He Has A Child

   How vicious and deluded you are. Thanks for the advice, I will be careful with alcohol already. Bad

   Abe, and he's not a commodity, he's winged, but you're wrong. R.

   If you hate this child, I hope you remain barren forever!

   3 deserves the same. Otherwise, author, don't believe this one. He's just a LIAR. Baked liar. He is married and lies like you about sex. Forget it.

   If he loves you, then what's your problem first! Secondly, you have no right to hate a child, at least when it has appeared in your friend's life long before you !!! This shows that you are selfish and a bad person.

   Poor deluded girl! How old is he? 10 years old? 15? A big man, and his parents forced him ... He can take responsibility without being with the child's mother. She can see him again, take care of him ... If he was such a problem, he would have told you at the beginning, and he was covering it up, so he thought he would lie to you for a long time. What kind of person do you have to be to hate an innocent child?

   why you hate the child is not a problem for you. your problem is your boyfriend, if he does not have the courage to part with the child's mother and be with you, then what is it for you? This for the "child not to suffer", etc. are stupid excuses, his life is his, if he wants to separate from his wife he will do it in spite of the child. The child will remain his child, will take care of him, will see him. It's all about what people will say, not to point a finger at his mom and dad and the dragon-tree a hundred umbrellas

   Why are you attacking the girl, and is it true that a Real man lies and denies his own child?

   You attack the author quite sharply. He says that he hates only in his anger, besides, who would like his beloved to have a child from another? 3, I don't know which village you came from, but keep the gypsy oaths to yourself. Author, it is very unpleasant that it happened that way, but you have to make your choice. If you love him so much, maybe you should stay with him.

   Yes, you really are very deluded! And for this man, it seems, you are just a variety and an escape from the gray everyday life. Do you believe that he was very drunk ... and alabala? Didn't you love your wife? Classics! Just beat his jester and there's no reason to be angry with the child. Good luck

   Why should she be deceived. He did not want to admit to her about the child, because - here is the effect - "thunder from a clear sky". But sooner or later everything is clear. Every truth comes to light. Understand, it doesn't matter if it was a mistake or intentional. The child is a fact and must be held accountable. Here is his good trait as a person - he is responsible and wants to be with you. You have to get in his way if you want to be with him and he wants to be with you, he obviously enjoys it. It really is not a very pleasant feeling, but this man holds on to you and if you really love him, you will love every moment and situation in his life. Out of surprise that it's not just yours, you say you hate the child. Or whatever happens between you, whatever you decide, another statement of mine is that when you love someone, you leave them on their way to be happy, think, find your happiness with someone else and you will create a normal family and the children will know that they are only yours and his. trakdata

   Author: I can't say thank you for the comments. You had better keep quiet. 100 to 100 offensive commuters are from women. Thanks only to № 8 and 9. I guess you're men and that's why you understand me. Thank you! And why can't I hate that? You are funny. Just because I'm a woman doesn't mean I have to love children. Come on, stop with the patriarchal world. A № 3 shows which ethnic group he belongs to and I will only tell her that the oaths are returned three times to the one who takes them. Apparently the females who wrote the above offensive comments will like their husband to have a child from another. You deserve your husbands to get lovers to get pregnant by them. Then I will ask you if you will love these children.

   I hope you see it soon, author. The man looks after his wife and child, and tries to knock something extra while he can. That's why he deceived you. The child obviously won't leave, and the fact that you want him gone is just awful. You probably put it that way in your anger. I found myself in a similar situation, but for me his child was the cutest blond angel. I just realized that we missed each other in life. Sarah

   Author: The boy is 21, he is not that big.

   What are you writing about here when you don't want opinions? You are supposed to criticize number 3, and you are swearing at us. Well - it's all flowers and roses, you are the most important to him and you are the center of the universe! Isn't that what you wanted to hear? And you are not the person to say who deserves what!

   God collects his garbage, but you are bigger than him ...

   What is the child guilty of being born? Did you choose where and when to be born? It is a part of the person you love, for God's sake! You're funny ...

