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He Hit Me

By imurguy30 August 17, 2020 40 answers Last updated August 17, 2020

My friend hit me several times, pushed me. He humiliates me and insults me because of his mistakes. He tells me that I got him off my nerves ... but he lies to me and accuses me of his own lies ... what should I do? And he says how much he loves me, how he can't do without me, he swears to me every day, he thinks about our future, he even wants children .... Help me what to do ...

Answers 40

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icucme3000 answered · August 17, 2020

   What answer do you expect to hear? Other than leaving him immediately, I don't think you'll get any other advice. And if you like to be humiliated, stay with him.

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awesome__girl answered · August 17, 2020

   Hi, I'm a boy, but I'll advise you and tell you something. As a child, my father hurt my mother, including physically ... even then I saw how sad my mother was, not because of the slap itself, for example, but because he had touched her at all. And I swear and hold on to tpva I never shout or hit ... that's not fair. You say he wanted a child, maybe he's manipulating you, but if he's honest ?? then he will completely relax and do not think that he will not touch and force you, this becomes a "habit" ... do you want your child to grow up in such a family? you are a WOMAN, put it in your head and demand respect at least, do not be resigned and to endure humiliation, at least, you are a human being, not a dog. It's hard, but find a boy who will appreciate you, not to be his servant and kick you when he's sorry ...

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gay4str8guys answered · August 17, 2020

   I don't know about you, I think what will happen to the children if you give birth to him ... it will be very unfortunate for them to watch the father beat the mother ... if a girl is born - bad (they take an example from their father when choosing a partner ), if you give birth to a boy - again bad ... it is very likely that he will become a rapist. No woman deserves to be hit by a man! Once he has done it, then he is able to do it many more times! leave him so that your life may be peaceful, otherwise you will not have peace for the rest of your life

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inferry answered · August 17, 2020

   You know very well what to do, but you just don't want to. If you don't want that kind of attitude, just leave.

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pxpi answered · August 17, 2020

   I'll tell you what - get out now, run with two hundred. If you connect with a child, it gets worse and worse. Save yourself while you can, and then a child will suffer with you. He swears to you when he feels sorry, then it is the same again and every blow, insult, push .... it will be stronger and more cruel.

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new2this_ answered · August 18, 2020

   Leave this man! Get out as soon as possible, seek help from relatives and friends.

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bliss answered · August 18, 2020

   Get away from this man !! What I'm telling you sounds scary, but you'll look even scarier after the beating. If he allows himself to do it, don't think that he will stop ... no, it won't get any worse, do you want such a father for your children ... he can also attack them ... realize !!

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karla_evans2 answered · August 18, 2020

   Are you crazy to have children of such a lunatic? How so what to do? Don't you respect yourself? The next time he hits you, you immediately go to get a medical and try him! How will you let some hysteric attack you? I am outraged at how some "men" behave. Leave him now, you have nothing to do with one.

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fredcheng83 answered · August 19, 2020

   Read this: There are no lone players in this game - at least two are always needed. As painful and insulting as it is, we must admit the truth - the game between the executioner and the victim is possible only if two people take part in it. Otherwise it cannot exist. Most women naively believe that they can change their partner through their love. If you are one of them, think carefully. The abuser can only change after a long treatment with a specialist, and this happens extremely rarely because he simply does not want to be treated. If you decide to leave him, he will cry, beg you, promise. Even if he sincerely believes in his words, in time he will do it again, because this is a style of behavior from which one cannot easily get rid of oneself.

