He Is 20 Years Older Than Me

   Honey, you don't say anything about this man's marital status ... You let us guess. It is clear that he is married .... And you are very wrong! But you will find out later.

   If you truly love him, you should not care about people's opinions. If you listen to him, then you yourself doubt the rightness of your actions.

   You don't care at all. I know a couple with a difference of 27 years!

   Well, artists are the most attractive after 40 years. You may really like it, but in time, if it is not financially beautiful, you will get bored .... That's why people make you crazy ....

   Hello, it is normal for everyone to react maliciously to such a relationship. Imagine the following: You marry him, after a while you have children, while the children grow older, he grows older. You become 35-40 years old and you still need sex, and he can no longer give it to you. You want it or not, because of your need and desire you will look for another man younger, maybe your age or a little older .At home everything can be paid to have everything, but your love has evaporated.People's eyes will never stop.Then you will wonder why before you were young you did not go to parties to meet young people and you will wonder why you chose such an old man. You will be ashamed to show your face in front of people in public with this man. You will be happy to be with him and people will say to themselves:She made a mistake when she chose him, or why did she bring her grandfather here? If you want to be with him. There are people who make a big difference and are happy, but most are unhappy because of their choice.

   Once you are together and love each other, be happy! Let people talk, you can't please everyone :) A LOT OF SUCCESS!

   Anyway, look at it ... bad job. A relationship without a future. The difference is too big, and we don't go against nature. Now everything may be pink, but there will come a time when it will not be, be sure. I'm not a moralist, I myself have a relationship with a man almost 16 years younger than me. I even love him, and what of it ...., it is clear to both of us that there is no future. We have been living day in and day out for three years. And just the thought that one day he will go his own way kills me. I try to think soberly, but I often argue that I got involved. That's why I advise you ... not that I don't understand you ... on the contrary, but ... this is life. Everyone is in their time.

   I agree with number 5 ..

   Not all such relationships are doomed to failure. My husband is 18 years older than me, we have been together for over 10 years and I can safely say that I feel like the happiest woman in the world. №5 I have never been ashamed to "show my face to people" with this man - on the contrary! Our first child will be born at any moment - I'm not ashamed of that either! We go to the doctors together and no one is impressed by the difference in our age. And as for our sex life - and it is unchanged from how we are together and I will hardly ever have to "look" for another man. The fact is that many of these relationships end ingloriously, but not all, for God's sake! Yes, people probably think and write scripts, but this (at least in my case) was a test of our love. And we endured it! Well, dear author, I think you should be aware of that first, what do you and the man next to you want from your lives and if that being together is stronger than everything else, you will endure! Ignore people's talk, disregard the well-wishers, but only if you really mean a lot to each other and love each other. Otherwise, end this relationship until it has caused you injuries that will be difficult to heal in the future. Greetings!

   My dear hello and from me Rosiros at 49 years old. If you know LARA, the wife of VLADO BEREANU ... their age, if I'm not mistaken, is 19 ... I recently read on the Internet ... how she cried in the show "CAFE" at the GALA. BECAUSE ... the r-kata is already having an influence, it has no common interests, they have nothing to talk about, it is partying on it, it is scary for it to sit at home, it is such a r-ka in the year and in the generations .But there is another moment ONLY if he is on your MIND. And he is a tireless partygoer, it depends on the person ... But still, I tell you from experience, I had a marriage with 13 years. I can't get bigger .... I'm 49 now. He's 62 years old. He doesn't look like anything ... It's good that I left him when I was 35. Now I'm a very happy woman. Really think seriously, there are no accidental stories and attacks against YOU ... Everyone thinks well of you. You haven't lived long enough, at the time I didn't listen to anyone.

   Would you describe how you see your future with this man? There will always be choir talk, but it's hard for me to put myself in your parents' shoes in a situation like this. You are still a student, don't you think first about realization and then about everything else? Winnie the Pooh

   I hope number 5 opens your eyes ON TIME, then you and your children will suffer a lot :(

   Until the age of 69, this is love - as soon as it kicks and kicks in the ass! There are younger ones! Love is the butterflies in the belly and the concern and passion and everything is fine with this person, age is not an obstacle! I am surprised by your thinking Lara is a special case, not a summary!

