and as such I tell you that you have no future with this man. Especially when he keeps his mother informed about everything in your life together. However, I think that you are very young for a child ... Even more a child than the man you are with at the moment. Try other men. Until the age of 34-35 you have enough time to choose the father of your child / children. Best advice: DO NOT HURRY WITH A CHILD! Do not rush with marriage! But especially for a child, do not rush, so as not to ruin your life, and that of the child you will give birth to. Be careful not to marry the wrong person in pursuit of your fixed idea of marriage. Then there will be topics like,, I met GO, he is the love of my life, what to do when I am married and have a child "You have to understand that at the moment your relationship is exhausted. You are free, look at your life and choose man, to his taste and values. In order not to go after 3 years of married life to cheat, to have sex in the family, your child / children to suffer, and you to wonder which way to take. Greetings! A man in his 30s.
I do not believe it is due to doubts and lack of love, I believe it is the presence of common sense. It doesn't matter here the mother's sons, it matters that such relationships get tired quickly and in a marriage he makes his life complicated. As for the healthy relationship between him and his mother, it's normal. She won't betray him and turn her back on him because of someone walking, but you can't guarantee for yourself. These young relationships are unsuccessful and even marriages completely exhaust them. You have a biological clock, but what are you so hard to give birth to, as if you will grow old at 30. Wait another year and then decide whether to bury it.