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fclokomotiv answered · August 19, 2020

   What are you waiting for ?? 'men' ... Drop it before he kills you! They are like that .... They promise sweet eyes like that ... You give them sex and then when their desire passes, fight again! Fight fight ... I suggest you find a decent man and constantly show him that you are strong and that he can never afford to attack you. Don't be so open and kind and innocent defenseless and you will see that he will be more careful with you ... And the one who beats you knows that you will forgive him again and again and that is why he beats and humiliates you ... DO NOT GO LET MORE! DO NOT ALLOW THIS TO BE REPEATED OR SUBMITTED! .... Call a healthy friend of yours to beat him up and tell him not to approach you or he will have problems and you are ready. AND REMEMBER - SUCH PIGS NEVER BUT NEVER CHANGE ANYTHING THEY SAY AND PROMISE. NEVER NO. CHANGE! NEVER! Drop it and save yourself before it is fatal. No children from this one! None! Surely she drinks a lot of alcohol ...? Such insulators are useless ... PS ... It's best to find a wife. ;) lesbians don't do such things. And before you say this one is crazy this one I don't know what, think ... Would a woman hit you like that? At most one slap and a joke. Would a woman humiliate and treat you this way? NO! Women are also better at sex. They know the places to touch what to do ... A woman will cook for you as you cook for her, she will take care of you and not you for a pig to constantly cook, set the table and clean the laundry and everything we do. .. And then a thank you for not telling you ... And to beat you? !? !? Such an OUT! CLEAR? КАПИШШ ??? ? Such insulators are useless ... PS ... It's best to find a wife. ;) lesbians don't do such things. And before you say this one is crazy this one I don't know what, think ... Would a woman hit you like that? At most one slap, and it's a joke. Would a woman humiliate and treat you this way? NO! Women are also better at sex. They know the places how to touch what to do ... A woman will cook for you as you cook for her, she will take care of you and not you for a pig to constantly cook, set the table and clean the laundry and everything we do. .. And then a thank you for not telling you ... And to beat you? !? !? Such an OUT! CLEAR? КАПИШШ ??? ? Such insulators are useless ... PS ... It's best to find a wife. ;) lesbians don't do such things. And before you say this one is crazy this one I don't know what, think ... Would a woman hit you like that? At most one slap, and it's a joke. Would a woman humiliate and treat you this way? NO! Women are also better at sex. They know the places how to touch what to do ... A woman will cook for you as you cook for her, she will take care of you and not you for a pig to constantly cook, set the table and clean the laundry and everything we do. .. And then a thank you for not telling you ... And to beat you? !? !? Such an OUT! CLEAR? КАПИШШ ??? Would a woman hit you like that? At most one slap, and it's a joke. Would a woman humiliate and treat you this way? NO! Women are also better at sex. They know the places to touch what to do ... A woman will cook for you as you cook for her, she will take care of you and not you for a pig to constantly cook, set the table and clean the laundry and everything we do. .. And then a thank you for not telling you ... And to beat you? !? !? Such an OUT! CLEAR? КАПИШШ ??? Would a woman hit you like that? At most one slap, and it's a joke. Would a woman humiliate and treat you this way? NO! Women are also better at sex. They know the places how to touch what to do ... A woman will cook for you as you cook for her, she will take care of you and not you for a pig to constantly cook, set the table and clean the laundry and everything we do. .. And then a thank you for not telling you ... And to beat you? !? !? Such an OUT! CLEAR? КАПИШШ ??? CLEAR? KAPISH CLEAR? KAPISH

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markharrison4 answered · August 19, 2020

   You have no respect for yourself Woman 32

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dirty_taboo13 answered · August 20, 2020

   Give it up. I hate the word provocation the most. Everyone has a brain in their head and is responsible for their actions. What does it mean that someone provoked him? He is responsible for his own actions, no one else is to blame. In this respect, people do not change.

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kikaysquirter answered · August 20, 2020

   I'm 16, I've never had a boyfriend. But my mom always told me that if a man hits me once, he tends to do it 10 more times ... and that in that case I should leave him right away .... really, that's the right thing to do. But before that you can tie him while he sleeps and hit him with glass bottles :)

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summy_ answered · August 20, 2020

   Honey, run fast and far !!! This is a person with problems, you need to understand that this is NOT normal! If he manages to make a child for you, you and your child will suffer to the grave. Over time, he will encroach on you more and more freely and humiliate you, and then the child, is that what you want? Even if you love him, think for yourself and find someone else who respects and loves you, but really, because it is not the words but the actions that determine things. Respect is NOT for someone to hit, insult and humiliate you !!!