   In my opinion, the author herself knows the answer to the question / what to do / only she is aware of how things are between them, how much they love each other, do they want a common future, etc. It is quite clear that 90 percent of these relationships do not have a happy family. future, and fall apart, is unless the man has a lot of money to have something to keep her after the love disappears, but then, it is not very certain whether he will not change it for something younger later. At the moment, the author is in love, and now I will listen only to the advice they give, not to those who think they are right. I guess most of us know that when a person is in love he does not think soberly, he thinks with his heart. There are few strong people who both love and think soberly and when they see that = a relationship has no future, they say no more than once and move on. This is at least the case of the author. She both claimsthat they love each other, he pays attention to people's stories and asks for advice from us. life. if this is a problem for you from now on, then when he becomes a grandfather and you are a mature woman, what will you do, you should not think that then the comments will be less or more harmless. if you love each other really forget what and that, and if you can't, then you're not for each other, and then just listen to these people and separate. I guess you asked for advice here, because you wanted us to dine with you, how are you not the only one, how is that is something normal, and how when there is love, age is not important, but if you yourself doubt it, whoever tells you it will not help you. so think as soon as only a few months,human words cause a shake in your relationship, then what will you do next.

   You don't have to care about people's stories ...... They always talk to each other with or without an occasion .....

   Until the 13th I didn't leave my first husband just because he was older than me. I didn't listen to my parents, friends, acquaintances, he was a drunkard, sickly jealous, he wouldn't let me go anywhere alone ... I DIDN'T LOVE HIM. .... By the way, how to live without love? And I have not caught up with a younger, as you write, but with a 5-year-old girl. With my current partner there is a thrill, love ..... Lara is not a special case and she is a man of the people. Rosiros

   №16, and what is the guarantee that someone younger than your first husband cannot be a drunkard, jealous, etc.? Lara is a very special case!

   № 17th There is no guarantee ..... That's right ... But according to my life experience, ie from what I have seen around me, it really seems that the big difference in age has an impact / sooner or later /, the interests diverge , the younger one wants one, the more sedentary one to smell the PILLOW BECAUSE HE HAS GAINED, and from there the disagreements begin. ONE HAS MADE A LIFE, and the other is still living. Sorry for the repetitions. But there are also many people who are born PENSIONERS, and partygoers like me in those years. It is very difficult to fit in with your partner. That is what I mean. Rosiros Greetings

   I suggest that RossiRos set up a complaints and grievance bureau and give advice free of charge - she knows everything about everyone and please don't argue with capacities like her!

   The happiest family I know is 17 years apart.

   You don't have to care about anyone. Don't think about what will happen in 10 years, live for the moment. If you are happy now, just live for the moment. I am also in love with a man 20 years older than me and I am sorry that I am not alone with him. Because he's worried but I'm not.

   Really live for the moment! And I am a man 21 years older than me and we feel great! Don't care for a while, the important thing is to be well now, and in time you will think of him. ;)

   Love it and don't care about anything, but don't expect much from this relationship, just a memory :)

