The problem is that I'm dating a boy of a year and a half and in the end things don't go well between us at all. He even started insulting me from time to time. They sensed this thing and told me to find some more decent ones who would treat me well. But I love him very much and the last thing I want is for us to part. We talked to him about all this and he promised to change. He behaves better with me now, but I can no longer tell my parents that he is behaving well and that we constantly have scandals because of him. I love him very much and I'm sure he loves me too. Pls tell me what to do!!
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Once he hits you he will continue to do so, rest assured. Such men are weak and complex, do not waste time with them!
Run away!
A man who beats a woman is not a man! And there is no way to change, he can temporarily hold back, but once he hits, he will hit again! And you have hardly done anything so fatal as to encroach on you (infidelity, for example), so find a real man and abandon this animal!
There is a saying "the wolf changes his fur, but his temper does not". You have to overcome your feelings and think about your future, because once you reach out, he will do it again .. Do you want to live like this .. hardly .. think things through, I hope you make the right decision! Success!
Forget how much you loved each other, give him back the insults with the INTEREST and ... goodbye Rio !! LIFE is short and there is no time to lose in suffering and tears, and to you (sorry to speak to you) think not only with the HEART and if it is not too late I wish SUCCESS in the search for new love!
Do you love a man who beats you? Masochist!
Understand Mila, that there is no person who, once he beats you, will love you !!! This is a distorted psyche.
You are either a masochist or you are an incredible dreamer. I love my girlfriend for example ... She made me angry .. I can't help but get angry sometimes ... After all, you are women ... :) However, I would NEVER touch or insult. It doesn't happen that way. And you must be with some complex that can't communicate or is your first and you can't believe you lied.
See what I'm going to tell you, darling: About 8 years ago I fell in love with the man I still love and continues to insult and harass me / and I have two children from him /, we are married ... It all started from the very beginning begining. And with me like that ... my mother and father were against it, they wouldn't let me get married, because it would shorten my life. I-not so-not in love and lost / later / ... So what can I tell you .... listen to yours and you will not go wrong! You will forget it! I'm sorry I didn't listen to them ... the wolf changes his fur, but his temper never !!! So now the only thing that keeps me going is his love for him, my children, who are also my two suns, and the respect I have to show him that he is the father of my children and that is the best thing, which I have from him - these two little treasures !!! ... I don't know how long he will last, but I will always love him! There is a God and he knows his job! There is justice and the day is coming when it triumphs! I am not the one who will decide what to do! I leave everything in the hands of fate ... I do not want my children to grow up without a father, and he is their father, and I am their mother .... Darling, last I will tell you again: In order not to suffer, like me, listen to your !! It won't change ... or maybe it will be temporary, but over time it will get worse and worse - believe me! Nothing will change completely! Run with all your might while it's time to see ... it's too late for me! I no longer think about my happiness, but about that of my children ... my happiness is gone, but it's all the same ... for me it is enough for the children to be happy! But you won't allow that, will you? Because, if you continue to delude yourself that he will change, you are cruelly lying and it is my destiny that will follow you .... don't ...
It is best to get out of it as soon as possible! Listen to your parents! You're in love now and you don't seem to be right, but believe me, if I had listened to mine at the time, it would have been different for me. I am married with two children ... and I am still with him! He has apologized thousands of times, changed thousands of times, but it was for a short time and every time it gets worse and worse ... Now I can't run away because of my children ... I didn't want anything - I just wanted to be happy, but he didn't give me that happiness ... now I live for the children ... and that's the only good thing he did for me. I have two beautiful suns that are my whole life! Now I want to run away, but I can't, because of the children ... I don't think about my happiness anymore, now I think about theirs! But you won't allow that, will you? I assure you - the wolf changes his fur, but his temper - NEVER !!! ... RUN, GIRL, RUN! YOU WILL FORGET IT ONE DAY, BUT IT'S BETTER TO BE SAD AND DIFFICULT NOW, BECAUSE THEN YOU WILL SUFFER AGAIN, BUT THE SORROW WILL BE DOUBLE AND THE TEARS WILL NOT STOP. RUN AND DON'T TURN BACK! Everything will fade away, but if you stay with him, it won't get better ... it will be worse and worse every time! I have no more tears, no more words ... I have only two little treasures that support me and give me hope! .... Don't let my fate befall you! You still have time to shake off this nightmare ... don't listen to your heart, but your mind, because I listened to my heart and now I'm suffering ... Run with all your might, run! You won't make a mistake and one day you will be grateful to your parents! BUT THE SORROW WILL BE DOUBLE AND THE TEARS WILL NOT STOP AND THERE WILL BE NO ONE TO CRY TO! RUN AND DON'T TURN BACK! Everything will fade away, but if you stay with him, it won't get better ... it will be worse and worse every time! I have no more tears, no more words ... I have only two little treasures that support me and give me hope! .... Don't let my fate befall you! You still have time to shake off this nightmare ... don't listen to your heart, but your mind, because I listened to my heart and now I'm suffering ... Run with all your might, run! You won't make a mistake and one day you will be grateful to your parents! BUT THE SORROW WILL BE DOUBLE AND THE TEARS WILL NOT STOP AND THERE WILL BE NO ONE TO CRY TO! RUN AND DON'T TURN BACK! Everything will fade away, but if you stay with him, it won't get better ... it will be worse and worse every time! I have no more tears, no more words ... I have only two little treasures that support me and give me hope! .... Don't let my fate befall you! You still have time to shake off this nightmare ... don't listen to your heart, but your mind, because I listened to my heart and now I'm suffering ... Run with all your might, run! You won't make a mistake and one day you will be grateful to your parents! Don't let my fate befall you! You still have time to shake off this nightmare ... don't listen to your heart, but your mind, because I listened to my heart and now I'm suffering ... Run with all your might, run! You won't make a mistake and one day you will be grateful to your parents! Don't let my fate befall you! You still have time to shake off this nightmare ... don't listen to your heart, but your mind, because I listened to my heart and now I'm suffering ... Run with all your might, run! You won't make a mistake and one day you will be grateful to your parents!