   Do you hate a child? Which, on top of everything, is part of the person you love? Nonsense. Love is not like that.

   Why not hate children? She hates it, but it shows that you will not be a very good mother.

   Author, these oaths that you give are ridiculous and unjust, because the situation is not that, She stole your husband and got pregnant from him, and you steal the man and hate her child. Think about it. It's different. I hope you find peace, you have gathered a lot of negative energy. This will only scare him, you will not achieve something.

   You think pretty stupidly. And just to tell you - no, I would NOT hate the child of my loved one (if there was one). On the contrary, I would accept it as my own. This is love and affection. But you're obviously too young to tell you about such things - you're unlikely to understand them. Inside you are trying to justify your lover's lie and the fact that he doesn't fuck you for 5 stotinki, projecting his malice and hurt feelings towards this absolutely innocent child. I understand the lowness of your emotional emotions, but you better see - this person does not look at you as you look at him. And it's not your child's fault. If he really wanted to be with you, he would tell you everything much earlier. And as long as you sprinkled malice - it has happened to all of us at some point in our lives to be hurt and deceived.

   What do you really want from us? If you don't think you are the most important to him, you are not and you will not be. If you love him, you will love his child, he is a part of him. And if you can't stand criticism, why are you writing here? And go looking for single men without children. If you are able to hate an innocent child for me, you are a person with an empty soul, unable to truly love.

   Авторке, по-добре спри да пишеш, че само ми затвърждаваш първото мнение. И мъж да бях пак щях да ти напиша същото. По-добре започни да виждаш по-далече от носа си и може да не си чукаш главата много. За какво да ти злобеем? Че си наиграна ли, какво? Ти да не си му в главата и сърцето, че да знаеш дали обича или не "майката"? Никой не е застрахован от такива случки, макар че някои хора имат по-силна интуиция и разум - т.е усещат се, че нещо не е както трябва щом се отказва интимност, постояно се минават някакви разстояния и прочие. Един такъв човек го излових още може би на третата среща и намразих ( пресилено ) ,разкарах бащата, а не намразих двете му деца - те каква вина имат? С тази разлика, че той беше с десет години и повече по-голям от твоя възлюбен. С две думи - опичай си акъла и се научи да приемаш истината и критиката, иначе това няма да ти е последния случай, в който си кон с капаци. Успех Лоша

   In my opinion, the fact that he was drunk and blabbering is a lie. The boy has a family and wants to use you for sex, and you think you're important. In fact, you are temporary and I recommend you to leave this man, because he is unlikely to leave his child because of a pickle. Moderator: Please, no offense :))

   He is a liar. You believe some fabricated story about how he got married. It may not be true at all. What do you expect him to tell you the truth, which sounds like this: YOU ARE JUST FOR MY FUN, LITTLE SLUT. I KEEP MY WIFE, MY CHILD AND I WILL NEVER LEAVE THEM BECAUSE OF A MONSTER LIKE YOU. I JUST NEED SOMETHING FRESH AND DIFFERENT TO BE A "MAN IN PLACE". IF YOU ARE NOT YOU, IT WILL BE DIFFERENT. And you tie yourself to this garbage. Spit in his face and look for a man who will not lie to you. But I'm afraid your criteria are quite low and you'll still stick to the wrong one.

   And this one is from the laying hen team.

   You have no right to hate this child, he appeared long before you :)

   oh, author .... you post here, you want advice, and then when people say their opinion, you get upset that they didn't tell you something like: "miiiiiiliichkataaa, gorkataaaaa ... how well you lived, this child has appeared and ruined everything! "Is that what you want to hear? you don't want advice, but a pity you DON'T DESERVE!