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leejeonghoon answered · August 21, 2020

   Drop it :)

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mephemism answered · August 21, 2020

   Get away from him, or try to tell him these things and tell him that if he wants to be together, he needs to fix his relationship. But personally, in my opinion, with such a person a good future does not await you. Run away!

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jillzarin answered · August 21, 2020

   The answer is one - leave him and do not believe him.

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natashaa_10 answered · August 21, 2020

   In such cases, smarter people understand that it is better to be alone than badly accompanied. There is no point in more talk - the smart one understands a little. To talk to a deluded / stupid person - no use.

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kathiecobatss answered · August 22, 2020

   If you think this is love with these humiliations and blows, be careful if you become married to this person. Look for the mistake in yourself and if you can't behave normally with each other, don't doom your future children to watch your fairs in time.

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vanlave answered · August 22, 2020

   Stay and do not listen to the minds above. A man who truly loves you will beat you. Only the females don't do it ...

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derekctor answered · August 22, 2020

   The man is complex and that's why he hits you. Whether it's his fault or yours, he'll keep hitting you when he's angry. Apologizing and asking for forgiveness does not make him any different from the most ordinary abuser. It will not change. Run and don't look back. If you turn around, you will still be in his hands - hugs, kisses, fights and so on indefinitely.

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burn_i answered · August 22, 2020

   See what he may want children and a family, but only a woman without self-respect would tolerate him ... and how long will he endure until he enters the hospital! This woman can be you, you cause it yourself because you are with him, you will ruin your nerves, your appearance and you will waste your years and when you realize you will not be able to find another because you will be a wreck, I tell you very seriously !!

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bimalemike18 answered · August 22, 2020

   A man who strikes a woman is no man at all. You don't need one, but you'll probably stay with it again. I don't know why the topic was released at all.

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fayskorda answered · August 23, 2020

   Invented by a teenager. Not that such things don't happen all the time, it's just that it's made up.

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imperialis2 answered · August 23, 2020

   Run! This is typical behavior of a domestic abuser! First he loses his temper over something you're not to blame for, hits you, and then he suddenly remembers how much he feels sorry for you, how much he loves you, and how it will never happen again ... and so on until next time! You write that he is only your friend, but imagine getting married and living together. Every time he has problems at work, he will make fun of you! Is that what you want? To become a punching bag? !! Not to mention that they sometimes touch their children. Is this the future you want for your future child? To hide so that his father would not beat him? !! Honey, get your hands on it and GET OUT of it now! Otherwise you will be bitterly sorry!

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cristinewhite answered · August 23, 2020

   And to tell you that he loves you - what does it matter? Do you want such love? !!! ???? !? !? !! It's your fault you're standing with him. Life is one and it is yours - what do you lose with some garbage. I will tell you something. It is very difficult to take such a step as leaving the person next to you - especially if you have been together for a long time. But do it - for your own good. In time you will thank yourself. He probably won't let you go easily. He will follow you and PRAY to you and swear to you that he will change. DO NOT trust him. And even so - again ... what does it matter since he has already disappointed you? It will be difficult, but you owe it to yourself - even this will make you stronger - the very decision to lose it. You tell him you're not happy and you don't want to be together anymore and that will be the best solution ... In time you will catch a more normal person, who will appreciate you and then you will be happy and you will ask yourself "What are you doing with this man, why was I so resigned and endured for so long ...". You must be younger and that's why you put up with it, but I tell you - and not only me, but everyone else - run away from him and never start a family with him. You will never be happy with such a person. Any self-respecting woman would rather be ALONE than with a man who behaves this way. Have a little self-esteem. behaving in this way. Have a little self-esteem. behaving in this way. Have a little self-esteem.