   Hello, I am 28 years old, I recently broke up with my husband, from whom I have a 7-year-old girl. Our difference was 7 years. Now I live with a 48-year-old man. of whom I have a 4-month-old boy. We fell in love very much, everything was like a fairy tale, and it still is. We work in a hospital and we heard insults and ridicule, even his daughter from his first marriage who is 25 years old. he was against our relationship. When the baby was born, she loved him very much, and we became close too. She is now pregnant too and it has become very interesting. We both proved to everyone that we can be happy, we have common interests, even common dreams, we like to travel to different places and experience unforgettable moments. I am very happy and he is very happy that I gave birth to a son, he helps me a lot for the baby and the other child, very often in the morning I find notes with love messages and words of thanks that come directly from his soul. I am a very suspicious person, I have always said that there is no love, but fate has shown me that I am wrong. When there is love, everything looks different and difficulties are overcome more easily. I'd rather be sorry for something I did than for something I failed to do. Because of people's opinion, I will not give up my happiness and no one knows, I can leave this world sooner. I want as much life as I have to live it the way I want. I wish the author to be as happy as I am I'd rather be sorry for something I did than for something I failed to do. Because of people's opinion, I will not give up my happiness and no one knows, I can leave this world sooner. I want to live as much life as I want. I wish the author to be as happy as I am I'd rather be sorry for something I did than for something I failed to do. Because of people's opinion I will not give up my happiness and no one knows I can leave this world sooner. I want to live as much life as I want. I wish the author to be as happy as I am

   Hello! I understand you very well because I have a relationship with a 26 year old ... we love each other very much and I will never leave him. Most will tell me that I am mistaken and that I am only there to be used, but I see that this is not the case ...

   Well, I'm very happy for you, did he have another family or you, so you can compare. It is important that you both know exactly what you want from life, age does not matter, even for sex. My first husband was only 7 years older and he was too lazy to have sex. My new husband and I fit together perfectly, we even end up at the same time in most cases, which was only nice while I was pregnant. For me, sex matters, so I gave birth to a cesarean section, of course, I say that because many women are afraid to commit to older men just because I'm afraid that sex will not be the same in time. This is not mandatory and there are many other ways for a woman to get pleasure, right? I love him to death, he adores me and his daughter loves me and his parents, nothing else matters to him

   Mine is an impossible love ... he is married and has 2 children. We see each other secretly, I know his wife and daughters and we are even friends. Of course, they have no idea that we love him. We will never be able to be like the others - I will not wake up next to him and kiss him good morning, send him to work and meet him, take his hand while we walk .... we will always hide and will lurking so we can kiss or touch .... I do not wish anyone such love ...

   Hello! I have a relationship with a man 15 years older than me. I am 28 years old. I want to share and accordingly encourage you that I have never been happier, more wanted until now! I feel real. Everything is completely different with him. Conversations, attitudes, everything. I have no words to describe it. Don't live for the people - they are with you today, they are gone tomorrow. The people around you are variable. Never forget it. Not only should they not be a criterion for you in this regard, but they should not be a criterion in your life at all. Be brave and fight for your dreams. They will always comment with whoever you are, no matter how old he is. Enjoy your time with him. If you are emotionally ok with this person, do not allow extraneous things to affect your relationship. Big mistake! People speak out of malice and envy, never forget it. Be happy! I wish you from the bottom of my heart. Success!

   Don't be afraid ... I wish you the greatest happiness. It doesn't matter what people say. Do not live for them, but for yourself. I also have a relationship for four years. With a man 17 years older than me, the years do not bother .. This is the man who really makes me more than happy. years are irrelevant to me. nor will human opinion stop me from loving it. on the contrary, I want to show it to the whole world ... and scream how much I love it.

   Number 27, I guess the author of the topic - you had to start with that! Of course, your relationship is impossible, and I continue to marvel at girls like you who waste their youth with family uncles. There are a lot of topics like yours - only so far I have not met anyone to admit how such an adventure ended. Save yourself while it's time!

   Until 30 this author is not from the author (27), I would not deal with married / engaged men. :)

   31, if you are the author, then you are still following your topic - share how things have turned out for you, after all, many years have passed since you first wrote. It's not just curiosity on my part, I think you can help others in your situation, and it's worth it nowadays.

   With such a difference, apart from "Friends with extras" there is no other way to get, at least not something decent. Try to imagine your relationship after 20 years.