   To the Author Dear author, I completely understand what you are going through ... If you truly love this man, then you will love his child and you will not worry about what to do. My advice is just to listen to your heart :) I listened to mine and now I am with the man I love and I spend every weekend with his child, who I also love :) Good luck

   next to the author I'm a girl in the 19th year I finished 12th grade-I really don't understand why some people attack you instead of putting yourself in your place! : @ -your friend shouldn't have lied to you and I also can't stand children-the problem with me is different-my family is so big that I no longer know the number of these constantly born children-I just can't stand that when I visit guests Sofia at my grandmother's sister, everyone gets fat, and when someone comes with their child, they stick to him to talk to him and praise him, as if they don't know me - I don't understand why they are like that - so I go there to see them - why everything is going well - I'm glad I'm big and suddenly those snotty children come and they don't have time for me anymore? I get annoyed when they don't pay attention to me - I sit in the living room like a stranger and they praise those children - and now when I go next week - it will be the same - I hate children - and if you like, don't offend the author - what are your teeth - the girl there are problems and you jump on top and -but misunderstood people-sorry but they have no right to swear at you-and I protect you -and I hate children like you-sometimes they irritate me so much that it darkens me: @ -I understand you completely-others have no right to insult-the moderator said without insults-what will happens if I started and huh? it will probably be a pot of grapes

   author -and I would do so- if my friend had a child and I out of anger would hate him from the bottom of my soul-why he lied to you I do not understand-I know it's hard for you-but if you hate the child -separate instead of suffering -I don't understand what kind of man he is -why he lied to you -beat his penalty -it's not worth it to suffer -I hate children because they're really awful-and don't associate it with music -I listen to metal -from the heavy genres-supposedly death gothic and black-but it doesn't matter what music you listen to to hate children!I've hated them for a long time - I don't know why but I can't stand them - especially these paws of my two khakis from Sofia - I can't look at them - let alone hold them in my hands - and because of the ones I have to pretend to like them - but they are terribly slimy and I can hardly stand them - every time I clean they stain them again - and those newborns when I feed them and spit on me and raise such a cry that I can't sleep - I can't stand it anymore - I hate these lilglovtsi aa and something else the above should not insult or swear because they will be funny - what are they to insult me ​​without knowing me - not to bother at all; 2

   I hope you are happy with the advice I gave you-although I gave you examples with my slimy cousins ​​that I really can't stand-they always try to make you angry I clean and they get dirty-when I talk on the phone they shout in my ear and make misery when I'm guests-actually they live in Sofia but last year they broke grandma's flowers and made them white-the children are really terrible but anyway-I hope you're not angry that I'm giving you examples with my slimy cousins ​​-and listen to your heart -whatever you say-do it! :)

   author -and I would do so- if my friend had a child and I out of anger would hate him from the bottom of my soul-why he lied to you I do not understand-I know it's hard for you-but if you hate the child -separate instead of suffering -I don't understand what kind of man he is -why he lied to you -beat his penalty -it's not worth it to suffer -I hate children because they're really awful-and don't associate it with music -I listen to metal -from the heavy genres-supposedly death gothic and black-but it doesn't matter what music you listen to to hate children!I've hated them for a long time - I don't know why but I can't stand them - especially these paws of my two khakis from Sofia - I can't look at them - let alone hold them in my hands - and because of the ones I have to pretend to like them - but they are terribly slimy and I can hardly stand them - every time I clean they stain them again - and those newborns when I feed them and spit on me and raise such a cry that I can't sleep - I can't stand it anymore - I hate these lilglovtsi aa and something else the above should not insult or swear because they will be funny - what are they to insult me ​​without knowing me - not to bother at all; @

