For months I have been asking my husband to paint the walls at home, to renew the paint on the kitchen cabinets, but he still puts it off and does not want to. Today he serves me that he wants to paint the office and the walls at work to be a newcomer. So how do I react when there is a need at home and he closes his eyes? Now he excuses himself that there was no need, that it was okay ... he doesn't even want to buy a new sofa, it doesn't matter that this one is old and is still from his mother ... a new family, and he doesn't want to do anything new, at work will even buy paint to paint ... what to do
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If it doesn't help, split up
It all depends on your financial capabilities. He may not really be painting at the moment - not that I justify it, but especially in these heats he may not really want to spend his vacation painting (I just fell into a similar state, when I just don't do anything even if i know it's nice to do). It's weird for me to want to fix it at work, but not at home - it's just illogical to me. Ask him this question - he has to paint at home - choose whether you care or we call workers and they do - it will be more true expensive, but if you don't have a money problem this is the solution. For the sofa, it may be better to put things in a different place - every man has a weakness - for example, computers, new equipment, TVs, etc. The moment he says he wants a new hard drive or a new camera, counter him, that you don't need - kind of with his stones on his head. Ana
I don't want to advise you exactly that, but obviously there is no other way - do it yourself and do what you want. Call a friend to help you or an acquaintance and throw the soil. Order a new sofa and tell him when it will arrive. I am convinced of one thing - the man should be spoken to in communicative sentences. The more you grumble and get angry that he is not doing anything, the more you refuse to repair it at home.
Number 2 is absolutely right. The only way to get a stubborn man to do something is to offer to hire a master to do it for him. Maybe even if he doesn't react to putting it in front of a fait accompli. It is worth the investment for the lesson you will give him. And if he squeezes it and doesn't mind - even better.
Well, I don't know why you all suddenly ran to buy sofas and make repairs. It's a crisis. There will be a vacation, sea, mountains, etc. These will be very, very expensive. In my opinion, he just wants to save some money so that you don't fall to the bottom and, like everyone else in September, wonder if you will buy food now, pay bills, buy textbooks, clothes for the child, etc. According to me a sofa will not make much difference. What if he's old? There are more important things. What if the stove breaks down now? You buy a sofa and hop - it breaks down. This is exactly what happened to us, by the way. Where does the money for a new or repair (if possible) come from? Plus, as I mentioned, there will probably be breaks next month. It's always good to have some money just in case. And for him to paint the office, that's weird. If the situation is very bad (there) and it is necessary, I understand. Still, he must be there much longer than at home. As number 3 said, if it is so urgent to paint - it is best a master to do it anyway. You will hardly paint so well. The result will always be better and so laziness will not prevent. Success! :)
Number 2 and number 5 - YOU MAY NOT REALLY READ, but talk by heart. The woman says she doesn't want to go home, and at work he is ready to buy paint and get the job done. What financial opportunities and fatigue are you talking about in general? And now to the one who commented - I don't know what his job and position is there, but he wondered if he wasn't trying to impress someone there by chance ??? I hope you understand what I mean ... Naughty Bear
Naughty Bear, yes, that's what it's about. That's why the arrogant thug deserves masters in the house: D
Call a master to paint. or ask him to help you because you want to paint your house. If you need repainting, let him be so kind to help you or if he is tired, call a master.
Hire a trainer for your husband e.g. Grandma Penny. It doesn't take a lot of money because it works for fun! In 0 time, the house will light up!
The author's problem is hardly as big as you did. So here's something fun. What is the difference between a prostitute, an unmarried woman and a married woman? The light one looks at the ceiling and thinks: Will he pay me or not? The unmarried woman looks at the ceiling and thinks: Will she marry me or not? The bride looks at the ceiling and thinks: Will I paint it this year or not?