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jonaskings answered · August 24, 2020

   11 pending comments ... Is it okay? For the last 2 days nothing has happened in this semblance of a site.

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piamuehlenbeck answered · August 24, 2020

   Malee, number 21, are you doing that with your girlfriend? Yes, that's how it will beat you to look like a wreck and no man can look at you after it unless you want to sit and wait for each successive blow .. but this is very serious that I tell you because I was with such a person. Listen to me and get out while it's time! What is happening to you will be just the beginning, rejoice that he has not yet managed to make you a child because it will ruin your life! I understand you, I know how you feel, it will hurt you a lot, but you will experience it and you will realize that this is not his love at all!

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_precious_ answered · August 24, 2020

   From the author - I did not speak correctly about this I want a more accurate opinion. He only slapped me once because I hit him hard in the head. He said he didn't hold back, and that he hated being hit in the head. He then apologized and said it would not happen again. we've been with him for 2 years, he's exceptionally good ... I don't know if it's his fault or mine, but he started his previous relationships, which were disgusting, he thinks he's lying to me about everything and I'm making scandals out of it. times, he pushed, he broke, but not me. has encroached. It only happened after I hit him. I know he loves me, he does everything for me .... I've allowed him to hit me before, he didn't fight back ... but now he obviously couldn't stand it anymore ... is it normal, I want to know that .. .

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anata_dolce answered · August 24, 2020

   The author, for me, it all started with a slap in the face and went into a beating, after which I entered the hospital, only then I came to my senses. He prays to me, roars, makes fairs for me, persecution, harassment, do you know how long I couldn't get rid of him. Now he has found another victim and calmed down, but I can't forget what I experienced with him and that because of my stupid love I stood and endured!

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thiagosilva_33 answered · August 24, 2020

   My opinion as a man and a man is that you do not respect yourself! I will not comment on the physical violence that you allow to be imposed on you and the fact that other people will understand. These insults that may now be between you will soon be heard by your loved ones. Your friends will feel sorry for you and your acquaintances will talk about you, men will look at you like a rag, but that will happen. And I lost my temper when we fought with my girlfriend, but I can control myself ... and yours can't! If you can't think of a lasting separation right now, give yourself at least 3, 4 months!

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mocafcc answered · August 25, 2020

   Without being influenced by the comments, I try to find fault with the author, because her friend's fault is obvious and difficult to forgive / he hit her /. I'm looking for the reason, because if they are together and making plans for the future, then there are feelings between them. So, first it struck me that he was lying! Why a man needs to lie, why he hides the truth, whatever it is. The most likely answer is that the author makes scenes when she is told an unpleasant truth about her. Accordingly, he makes efforts to invent lies in order to save scandals. However, when the lie is exposed, it raises a scandal, and he is angry that he could not save the circus and has no effect, which he sought from his efforts to invent a lie. However, if a scandal becomes hysterical, is it normal to slap a person who is hysterical to realize it? Do you need to last, whatever you have done, hysterical shouts and unpleasant words. I don't know and I haven't heard anyone jump to beat and insult their loved one for no reason, there is always a reason. The reason for every scandal or encroachment is always that one of the partners expects something from the other, and he does not even remember to fulfill it. The author jumps with her weapon scandals or quarrels, and her boyfriend jumps with his weapon "stronger hand" and hits. I am of the opinion that if for the author the reasons for the lies are so painful that they make her draw her weapon, it is better to leave him and find someone who does not make such mistakes and does not need to invent lies. That is, if it is intolerable for you for him to sometimes spend money on poker, for example BGN 20-50 per month, it is better to break with him now than to make him invent lies every time, that he was with Pesho and pickpockets stole his wallet with the BGN 20 in the minibus. If the author stays with her current partner and has to rethink her behavior when learning the truth, it is clear that he will not stop lying, but it is certain that if the author does not make scenes when learning the truth, he will not draw his weapons, it is even likely if she accepts the truth more casually, he won't even bother to make up lies. A person's life is his and he decides for himself what is more important for himself. If a man decides that he often enjoys the pub until 2 in the morning, risks losing his wife, children, that even his home, from there the cards are in the hands of his wife, she decides whether with or without him it will be more pleasant in life, there is no point in trying to change it. She decides if and to what extent she is dependent on him.