   Clearly you feel sick because you feel cheated. Only I, like the others, do not understand why you hate the child? He is not to blame for his parents' mistakes. Just because your boyfriend has a child doesn't make him a bad person. You're not a bad person either, because you're mad at him right now. Let me tell you one more thing - just because he has a child by another doesn't mean you can't be together. If he doesn't love her, don't live with her. This will not prevent him from taking care of the child, but it will also make it clear that he will not spend his life with someone he does not love (if he really does) just because someone thinks it is right. Let me tell you about my situation. We are a little older than you, so the child is older, but my friend has a child from another woman. Like yours, he was very young, crazy, and things happened. The girl said she would keep the baby and wanted to get married. And because "that's right," he agreed. They were married for 5 years when he decided that he could no longer live with a woman he did not love, even because of the child. They are divorced and now everyone is living their own life. My friend helps his ex and the child financially, they see each other from time to time. And we are together with the "sweet", we live together, we love each other, we plan to have our children. I get along with his child - I'm not his best friend, I'm not his mother, I'm just "daddy's girlfriend" who is there if he needs something. And there is nothing wrong with that. I do not love this child as I will love my children, but it is not his fault that he was born and that his parents do not understand each other. It is not their fault that they have separated and that everyone has their own life and a new relationship. I think you can at least talk to the boy. he may not have told you because he was afraid of your reaction. If he likes / loves you very much, he may have been afraid of leaving. I think it's a little scary ... He could stand in front of you and say exactly how things are. But he must have had a reason not to. Just keep in mind that this child will always be a part of his life and if you are not ready to accept him completely (not as a mother, but as a friend of his father) there is no point in trying to build something.

   I wonder how many of you have watched a spoiled foreign child, but to be with you every day, not to come for a weekend. Let only those who have just such experience answer me. Trying to please him with everything, not being able to reprimand him for anything, just walking after him day after day as a maid, without being able to tell him not to walk around the house in muddy shoes, to use a plate and to eat over the table. I don't say a word, when his father remarks to him, he bursts into tears, starts shaking and explains that he will commit suicide. And this is the beginning, my relative still took care of her husband's son, the same pampering as mine, he grew up and started to get together with bad company and smoke weed. And on top of that, to carry her to them, so her younger children had found her (common with the father of the "child"). You think that children are little angels with blond heads who can't wait to call you "mom," but in the real world that's not the case. You grit your teeth and endure, you brush constantly, you smile and you think "it will grow". The author has hardly encountered these things, but this post is for all of you who think that watching someone else's child CONTINUOUSLY is an easy job and if you love the father, you automatically love the child. When he comes and tells you that it is your fault that his mother and father are not together (even though they separated 3 years before you met his father), then love him. I am also a mother. My child is not perfect either. However, there are children who make you dizzy. Again, the author has hardly seen all these things that I have seen from another child. But don't speak as a last resort,

   Hello! I think when he's 21, you're even younger ... you don't need problematic relationships right now. You are in love, but you obviously don't know each other well enough - that is, you haven't been together for a long time. So to you your love is still only in pink, you believe that it is sincere and beautiful and the only obstacle to continue to be so is his innocent child. At the risk of taking me for evil, I will tell you one thing: do not hate, hatred destroys. Moreover, a being who has done nothing to anyone in his life. It did not appear of its own accord and unfortunately came across parents who are not a happy family. This trauma is enough for him to even feel sorry for him. When he is with you, your wonderful lover dumps him as unnecessary luggage. As advice, I see two options: - the better in my opinion: dump Dad. Person, who can talk to another woman in front of his child and tell him to be silent is terribly unscrupulous and hypocritical. I know you don't want to take things that way, but it's a fact. If a man loves you, he wants to reveal everything about himself and make you a part of his life. - The bad one: if you still decide to continue the relationship, work on yourself about your feelings for the child. You can like each other, children are innocent and helpless creatures. Even if you don't like children, hating them is unacceptable to me. He hates and fights with someone from "your category" - who is equal in strength and can retaliate. In this option, however, press the bastard - to meet his friends, to become part of his environment. Otherwise, it will continue as it has been for years - it is so convenient for him. You will feel bad - you will always comply with his schedule, on holidays you will be solo, you will always be jealous of his family. I wish you to grow intellectually and emotionally (because it seems that you really are not yet) and to be very happy!

   Leave the man alone, he has a wife and a child, how are you sure he doesn't love his wife, you're not inside him, you know. I think it's your fault when you found out you had a child, just retire, because because of you this child will be left without a father, what is your fault for hating him. Retire in time, let them live like a normal family, my parents are separated from it, only the children suffer, I know from personal experience what it is. Because of people like you, most families fall apart and how many innocent children cry ...