Hello, dear readers and moderators! I want to share my story simply because it makes it easier for me to speak. To hear that I'm not the only one and it's not that scary. I am currently 26 years old. I had a relationship for almost two years with a man of the same age. From these two years, a year and a half of cohabitation. My biggest love so far. We have not had scandals, living in harmony and understanding. There were petty arguments that never escalated into shouts and hysteria. We went on vacation, went out with friends and I think we had everything we needed. We are not rich, we work and earn a decent income to cover our needs. One night (Monday was like day) he just came and told me he didn't want to be with me anymore. The day before we hugged all day. He told me how much he loved me and I was all he needed. Only he needs me. Yes, he told me on monday night, i was in shock, i didn't know what to say and how to react. I just told him I loved him. On Tuesday I didn't know what was going on, I went to work, but I left and went to my sister. I stayed with her until late, I was afraid to go home. Eventually I came home and he was gone. He had moved out. He made the decision in three minutes, and the next day he was simply gone. He went to live in misery, slept on the ground, has no bed, no bathroom, bathes in the gym, and has a job from which he earns a decent income, he can rent an apartment. This happened a month and a half ago, just before the holidays. What happened to me? I haven't worked the last few days. I stayed with my sister and cried all day. I called him two days later, at least to tell me what had happened. He said he didn't love me that much anymore and thought it was best. I couldn't believe it, I couldn't believe it was happening. I didn't sleep, I just cried and denied the truth, pinching myself in the hope of waking up from this nightmare. I resorted to sedatives. I had a rag with them, but the pain was gone. I wasn't crying, I was just looking at a point. That's how I spent Christmas.
Shortly after Christmas, I decided to take matters into my own hands. I stopped the pills. I went to be shot and stabbed. I started going out during the day and in the evening, at least everyone had free time. I started drinking until the New Year. Then I went to the hospital with alcohol poisoning. I said "STOP". What am I doing? I will kill myself. The picture is not so bad. I'm young, I look good, I'm educated, I work and I support myself, there's no reason to take it so badly. And so the severe crisis passed. Only emptiness remained. I have decided to recover. I go to a psychologist and talk to anyone who decides to listen to me. It's getting easier. I realized how many real friends I have. I owe it to them to get my old back back as soon as possible. I will do it for them and my relatives, because they love me, because they support me, and I realized how great nothing I would be without them. I last called him on January 3. I haven't looked for him since. He has called me four or five times this year. He asks how I am, I let him know that I am fine. He did not apologize, he did not want to return / I did not ask him /. I wonder if I will ever know what happened. The questions torment me. I go to bed and get up with this thought. I feel an incredible love for this person and at the same time, a huge disappointment. From a purposeful person who knows what he wants, I have become a child. I'm wandering right now, I don't know what I want. I get up and go to work because I have to. I have no goal, I have no ambition. I don't even know if I want this person back to me. I don't even think about looking at another man. I am disgusted at the thought that someone else may touch me. I know the story is chaotic. Here are the summary stages: 1. Roar 2. Soothing 3. Alcohol 4. Just emptiness To the questions "What's going on? What's wrong?", I have no answer. I just do not know. Thanks for reading! Last note - there is no other. I know you can't be 100% sure, but I think so.
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I may be wrong, but it seems to me that your ex has the "I feel like living" syndrome, which is quite popular lately. Everyone wants and seeks some thrill, without realizing that such things are transient. Happiness is what remains after the thrill passes. If he hadn't realized it yet, he would hardly understand it later, nor would he change. Go ahead and find someone who shares your understandings, don't think about the one you're used to.