You are dumb geese, you "love" freaks who harass you. Your two suns will hate you tomorrow and despise you for living in such horror for you. Rest assured: they won't say thank you, Mom. What kind of mothers are you, with what wisdom do you keep your "sunshine" with some insane abuser ... I appeal for the parental rights of such "mothers" and "fathers" to be taken away. So at least the child will have a chance to be adopted by normal people, and not to witness violence.
Number 11, who are you appealing to, who / who are you, to say what should have been done. She teaches her lessons and doesn't do much about it, because you have no idea what it's all about. She appealed, hey I'm so annoyed, honestly!
Number 10, no matter what, your children will be very happy with the bully freak
You're wrong, hey ... you don't care about your kids. If you loved them, you would not keep them with the abuser
You are dumb sheep, you are not mothers at all ... We didn't know, dumb muzzles
We don't know ... well, let's just say we don't know. You tell me. Tell me why did you prefer violence to your children living in a good and normal environment? ..
Because they are selfish!
It's just that he's not a bully - he insults me, but not in front of the children ... he treats them well ...
I said this about number 10. But it's also valid for you ... if it offends you ... don't you think that the child doesn't feel these things? ... And you, how do you write that he is not a abuser, you wrote here, that it encroaches on you. Get away from him if you don't have children yet. Then it's harder. Believe me, I'm not scratching my tongue here, I've been through this problem, and I've solved it. Such abusers are dangerous, they ruin you mentally ... and if you have a child, one day he will condemn you and him. Do not imagine that the child knows nothing. It is not so, they know and feel everything, and it is very painful for them
Here we are talking about the relationship between the two of us. He insults me, but he never does it in front of the children and that's why I claim that they don't know ... And I don't know for what purpose he does it ... sometimes he insults me, sometimes he is nice to me and apologizes for the insults ... I have the feeling that such people have mental problems ... but if I hint to him about it, he will drive me crazy and think that I want to put him in the insane asylum ... My problem is much more complicated than insults, etc. in fact. He did not touch me in the interest of the truth, but one bad word hurts more than 5 slaps. The slaps are forgotten, but the words - no! ... Let's not criticize me for being a masochist or not. his teenagers who think they know everything and will never leave themselves in the hands of such guys / as I thought at the time / ... so these girls, I will tell them only one thing: Knock on a tree!
You don't think about your children, but about yourself, number 10. You still love the one you are with and the children are your excuse that you don't leave him despite his behavior, I agree with numbers 11, 15 and 14 On the topic - get out of he, or give him a period in which to see if it is possible that he has changed (which I do not believe, but anything is possible)
Okay, 20 ... if you like being with him and everything's fine, why are you writing then? I'm not a teenager personally, I have a 25-year-old daughter. I had decided, and I have decided, if someone was harassing her in any way, I would dig up the ground, but I would make her leave. Fortunately, she is not one of those who suffer insults and violence. But how do you think about your children? They certainly know about the problem. Even if they don't say anything, it bothers them, for sure ... And that the man is not mentally well, yes, that's right. The question is you women who suffer bad treatment because I don't know. what, ... how long and for how long will you be mentally well? ..
