Hello! I am a 16 year old girl. and like most people here I want advice. I like a boy of almost 5 years, but he did not pay any attention to me. I suffered a lot for him. Years have passed, I have changed and somehow I am no longer indifferent to him, he is even jealous of my boyfriends, but something still prevents us from being together. For two years, he is the reason I broke up with almost every one of my friends, telling me that we will be together and I always connect with him here. I am in the same situation now. I have a friend who I know really likes me and would never make fun of my feelings for me. I like him too, but no matter how hard I try to forget the other, I can't. Every time I see him, even for a few seconds, I think my old feelings for him come back. When he found out I had a friend again, he told me to betray him, that he likes me very much and wants us to go. However, my current one does not deserve to be abandoned, because I am everything to him. From so many relationships, he's the only boy I trust, I know I can count on him, and if we break up I'll break his heart, and he doesn't deserve it because he cares about me so much. Please tell me how to proceed.
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Don't do the trick and be with your friend. I have been in the same situation and I can tell you that the other always wants you when he can't have you, and if he has the opportunity to ruin your relationship with another - HE WILL NOT HESITATE! Be with the other boy and give yourself completely to this relationship. It makes sense in the face of long-awaited attention.
In no case do not leave your new friend !!!! Why should you fall victim to a manipulator who obviously shows you his indifference and who gives him pleasure to joke with you, because for me this is a joke. You are still young and life is ahead of you, and I once thought that first love is the only one, but over time I realized that this is not the case and there are other people who deserve to be given a chance. Just start paying more attention to your new friend, start seeing his strengths and what he does for you, and then you will see for yourself that the other person doesn't deserve you, and he really doesn't deserve you when he does that, have dignity and self-respect, if you don't show it yourself, everyone will do whatever they want with you, and you will suffer. Good luck!!!
Thank you very much. I will do so.
You know, I think this one is like a dog in front of a haystack - he won't eat it or give it to anyone else. If I were you, I would make a number for him - to make sure that the same thing will happen as in the previous times and not to bother constantly with the question "What if this time is different and he really wants and intends to be together? "Tell him that you broke up with your new friend and that you are his. Only then will you understand that this person will never deserve your love, your sympathies, or even your friendship. Good luck darling :)
To stay with this one and be unhappy. Always do what your heart tells you. At the bottom of our souls we know the answer to all questions. You are too young to do what you have to do, not what you want.
The most important thing is to be happy, just listen to your heart and be with the one you REALLY want to be with, not the one you need to be with. Sometimes we fall in love with the wrong person, take me as an example! I fell in love with my best friend's boyfriend. As a true friend, I didn't tell anyone about it and just kept it inside me. The important thing was that they were happy, not me. Now what? They walked for a year, I struggled for a year, and finally she stabbed me in the back. It disappoints me, but the important thing is that I did the right thing. Everything in life happens for a specific reason. Now I understand why I was not meant to be with this man. The fact that I couldn't be with him made me stronger !!! Listen to your heart!