Hello everyone ... I'm a 19-year-old girl who isn't studying at the moment, can't work ... but not because she doesn't want to or can't find a job, but because of her boyfriend, with whom he lives together. He is obsessed with the idea that I don't have to work and only he has to bring the money home, and I just have to expect him from work and love him. I'm not saying that it was bad for me to lie down all day, for example, or sit in front of the computer, but it already fits ... Give me some advice, suggest a hobby or at least help me somehow find a home-based job ... that I won't work started outside, no, if I start we will fight constantly ... I'm tired of the gray everyday life and I expect someone to offer something ... and let it be different from watching TV, cleaning, cooking, etc. we turn it off and going out with friends ... they are common to me and my boyfriend and work like him,
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Enroll in a course. Languages for example. If you do not want to be among men, you can cosmetic - makeup, manicure, hairdressing. :)
My advice is to leave the boyfriend in question, who obviously has a tendency to jealousy, and therefore obsess and suffocate the person next to you. If he doesn't take you out, you stay with him and don't complain. But to count on something to change in the future, I don't believe will happen. The choice is yours!
What to say. Whatever you do to women, something will always be wrong :) I say it with the best of feelings. If your friend does absolutely everything you want, you will still not be satisfied and you will find something to complain about. Do you know how many billions of women envy you ...
Your husband has a very strange understanding. I don't think you can snap your fingers all your life. If you can work, go to work somewhere that you need for retirement later;) work experience. He wants to pamper you until you're 20-21, but I don't think he's okay. Start a job somewhere and gain experience and so one day you will realize yourself somewhere better and generally pursue your dreams. You don't know how long he will look at you like that and whether he will catch you one day. Nothing is sure. Everyone looks at him, so leave him, he does his best, and you? You get a profession, you become independent and so on. It is obligatory for a person to work, and as you lie down, imagine that you get used to it and then you will be lazy to work and you will withdraw from work or you will not be so diligent.
this Turkish mentality is a terrible thing .. try not to spoil your figure, otherwise you will be replaced. play sports and watch "desperate wives"
coffee ...
Believe me, I was in such a situation, NOTHING helps, I personally enrolled in a qualification course and did it, we took a dog - a dog, because I was really bored and wanted to distract myself, I also could not. I go out because I was in another city and I didn't know anyone, but I made a lot of acquaintances with the dog ... and yet we broke up, because such a life is not a life, but just a lonely existence .... if you don't talk to him one day I will you get tired of all this and at the smallest new thing in your life you will play it, if you love it talk to him .... otherwise to distract some animal, dog, kitten, walk in the park even alone what so much, read a book outside, listen to music outside, go shopping even if you don't buy anything you can still browse right?
Lucky !! How can you complain ????
I think start studying, because sooner or later you will break down and wonder where it came from. If you have the money, sign up to study. Tell him you want an education even if you don't work. Explain to him how you feel. If necessary, make a compromise and enroll in absentia. But this passed without education 20 years ago. You already need a university degree for everything.
Abe ... it's your own fault. How are you going to let someone else tell you what to do and what not to do? When you work - it works! Hah, let someone like yours fall on me, see how I will arrange it nicely ... I'm not a man-hater, but such complex types, who are afraid that their boyfriend might accidentally look at another man, are not to my taste at all.
Save yourself until it's too late. Time will pass and you will like another, and you will be left with nothing behind you.
Once he wants him to look at you like that, start studying. Tell him you want to grow, etc., why not work.
Well, write something down to study. Maybe in absentia. And my friend hints that I was sitting at home and only he was working, but it can't happen. He is more than happy at the moment because I am temporarily unemployed, but every time they call me for a job he is shocked and horrified :)) My advice is not to be fooled by your boyfriend's stupid complexes, because you are still very young and believe me, if you now think that you will be with him all your life, a year or two will pass and you will play it yourself. Now is the time to grow and build. Once your finances are enough, be sure to enroll to study. There are also forms of distance learning - from home.
I support 2, 4 and 10-girl, save your life, education and future, do not stand with such a powerful, jealous and Turkish-minded person! And you are young! I tell you from experience! We are in the 21st century, echo !!
Well, talk ... You can find a good job that is not for a whole day ... Let's say a teacher ... You will work until noon, and in the afternoon you will rest, housework, have fun. And when your boyfriend comes, you will wait for him - cheerful, rested and so on, you will both be happy. You are still young. Get educated! Grab life! With love, Katie (13)
You are 19 years old and you sit at home, cook, clean and wash all day? !!! Girl tighten up! If your friend loves you, he will want you to develop, not enslave you. Help you find a home-based job? !! What about simplicity? If you want me to give you some yarn to knit wool socks while watching November? !!