You know 22 ... you're very right even! And I don't know how long I will last, but considering that I know my husband well, I will tell you one thing: And if I leave him, he will come to beg me, he will fall on his knees, he will apologize, he will threaten suicide / as he has already done /, and is a son of his mother and father. They naturally take my side because they see that he is wrong. Tell me what to do now, apart from running away, he doesn't know where I am, but how can this be done with these two children? How? ... And yes, I love it - I don't hide it! He doesn't realize what he's doing! I can't blame him and I'm rather blaming him for the disease, but I told you, he's gone so far with delusions that if I tell him to go for treatment, he'll think I want to get rid of him. ... The children were not his, I was a prostitute, scum, garbage .... I'm telling you, he's in periods. Tu is calm and kind, and when the crazy ones catch him, he starts with the insults ... I realize that this is a disease, but to ruin my life in this way - I still don't accept it. I haven't told anyone what's happening to me. I tried once and he said that I wanted to ruin him in this way, to put him in the insane asylum and all such idiocy .... I can't take it anymore !!! I'm crying and I don't know what to do ... And I still love him! He is the father of my children! Tell me what to do! I'm crying and I don't know what to do ... And I still love him! He is the father of my children! Tell me what to do! I'm crying and I don't know what to do ... And I still love him! He is the father of my children! Tell me what to do!
Divorce, sweetheart!
It's easy to say from the side, but only I know how difficult it is to do it ... I know what it is and I told you that this step will be followed by a melancholy mood, and then requests, requests not to throw it away and after a while the old a song in a new voice ... I don't know what to do - I tell you honestly! ... It ruins me and with each passing day my nerves break more and more .... I packed my luggage once, after another scandal caused by the stupid his delusions / and if you know how I look at him ... like a painted egg, just like a child I take care of him / ... He is so fat-eyed that he has nowhere to go ... The more I please and support him, the rougher he becomes ... it's unbearable, and I've never insulted him, and I've never treated him badly ... I'm afraid he'll do something bad ... so I'm silent. Last time , when I tried to defend myself from his senseless insults, the greatest nothingness in the world took me out. I don't want to tell anyone, only here I can share what's on my mind .... it hurts, I scream, and there is no one to hurt me He thinks that I am some thing and can do with me whatever he wants and treat me as he wants ... I can't accept it. He does what he wants, I don't tell him, and I stand locked up at home, like a bird in a cage, and on top of everything, I go out the worst, the scum and the garbage ... I can't stand ... insults, insults, and insults again every day. If I tell this to my parents, my father will not tolerate it, for the simple reason that he will never allow them to treat a woman like that, much less his own daughter. He has never treated my mother like that. , neither with us, nor even with a person on the street .... and what kind of person did I come across ... I will carry my cross ...
Hey darling you better run away this boy is not for you !!!
Pise, you know, he's as crazy as my father and he was beating my mom and we left him, he'd better be with someone else.
Hello, I have the same problem with the difference that I am 35 years old and I have saved this for my parents ... I have been with my boyfriend for almost 15 years. In the beginning everything was beautiful, but after a long relationship my nightmare began with insults beating. I read all the comments, and I think most of them have not encountered such a problem and very easily condemn who is a masochist, dumb, etc. After the first beating I was very disappointed with him, I wanted to leave, he stopped me please and I forgave purely human - after all, everyone makes mistakes and it is human to forgive ..... Time passed and the second beating followed, and then I firmly said the end of this relationship ............. ... but who will leave you, bothered me in all sorts of ways, I tried to hide, but he came to my work and beat me there, followed by apologies, oaths in the forehead. I walked the streets and looked around like a mouse, I was dying of fear and so I could not overcome him and we continued the relationship, but with the difference that I am with him from fear and helplessness .... and we are still together, but I am grateful that I did not marry him and that I felt in time and now only I live in harassment than to have children with such a freak. Dear child, I have nothing to keep you with this man. Run while it's time that obviously there comes a time when you can't, This forehead is up to time, I was dying for this man, and now I feel only pity for him and great anger for me. No one has the right to judge the other, especially if you have not been in a similar situation .... People here seek advice, not criticism ,,,,,,, They have someone to insult them, at least be nice. ... My advice is; Love is for a while - get rid of this thought and you will find the right person for you, who loves you, respects you, to create a family ,,,,,, it is not too late for you.
Number 23 - you have been abused. From insults and accusations to suicide threats and pleas, it's all violence. I don't know why some of the writers here think that a violent environment may be suitable for children. All the explanations and justifications you have written are typical rationalizations of victims of violence. Children sense family relationships and unhappiness, even if they do not witness everything, and they also learn these patterns of behavior. And one day they themselves will most likely take on the role of either bullies or rapists.
Look now .. I was in such a situation .. I had a friend .. a year and a half. Things went well with him in the beginning .. then he started doing like yours .. he was constantly reaching out .. especially when he was drinking. He finally cut my hands and I left. He promised to change every time, and it wasn't lasting. Now I'm with a man who makes me feel like a princess. Maybe your parents are right :))