Horror! With a capital "U" ... Hello! I am an 18-year-old girl. About 3 months ago I met a boy .. He had just broken up with his girlfriend ... We started going out .. 1 .. 2 .. 3 .. 4 .. times and I told him that he would not get this from me which he wants .. Because it was obvious that after a long relationship he would not want something serious .. Then he told me .. Really in the beginning when we met I just wanted to fuck you but now when I met you what a man I see that you are not for this job .. Then we started kissing .. And he suddenly stopped writing and looking for me .. We met a week later and he told me that he had met his ex-boyfriend, and I did not say a word then he told me said "say something please don't be silent" and if I had said something would it have mattered? !! They are supposed to be in a relationship but she is in another city and they can't see each other, they won't see each other until Christmas .. Because we see each other for one reason or another he constantly tells me how much I liked him he couldn't stand looking at me and at least not touching me and all sorts of such nonsense ..
He constantly kisses me over 100 times I told him to stop leaving me that I do not want .. and he is like talking on the wall .. What to do with him? !! He is very nice to me .. he tells me a lot of nice things .. He constantly hugs me .. He constantly tells me how much I like him that he can't stand sitting next to him without me being his .. He constantly draws me something .. And when I ask him why you are with her, given that you talk to me like that and kiss me all the time? !! His answer is that he is very sorry and that he thinks that everyone deserves a second chance for those years that are together .. We work together and we can not see each other ..
And there is no way I want to ... Now he tells me how he wanted to make "love" with me .. and then we will be the same as before .. He would do everything for me to be nice .. And kfo? !! Then when your girlfriend came !? Emmy then a little pause and when he left again like that ... I'm tired of being rubbish .. It can be seen that he has some sympathy for me and that I have for him but I'm tired of everything being secret and secret because someone can see us ... What to do? !! What should I do? !! How will I watch the girl come .. Horror .. complete Horror .. It is obvious that he has some sympathy for me and that I have for him, but I'm tired of everything being secret and secret because someone can see us ... What should I do? !!
What should I do? !! How will I watch the girl come .. Horror .. complete Horror .. It is obvious that he has some sympathy for me and that I have for him, but I'm tired of everything being secret and secret because someone can see us ... What should I do? !! What should I do? !! How will I watch the girl come .. Horror .. complete Horror ..
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If you do not want to be 2nd, just end these contacts and make your relationship collegial. Unless he's a psychopath to start stalking you later. But you can hardly trust a person who is cheating, even though people change. But if he breaks up with his girlfriend and goes with you, he does NOT think that you will be the only one. 99% - he will tease another. Apparently she is one of those people who do not have enough of a woman. So there are just 2 extremes that are easy - either you are with him, but you do dirty or you just put a hard DOT. (except as I said if he's not one of those psychopaths - then I don't know ...; e) F, 19- Radish
I'm sorry, but the dude is trying to turn you around with acting skills! How do I know? Because I'm the same when they catch you, that is, when you tell him that you understand what he wants from you, most men say "oh no, that's not true", but in the cunning ones like us we admit, but we also say like this dude " but when I met you I realized what a valuable person you are "for example! And almost everyone is attached to it! I'm sorry, but I just got sick and decided to share with you 1 the many secrets with which 1 woman can be deceived! I hope you find someone who loves you, not just for sex!
Leave it! Does not deserve you. He tries to turn you on his little finger.
From personal experience I tell you, don't play the 2nd violin ... one day sooner or later it falls in a person's eyes ... it's a pity, and he is trying to turn you on his finger ... there is no way :) just don't give up ...
I agree with all the posts so far, but I didn't understand how he manages to kiss you like that, and you don't want that, does he rape you, threaten you with a gun or do you just respond to his kisses, which provokes him to continue to tease you?