Very good story ... Every time I hear that a woman suffers and convulses, I feel good in my heart
Hello dear. No, you are not alone. I experienced something similar and I am in your situation. The most important thing in these periods of life is to realize that the most important thing on this earth is YOU yourself. No one will take care of you instead of you. Poisoning your psyche with these questions destroys you slowly and painfully. I want to tell you that everything comes to light sooner or later and if there is something you need to know you will understand, I guarantee you! And if he has obviously decided to leave you, because it is quite possible that he has caught a cold, but he did not know how to tell you so as not to hurt you, and most likely he was trying to regain his feelings when he saw, that it doesn't work has been honest with you. Your last moments together I guess he was good to you not because he still loves you, but because there was a strong attachment. Love yourself, become the better version of yourself and you will see how you will feel better. And if you are destined to be with him, whether in the coming months or after 10 years. you will meet again and things will happen. Don't bother, because you will hardly get the answers to your questions ready. Maybe time should pass. Like I said, he may have really just stopped loving you and there's no other explanation. Keep going because something very nice is waiting for you! I know it hurts. I understand you perfectly, as I said I am in your position, but I try to constantly commit to something so as not to think about it and I keep repeating in my mind "it makes no sense, this person is not for you, have the dignity to move forward happy and know that something better awaits you ”. you will meet again and things will happen. Don't bother, because you will hardly get the answers to your questions ready. Maybe time should pass. Like I said, he may have really just stopped loving you and there's no other explanation. Keep going because something very nice is waiting for you! I know it hurts. I understand you perfectly, as I said I am in your position, but I try to constantly commit to something so as not to think about it and I keep repeating in my mind "it makes no sense, this person is not for you, have the dignity to move forward happy and know that something better awaits you ”. you will meet again and things will happen. Don't bother, because you will hardly get the answers to your questions ready. Maybe time should pass. Like I said, he may have really just stopped loving you and there's no other explanation. Keep going because something very nice is waiting for you! I know it hurts. I understand you perfectly, as I said I am in your position, but I try to constantly commit to something so as not to think about it and I keep repeating in my mind "it makes no sense, this person is not for you, have the dignity to move forward happy and know that something better awaits you ”. I know it hurts. I understand you perfectly, as I said I am in your position, but I try to constantly commit to something so as not to think about it and I keep repeating in my mind "it makes no sense, this person is not for you, have the dignity to move forward happy and know that something better awaits you ”. I know it hurts. I understand you perfectly, as I said I am in your position, but I try to constantly commit to something so as not to think about it and I keep repeating in my mind "it makes no sense, this person is not for you, have the dignity to move forward happy and know that something better awaits you ”.
You may not think so, but there is another. People in a relationship will rarely leave her if they do not have "approval" or at least falling in love elsewhere.
And to say that something like this happened to me. January was talking to me about family and we were discussing our future summer vacation in Greece. And at the end of January he just left me without even telling me personally, I had to look for him like crazy to find out why he wasn't talking to me. It turned out that 2 months ago he met another and loved her very much. My biggest fear in relationships is now not to experience something like this for the second time. Good luck. I overcame it and you will.
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You women always think there is another. Well, no, men can just dump you like that. You are the ones who insure yourself, so it is somehow illogical for someone to dump you for no reason ... And we can just break up because we are tired of your whims. It is not necessary to have another. I have rarely seen a woman break up with someone without anyone else in her life ... And you never wonder how it got here. And where is the guilt in yourself. Author, instead of getting drunk, take stock of why he really dumped you and what you deserved.
From what you describe, your man is a coward and a liar. Now the feelings are strong and the mind cannot prevail, but the truth is that he probably did you a great favor by leaving. You will suffer for a while, it will pass, and then you will be grateful. Everything you do is good, but there is nothing more effective than another man. It may seem unbearable to have sex with someone else now, but once you take that step, you will feel much better. Good sex heals, just choose someone who attracts you and act.
You write very well as a style and you look like a decent woman, you are smart. I will only ask you not to trust friends. The advice from friends in my life that I have followed has always been a mistake. It's good that in this still short period you are starting to recover. I will also advise you, without taking offense, to one day turn to a man older than you. We are more or less sets, I am 29, very rarely any of our sets at this age thinks about family nowadays.
You are 26 and he is how old? If he's younger, he's lived with you, and he's just fed up. Once he has left the "convenience" and reached misery, we imagine how "comfortable" he felt with you. You seem to have treated him like a pet, so he ran away, he got scared!