   I am number 24 and we continue to be happy for almost three years and we are happy for our baby and our love. 4 months ago his daughter gave birth to a baby and now we are grandparents and it is even more fun. To the author - everything is very individual, do not listen to anyone only your heart, I wish you much happiness

   To number 7: It's a pity that the site is anonymous, I need a friend like you with whom to share a similar fate ... Few people understand me, and almost none of my relatives. He is 19 years younger than me ... Good luck to you ... Everything is hopeless yes, life is cruel and cruel ... And I will only wish the author to be happy with this man and if they can keep the love you are!

   I am very grateful to the author, she helped me to open my eyes and I have sunk one, 20 and a few years older, but it is impossible to call me grandmother at 21. Life is a test, we should not stop at such obstacles. After all, my young is young, I will meet someone younger who will love me more. The person in question will feel sorry for him, I stop all contact with him, we are young, we will not expose ourselves with old shoes. Author, these men will not freeze at the age at which we liked them, they wither every day. It is normal for them to want younger flesh, where we go, they return from there. Be with a higher opinion of yourself, ask for more from life. At our age, these men had fun with young and cool girls, and now they want us. No, I can't watch my father and husband go to retirement together. Stop!

   36, do you judge people only by their age? And do you live for only one human opinion? Imagine that people find some way to be physically immortal - will you sing the same song then? As life expectancy has begun to increase - as nothing can happen! 20 or 200 will not matter, only the content of the person inside will matter - what is in the head and in the heart! And what are these stupid and selfish statements - they dreamed of young flesh, at their age they had fun with girls ?! Well, imagine that these people, when they were your age, were socialists, and then it was difficult to even talk about these things, let alone "make fun" like now - unbridled work! And in general - from your whole statement it turns out that you break up with the person so as not to pass by accident! Don't let any of you "get out" ... Have you ever thought about what a hollow watering can you are? Are you a reward for someone or a curse? In general - I am glad for the man that he has got rid of a superficial and mediocre being like you, who all his life will think that someone owes him only because he is younger than him. Go with your stupid peers, where tomorrow they will inflate your stomach and catch the forest, because they are irresponsible consumers like your whole lost generation, and whistle!

   37 I may not be right in my reasoning, I agree that I am exaggerating my statements, but I do it to suppress my emotion. Maybe I'm trying to convince myself that it's right - I'm literally struggling with my heart. As for whether I was a curse to this man, I think I certainly was and continue to be - that's why I don't want this man to ruin my family and my honorable name. Because if I stay with him, his whole reputation will collapse, because of the same people you say don't need attention. To want to pull him away from me so that he is happy so that everything he has created over the years does not collapse. Now if I'm cursed - if I'm with him I'll be like a tsunami wiped out his life - I won't forgive him. So far I agree, but to say that our whole generation is lost and is irresponsible I do not agree that there are such people there are both young and ADULTS. It is not right to put everyone under a common denominator, because a girl has decided to go with a man of her uncle's age or directly with her grandfather. Everyone who wants or does not want to admit it knows that such things are not regular and generally accepted. Which right and morality, YOU CAN judge the young death, provided that the topic is about a relationship with 20 years. difference. Such cases can also be considered as pedophilia (example: he is 45, she is 21 - what happens - the father left with his daughter). I don't know how old you are, but if you could ask: father, mother, grandfather, grandmother, are they happy that you have such a relationship "what would be their answer?" If you are some authority in the eyes of those listed, if they love and hold on to you, if you have built any name and respect, your conscience will not allow you to stab them. BUT ONLY IF YOU ARE SOMETHING! If you are nothing - nothingness that does not have the love and respect of their loved ones, it means that this individual does not know how to respect himself first, and then others. Machiavelli said, "We must first learn to respect ourselves, and then others." , you will open your legs - because he said that he loves you (advice: what was his name, but to go around with these thoughts) you decide.! One more thing SELFISH, is a man who thinks only of himself and, I look at everyone thinking :) which does not have the love and respect of his relatives, it means that this individual is not able to respect himself first, and then others. Machiavelli said, "We must first learn to respect ourselves, and then others." , you will open your legs - because he said that he loves you (advice: what was his name, but to go around with these thoughts) you decide.! One more thing SELFISH, is a man who thinks only of himself and, I look at everyone thinking :) which does not have the love and respect of his relatives, it means that this individual is not able to respect himself first, and then others. Machiavelli said: "We must first learn to respect ourselves, and then others." , you will open your legs - because he said that he loves you (advice: what was his name, but to go around with these thoughts) you decide.! One more thing SELFISH, is a man who thinks only of himself and, I look at everyone thinking :) Once you have decided that you will open the legs of the first uncle - because he said that he loves you (advice: what was his name, but to go around - do not go there with these thoughts) you decide.! Another thing, SELFISH, is a person who thinks only of himself, and when I look at everyone, I think! :) Once you have decided that you will open the legs of the first uncle - because he said that he loves you (advice: what was his name, but to go around - do not go there with these thoughts) you decide.! Another thing, SELFISH, is a person who thinks only of himself, and when I look at everyone, I think! :)

