I have a relationship with a colleague who is 13 years younger than me. Wow, right ! It happened by chance at a party of our company and we have been together ever since. No one knows! Only my closest friends and his friends. There is no significant visual difference - he looks more mature, and I look younger ... Some of my friends say that we are very close .. We are very nice when we are together - we talk about different topics, we think alike about values in life, we have similar interests, a sense of humor on one level..We love to be together - we cook, watch movies ... In short: it's nice to be together. Not to mention sex - it's fantastic! We like each other very much! The cutest teddy bear in this world! We have not had scandals, quarrels - yes, but somehow human. We have never, but never taken offense! We may not have heard from each other for a few days (3 days is our longest average!) Because we were angry with each other, but we never took offense! It changed me in a good way. I want everything when I know it's next to me! I am so happy when I am with him that I want to kiss the whole world with happiness! I love him very much. And he loves me .. I don't know what to do ?! I want our relationship to develop, but he worries. It is not clear how theirs will react, colleagues ... We tried to separate twice, but we couldn't, and I don't think we both wanted to ... I'm ready to fight for our relationship. Love it! I love him very much. And he loves me .. I don't know what to do ?! I want our relationship to develop, but he worries. It is not clear to them how they will react, colleagues ... We tried to separate twice, but we couldn't, and I don't think we both wanted to ... I'm ready to fight for our relationship. Love it! I love him very much. And he loves me .. I don't know what to do ?! I want our relationship to develop, but he worries. It is not clear how theirs will react, colleagues ... We tried to separate twice, but we couldn't, and I don't think we both wanted to ... I'm ready to fight for our relationship. Love it!
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If only age is a "problem", you have nothing to worry about. Let relatives and friends think what they want!
I have been in similar situations. I met friends who were younger than me. And the most amazing thing was that each one was more and more different from my age. We got along great, but I always wondered how long that could last. I felt an incredible horror that the moment would come when I would be a wrinkled grandmother and be something like the mother of this man, who is ten years younger than me. I am convinced that nature follows its laws. And they are sometimes cruel. I wish the creator of the theme to keep this state for a very long time. I hope that people's envy and people's opinion do not become a reason for separation from the partner. I am disturbed by the fact that this relationship is not legalized - ie it is kept secret. There is also some hesitation and fear of how he will be perceived by the boy's parents, and that, in my opinion, means that parents have influence. And in fact, why isn't public opinion so critical if the man is much older? But if it is a marriage between an older woman and a very young man - then everyone looks with irony at such a relationship and thinks that this love will not be very lasting.
I must be smaller than you. From everything I've read, I understand that your love is real. Don't spoil things because of this difference. It doesn't matter if there is love. Try to be together. There is nothing to lose. You would lose if you did not experience it. Enjoy the moments together and don't be bothered by people's talk. You will be the one to live with this boy. Success!
Hello, I will only say that I am a mature woman and I have a friend who is 15 years younger than me, not even 30 years old, but there is no person with whom I have felt closer both spiritually and physically! Live your time, you will not regret it!
Hello. I dare not give advice. Everyone knows themselves and their relationship best and no matter how similar they are to someone else, they are still different. I just want to recommend you watch a movie. He may answer your questions. I don't know, but I think it's really nice to see him. It's called "Prime", it's in Zamunda. Success, happiness and a lot of love!
Thank you all! You are very kind! Everything you say I "chewed" it in my head and for that I could not refrain from writing it in the forum ... The bad thing is that He does not know what to do and I do not know what is the right decision - to go through or continue !? I want our relationship to develop, I want to have a child ... As I said, I want to fight because I love him, but I don't want things to happen by force and I don't want to cause him unpleasant emotions, because I love him again!
In my opinion, it doesn't matter how old you or he is, once you make love, there should be no power to separate you. You should not be influenced by other people's opinion, let people say what they want, the important thing is to be together and to love each other, if you want, write to me at [email protected]
Other people's opinion is not important, but sometimes it is decisive, if your love is not very strong, it will not withstand criticism, but if you love yourself truly and strongly, nothing can stop you!
There is something similar with me, but the years bother her a lot and I can't find a place ... !!!
I do not know what to say. at the moment I am in a similar situation - I even think that the situation is more complicated for me. I'm older than him by 20 years. We don't stop chatting for now / a meeting is coming / we hear each other every day, he has a wife and a child, me too, I wonder every day what I do - is it right, but for the heart age no, it does not age. and you, dear, follow your heart. and I dare not think about myself-can I forget it one day, so we told each other everything about myself, I do not know what to do, give me advice
Girls, a 40-year-old man is writing to you. Stop fooling yourself. This man in 15 years will be in full swing, and the author / accept my apologies / will be an aging woman. If you want your relationship to be a stormy party, continue together, despite your age. But if you want to raise children together, please consider the madness of this relationship. She is simply doomed forever. And let's not be fooled. The boy may see his mother in you. There are many psychologists who have written on this topic.
