I know the topic of exes is taboo, but my friend knows exactly how many guys I've been with and what connections I've had. He asked me various things and I told him, precisely because I do not miss any of them and I love only him. But when I want to ask him about his ex-girlfriends, he keeps a top secret and doesn't want to say a word. He says he doesn't want to tell me. No reason. But I doubt there is something behind this secret that he may not want to know. What can he say about something in the past, he doesn't feel anything for them. On several occasions, when I managed to dig out very little of him, I caught him lying to me. First he says that he was with 4 girls and I am the fifth, and then after a while he lies that I am the fourth and he slept with only two ... then I don't know how this happens. And when I tell him I'm catching a lie, he says he doesn't want to talk to me about his ex. And he only seems to love me and they were a mistake. Is it so difficult to say briefly precisely and clearly ... I lose confidence, lately I doubt and I am offended ...
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I think you were his first and he is ashamed to admit it
And when you know how much he slept or didn't sleep, what will change? Empty female curiosity only brings gossip, intrigue and trouble! Live in the present and enjoy your relationship! ;)
In my opinion, his experience is too modest, and probably none at all, and that's why he pretends to be interesting, after all, he presented himself to you as a bigger man before. I know it's stupid, but men do such things - you have less experience, you increase it in a fairy tale, and only at a time when you really have accumulated a solid one are you completely honest :) For women, it's the other way around, sometimes you have to you reduce the number so that you don't look too light in the eyes of your new love, but that's the way it is in life, you won't worry, it's not a matter of trust, but of a male ego :)
why should you discuss your ex? For example, I'm crazy about my current one, but I don't want to talk to him about my exes precisely because they are past and I don't want to go back.
Well, I can't understand one thing - what the hell do you care, it's over, why are you harassing the man, if he doesn't want to answer you, why are you entering his personal space, I have no idea
As number 1 says, you are either his first or at most his second. How to share experiences after he misses? And even so, you're happy with him, aren't you, why do you have to ask questions that you can get a false answer to !? !?
Men are constantly increasing their number ... I went by a few years and only after a year and a half he admitted that I was his first, otherwise he claimed that I was the third ... and when I asked him why he lied to me, there was no logical explanation ...
Don't ask him, he obviously doesn't like this topic, are you his first or fiftieth does it matter? Do you think it would be nice if he told you, for example, that you are the tenth, believe me - it's better not to know how many girls he was with and why you should open such topics ... when my ex-boyfriend asked me about these things and I did not like it, he had more experience and it made me feel another, just the topics of the former and the numbers is very silly to comment in the end now you are together, what does it matter before how much he was and how much he slept, the important thing is that he is with you now. Also, don't get into movies that there was something because he didn't tell you how much he was with, if he had feelings for any of his exes, you'd know by now, he may simply have been a gaffer before dropping out in front of one of them and now not wanting to repeat his mistake. Let the boy find and love each other so important is the past. Sometimes women are too curious, but if he doesn't want to talk about it, leave the subject behind, don't press him when he wants to, he'll tell you. By the way, this is not a reason to doubt him at all ...
Just because you told him doesn't mean he should.
I find time to write to you now! I had 2 relationships (there were 3 women in total, the first was a girl, but we were friends). It was my student love, with which we broke off all relations after a party with my best friend !!! I obviously haven't been doing well since then! The other 2 need a lot of verbosity, but this is not the place for that ... !!! I wish you success and at least good luck to you !!!
And what is your problem? You shared how many exes you had because you wanted him. He didn't put a gun to your forehead and he didn't make you. Why do you expect him to follow your example? If you take money from a moneylender, for example, and get into debt, should he do the same? Your problem is some unjustified insecurity from his exes or you just want his number to be less than yours to feel like a winner in something. Either way, it's just your problem. Decide for yourself and don't involve your friend, because you will probably lose him if you are persistent and keep thinking about it. The past is past - we can neither change it nor need to remember it constantly. If he decides he doesn't want to tell you the truth, what's stopping you? If you lie to him about more important issues, then you will already have a problem, because you will not know what he is honest about and what he is not. But until then, we only have one insecure woman who digs hard through her partner's life without his consent, as if trying to ruin her relationship because she's afraid something might happen. Is that what you want to be?
In a relationship, they don't talk and comment about previous loves ... they just can't ... a man can talk about his previous ones in front of the woman who is with him now. Such things are not said. because they can only ruin the relationship, and it's none of your business who was with whom BEFORE. Only if the person decides whether to say something, but if he does not want to, do not press him and do not worry.
To the author from 10! When I want to be with one person, I will never look at another !!! Well, I can comment with friends which one is nice and worth it, but that doesn't mean I want to cheat or be with someone else! I am on the principle of "quality" instead of "quantity" and for me mine is the best once I have chosen it! If you want to know everything about him, why don't you talk "face to face" and blindly search the forums! I'm sorry, but a woman's worst advisor can be another woman ... not that she wants to let you down, it's just that women think differently, which often lacks any logic! At least I'm glad that I know women on the spot, but they are few and I'm glad that I can share with them and get a somewhat adequate answer (but I say only to a certain extent)! If we're together, I'll tell you everything if you're interested, but this has already passed for me and I am only interested in the woman (or the girl) I am with! If you don't believe him, then why are you with him, is there any logic? If you liked it, then it differs from the others by several different criteria, which you consider positive! The rest are people's opinions, from which you are obviously influenced !!! I liked a nice woman at university (a sporty girl with a gorgeous body), but I had to see for myself that it was not for a relationship, not to listen to the people around me! The same goes for the woman I was madly in love with, but she just showed off her asses without provoking her with anything! Some people don't have to have done something, they just live in a different way, which I consider immoral for the so-called serious relationship. If you really like it, act, and don't think too much about the well-wishers around you! See for yourself which interests you !!! From Rado