The author: To number 5 .. It's really hard for me to explain it .. Maybe after everything that happened I really want these kisses .. Although I know it's not right .. If he really had stopped after all my words to him I said .. Let me not deal with me and he if really after his several "good" now nothing would be the same .. Anyway lately I do not respond to his hints at all I tell him sharply "aha. . well .. well done "or I don't answer him at all ... It doesn't make sense .. To the other comments I want to say thanks for the advice and especially to number 2. Do you know sometimes I say to myself .. What the fuck does he live once live as you want .. Another time I say to myself .. I am with him, I humiliate myself why should I be second when someone somewhere would give everything for me ..I'm very confused somehow .. The other day he went out he was drunk and call me because you don't call your girlfriend was a dude .. He's looking for me ..
"He had gone out the other day, he was drunk and call me, because you don't call your girlfriend, he was a dude. He's looking for me ..." ... because you're close at hand, she's far away. Isn't it insulting that the only thing you outdo his girlfriend in his eyes is that he can see you every day. If there were other advantages - he would definitely not reunite with her, but continue with you .... I'm not saying that she costs more than you, but that he is used to her, has good memories and will always attract him. But he is lonely and you are a vent for his passion.
get rid of it in the fastest way. I made the mistake of being with such a boy. It's the same case with me and now I'm somewhat sorry that I trampled on my dignity and became attached to him. Yes, everyone likes to be told nice things, but people like these guys don't deserve a gram of attention :)
So what's wrong with having fun, you're not married or have children, now is the time. And if it doesn't happen - good health. As soon as they start breaking up and reuniting, the song of their relationship is sung anyway, believe me. There is nothing to complain about, if it is not you, it will be someone else. For a serious relationship it may not be Mr. Perfect, but if it's for fun? !!
Dude wants to fuck you. Sorry. The right thing for you is to cut it COMPLETELY and FINALLY (but not to cut it for a month and then he roars how much he missed you and to believe that you are the love of his life ... men just want what we don't have) Also just from a purely human point of view, I think it's right to tell his girlfriend. Put yourself in her shoes, no one deserves a lie. M25
The author: Yesterday he went on a business trip for 2 weeks and called me to ask if I would miss him .. Finally he added that I hope to see you soon and I answered with "okay". It sounded a bit dumb but I don't care honestly .. To the comments .. Sometimes I think why not make fun as number 9 says but I don't seem to mind .. But I also agree with number 10 .. What if I was I in her place? !! But no, I wouldn't say .. I'm not the man .. I'm very confused ...
Author, I have the same as yours, tell me the same things. First he stopped calling you. because he thought that you would look for him and you would think that he didn't care about you and then maybe you would let him have someone to sleep with ... you didn't call him and that's why he started again to look for you. And maybe that thing isn't ... We are also colleagues and he has been explaining to me for almost a year that he really wanted us to be together, how come he doesn't lie to me and even turns to love me. This is a ball ... he wants to sleep never take a piece of advice with you and a colleague..Kill your time, don't be another number..he will not give up on you and weave.
Number 2 and can you fall in love with this girl? One more thing to ask if it is possible not to give up for months -7-8-9m attempts to sleep with some ... and this time and phone calls, sms, steaming kissing, etc. it feels can't he give birth
The author: Well .. here I am again 1 month after the above .. 1 month later I slept with him ... I did not regret ... But it did not turn out very well .. But once you live ... Now only forward
There is something that amazes me more than how two people like each other and do not sleep together. This is - how to sleep together ONCE and point. ???
Don't be attached to him if you consider yourself a smart girl. He doesn't even deserve the privilege of picking up his phone when he calls. Have a little pride;)
When one person wants to be with another person, he doesn't care about anything other than being able to be with the one he wants. He doesn't want to be with you, you are nothing special to him, he plays with you, maybe he likes you as an appearance only, but since he is still with his girlfriend, it means that you have not impressed him as a character. Open your eyes and leave, and if he takes you out and you don't care and you want sex with him without a serious relationship, then continue your relationship.