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funmustgoon answered · August 25, 2020

   eee, author, if you want adequate comments, describe the situation accurately and clearly, without saving anything! first you write: "he hit me several times, pushed me. He humiliates me and insults me because of his mistakes", then in the comment you specify: "He slapped me only once, because I hit him hard in the head." !!! which of the two is true? if it is the second, you are a likeness, you beat him, he replies, you are exactly for each other. nowhere is it said that only men should not resort to violence! why do you think you are only allowed because you are a woman? if your comment is correct, yes, it is normal for a person to get tired of it, because he has obviously exhausted the possibilities for human treatment of you. and yet I still think that you don't explain things like people do, because it was not clear what he was lying to you about, what mistakes he was accusing you of, then he said that he was very good ...

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carnage answered · August 25, 2020

   32 / Author, Hah! That's what I call a 180 degree difference. You ask if it is normal for you to beat him? Yes of course! If you are a woman, you have the legal rule to beat your husband if he wants to break. This is not sexist at all, and this is not sarcasm of mine at all. I know that no one cares about domestic violence by women against men and that we find it ridiculous, but it has obviously come to the point where women themselves are not sure whether it is normal or not to beat their husbands.

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di3sel answered · August 25, 2020

   Abe, I don't know which of the two is guilty, but you'd better separate. Because if you stay together, you won't be able to endure it for long. unpleasant consequences. You just need a different type of people as partners. His husband needs a woman with a softer character, and the author needs a more patient and calm person.

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sensual_sue answered · August 25, 2020

   You say one thing after another, but I rather think that what you wrote at the beginning is the truth, maybe just for you the idea of ​​separation is unacceptable. It is clear that you love him but you will not change him, if you get used to keeping silent it will be much worse, I say it because I have been with such a man. I pretended not to pay attention so that we wouldn't fight, but when he saw that I was giving him such freedom and he started going to other women, he cheated on me. I couldn't accept it, everything else but no, we quarreled and he hit me twice, he had bruised my eye and what do you think I did ... I left! Don't get pregnant by him before you're sure his relationship won't happen again, don't ruin your life! Do not change yourself and your principles, stick to your own, because if you close your eyes, others will crush you and lie like that for the future!

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xserrano9 answered · August 25, 2020

   Do you want to hit him and let him look at you like a submissive dog? Well, I expressed another opinion above, but now that you remember to specify - of course, he has the right to answer you. Although I don't understand why it lasts you at all.

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lovecdfeets answered · August 26, 2020

   I told you it was invented №27

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_kxtjx answered · August 26, 2020

   I give you a maximum of 1.2 more years if you do not kill yourself, and your poor future child will suffer the most. normal children! You unlocked the man's aggression, let him recover at least. Because of people like you, we use violent methods even though we don't want him, live a little longer and you will understand your mistakes!

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quentinbigdick999 answered · August 26, 2020

   Do you know that saying that "if something happens once - there is no guarantee that it will happen again, but if it happens twice - it will have a third, and fourth, and fifth and ..... so indefinitely" ? Well, this does NOT apply to the beating - I will tell you from personal experience, and as I see - and you have the same - I had a relationship a little more than three and a half years with someone like yours, not to say 1 to 1. And in the last no such case — an attack by him on me — and his mother was present. And do you know what SHE told me - once she reaches out - she will reach out all the time! And she also knows it from personal experience. So - press your rags or force him to press his. There are no irreplaceable people. Have a little self-esteem, it is clear that he is garbage.