   people like and love each other subconsciously. What do uncles and aunts mean? Falling in love does not happen on schedule. If you have an attraction with a back individual, things happen spontaneously. It is normal for people to talk because most relationships are on account and every true love throws them off balance.

   Let me say something too. My husband and I have a difference of 13 years, I am 37, he is 50. We got married eight years ago. For as long as I can remember, I've always fallen in love with adults. And now I can say that I was not in the wrong way. Yes, there are disadvantages to such a relationship, but the pros seem to be more. He likes to impose his opinion, but it can be a character (his father is). But she also gives a lot of herself, takes care of me and calls me many times a day when we are at work, not to control me, but to tell me, for example, what a cute kitten or tiger cub was given on TV and how they feed (because he knows I love them very much). He asks me every day what to buy me. We have common interests and values, such as I could never have with my peers. Well, we have differences on many issues, but it can't be completely different. In these cases, everyone keeps his opinion to himself and so we turn our backs on the differences. And when it comes to sex and partying, things are also subjective. Here everyone decides for himself what he can get rid of and what he can't. I'm also not old enough to go crazy parties, I prefer family holidays and gathering only with best friends. Well, yes, our age difference is not the biggest, he's my uncle rather than my uncle. If it was more than 20 years, for example, I don't know how it would be. In my opinion, the most important are love (mature and meaningful, but not fleeting falling in love and whim) and the common value system (what if the generations are different ?!). If there are these two things, everything else fits on its own. But there are adjustments in characters and compromises in all relationships, whether the partners are peers or not. The fact that society does not accept couples with a big age difference is his personal problem. This phenomenon cannot be defined as pedophilia, because both partners are still adults. In the past, even many parents married their daughters to much older men, and families were stable. With this comment, however, I am not saying that peer relationships are a bad thing. Every relationship is appropriate, as long as one has found one's soul mate. The author has to judge for herself whether she has grown up for such a relationship as hers, because in these cases there are still more compromises. I WISH SUCCESS AND JOY TO EVERYONE! because both partners are still adults. In the past, even many parents married their daughters to much older men, and families were stable. With this comment, however, I am not saying that peer relationships are a bad thing. Every relationship is appropriate, as long as one has found one's soul mate. The author has to judge for herself whether she has grown up for such a relationship as hers, because in these cases there are still more compromises. I WISH SUCCESS AND JOY TO EVERYONE! because both partners are still adults. In the past, even many parents married their daughters to much older men, and families were stable. With this comment, however, I am not saying that peer relationships are a bad thing. Every relationship is appropriate, as long as one has found one's soul mate. The author has to judge for herself whether she has grown up for such a relationship as hers, because in these cases there are still more compromises. I WISH SUCCESS AND JOY TO EVERYONE! whether she has grown up for such a relationship as hers, because in these cases there are still more compromises. I WISH SUCCESS AND JOY TO EVERYONE! whether she has grown up for such a relationship as hers, because in these cases there are still more compromises. I WISH SUCCESS AND JOY TO EVERYONE!