11, I wonder what you would say if the man was older.
Don't worry, people will get used to it. My friend lives and has a 12-year-old child with a man 18 years younger. Now she is 53 and he is 35 and they are still in love. No problem.
my aunt has the same relationship .. people's opinion left it .. but as in this case, and vice versa - when the man is much older, age worries me .. that my aunt's relationship was with a man 18 years older adult ... and when he turned 65, she left him because of this young man .. and they lived together for 20 years .. yes, 1 is a man around 37-8, another is 65, right ?? but what is the guarantee that tomorrow, when my aunt becomes a grandmother, this young man will not look the other way,,, age matters. think, author!
To the man of 40 :)) Keep up and you will be young and beautiful and no one will give you the age, but it is important r how much you feel :) And the most important thing is to be loved and to be truly loved in this life !! If the male part of humanity has strong relationships with younger women (many examples), the female part should also have! Not to mention that women are more resilient than men by nature (because they create a generation)! It's just some stupid model (probably created by men) to accept a relationship only between an older man and a young woman. Dare! :))
15 is very right, but I would add to the argument that women in this country live at least 10 years longer than gentlemen, so they would be longer together. Otherwise, men create a generation, but they do not bear children and do not give birth to them - I do not know now how much it is a matter of endurance and will. The man of 40 has more or less the right, but it depends on the case. I know such a family, the woman is only 6 years older and exactly in the 40's the man had problems - he wants to do something, she has them, she is afraid of losing him for a younger and not him puts nowhere, horror! But why should we always think of family, generation, 20 years together? Can't we live here and now - drink today from love, who said we would be here tomorrow? Why should we limit ourselves - to set boundaries such as age, gender, nationality - people, love is a rare enough flower, take it and don't let it go until it withers! Do not deprive yourself of it, if you have fallen - you live once !!! I myself am 20 years older than me and no one dares to tell me a button! Beside me, he lost weight, somehow shone and lived in a different way - no one can give him more than 40 years now. Whatever happens - we will be together as long as we can! Live once and now!
Let me get involved to express a position on the role of the victim. I had a friend who was 11 years younger than me. I really loved him, he also claimed this and proved it many times, but due to constant talk and torment because of the age difference he decided to leave. I can't blame him, but it hurts because of hope and love. Now she is with another, again bigger, but only with 4 years. He said he would be with her to forget me, but it was a farce. My dear, I will only give you advice, if he is not ready for such a relationship, do not force it on him and you better leave first so that you do not experience the pain and humiliation that I am experiencing at the moment.
Hello, number 17! The story is copy-paste. Be strong and leave first! As long as you can ... I still can't ... Block and humiliation have no equal ... A month has passed since your writing ... I hope you have overcome it ...
HOLD YOUR LOVE tightly, what if it's smaller? Can't he love? It happened to me recently, I fought for a long time, but in the end I decided that I wanted him as much as he did and I would do my best to keep him as long as possible.
Why do you say "wow" and think it's wrong? !! It's perfectly fine. Well, if love is mutual, of course. If he's a man on the spot, great. But if he is a mother's son who listens to "people", "colleagues", mom and dad, and worries - then there will be no good development. I hope your friend is not like that, I hope you are happy!
Rejoice for 1-2 years
Hold on for life! Finding a partner that suits you 100% is the most difficult task in this world!
It is not bad to have a relationship if you are happy. But it is quite logical that if you get married and have been together for years - then after a while he, as a younger person, is very likely to want someone younger, to be attracted to other women, years younger than you. On the other hand, if you want a serious relationship (marriage, children) then you must be aware that you are for each other and you are confident in each other. You have to think things through very carefully and be far-sighted, because after all, marriage and children are a serious thing and there is no point in pretending that a person is not sure. You need to talk to him. And if you don't want to, then enjoy the relationship and be happy as long as the circumstances give you a clear answer. :) In the end - happiness in the first place.
It doesn't matter There is no age for love :)
I haven't read the comments because, in general, I don't see a problem. You're just looking for attention. You are both adults and you love each other - what would people say? - Another soap. Dig a little - here there are plenty of topics with a similar title, but the cases are far more complicated. These are underage girls and their friends who are good friends of the family or hold prestigious positions. It's interesting there - when the law is firmly against. And you're just being talked to - well, go out and talk about it with a friend. When the Law, Organizations, Relatives and even the media are against. then it is interesting. And what is the obstacle for you that you care about people's opinion? Well, if you care less, you will have less problems.
It's different to be with a younger boy :). And I don't mean you're 25, he's 15, for example ... If you're 40 and over ... it's okay to have sex with a younger ...
I don't see a problem in that, once you understand each other, but if I could have a partner 13 years older than me ... mmm yes (because I'm 17)