   By №48 You are now 28 he is 48-Ok - everything is pink. But do you think - when you become a 48-year-old woman in the most active age to have a 68-year-old man by your side? What will happen. You will need sex and he will not be able to give it to you and you will go looking for one outside the family. And how will your child feel at school when he sees young fathers and they ask him if this is his grandfather? -Think well and then give advice

   There are 41 men who are active even at 68, this with the grandparents is great nonsense, everyone can have a child at any age they want, you don't go to work, and the young fathers are usually poor ....

   Hello, I am an author like you, do not listen to people at all, listen to your heart when you love each other, the rest is not important, these are STUPID NUMBERS! My age is not visible either, he looks 10 years younger. But do not be influenced by numbers, but by the person himself! Regarding sex, there are grandparents who do it in the old days, why do you think that after 60 there is no sex? some are sexually active, and by loving why not. of all the negative comments ONLY ABOUT APPEARANCE and sex, how do you think it would be ... if there is love, it is a force for everything else, DO NOT DESTROY YOUR HAPPINESS AND OPINION because of other opinions and people, you will not live with gossips and villains, but with this man.

   Physiological changes in different sexes occur at different times. For example, a 48-year-old man is much younger than a woman of the same age. Women mature much earlier than men, and this is where the differences come from. So men of this age look not with one, but with both eyes at younger women. 10-15 years does not make a difference between people of different generations. However, women at the end of the last and the beginning of this century do not give birth when they reach the age of 12-13! There is also no guarantee that a man aged 45-55 will be sexually active. As well as there is no guarantee that a man after 55 years. he will not be able to perform his marital duties.

   I'm 24, I'm already 32, my husband is 52 and everything is still pink :-). There is a great deal of truth in your words 41, but I think everything is individual. My grandfather could make love until he was 78, it is possible that my husband can, and there are other ways to have fun, it doesn't scare me. I may not reach 50 at all with this cancer everywhere. I don't believe that the child will be mocked, my husband is a well-known doctor, he will soon become an associate professor, he has revived many people and he has made a huge contribution to our university hospital and to the whole of southern Bulgaria. The most important thing is that he adores me, I receive boundless love, attention and respect which I consider to be the most important. I've been far-sighted all my life, I'm always thinking ahead, but I'm stopping. No one can say what is right, I am happy and loved, as are my children, and nothing else matters.

   enough with these grandparents ... everyone can have a child whenever they want, personal choice ...

   People, my aunt and everyone are 16 years apart. They are so happy, I envy them nobly. She gave birth to a child at about 35, now she is about 40. He is extremely active, preserved and fresh. And dedicated. Who wants to talk to anything ...

   My husband and I are 22 years apart and we have been very happy together for 15 years now. At that time, most of my classmates divorced twice

   Hey, because you start for the future and I find it funny. You are all descendants of Grandma Vanga, you have all learned to throw beans. From such plans you built two-storey houses in a village, which are now empty and inhabited by gypsies. You saved children in kindergarten so that one day your children could have something, and now they send you money from abroad and you see them once a week on Skype. You built a house, big, with guest rooms and you have not had guests in the last 2 years, and we are hello with the neighbors. The reality is here and now. Live your life so that you are happy, because you do not know how long you will live. I have been looking for a serious girlfriend for 18 years. I didn't get anywhere. I changed 8, which makes me feel like a rag .. Now I'm with a girl, 17 years younger. Well, it's different. We fight, but it's harmless. it passes slowly because she is small, but this is the worst. I've never had a more stable relationship. We have been together for 2 years and I went through all sorts of difficulties with which I can even think about how it would happen with another girl. So if anyone here goes to convince me what happiness was for me ... Please keep your opinion. Yes, we all know how well you are aware of human rules and stereotypes about correctness. Happiness, dear comrades, is not universal, but individual for everyone.

   Everyone has the right to be with whomever they want ... don't pay attention to what people say at all. If you want to be with him and love him, be together and go only forward. There are no limits to love.