I have a friend for 2 and a half years. He lies to me about everything, he hides his phone from me, and mine picks it up whenever and he doesn't care if I give it to him. On Easter I came across his chat with a girl. The excuse was that he hadn't written, and that he didn't know who she was. In his profile not to know. He treats me tyrannically, he says when we go out and such. What to do? He says that he loves me and that there is no other, but he is lying to me. And we also go out when he decides. Please help me! I don't want to lose him, but he's overdoing it!
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And why don't you want to lose it? Surely you find it very valuable?
Where are you from and why don't you raise the issue
Hey, please keep it! If you haven't seen the pig you're with in two years, what now? You will not lose it (don't do it) and you are looking for help. We what? Should we take it and re-educate it? Keep it to yourself, don't let it out, that some innocent girl can go wrong and waste 20 minutes of her precious time with this creature. There is no way he can be like that, and it is impossible for you to be a "flower"!
Your job is broken. And a girl does the same to me, who supposedly told me that she loved me, but after a month she left and caught up with another. This is very common today. Beat his jester and that's it! If you respect yourself. You will see that you can do without it. It's harder to think that you can be without someone, but when you break up, you'll see that it's easier for the psyche. Life goes on without this or that. There are so many people in the world ...
In a relationship, the two of you are equal. No man, no woman: There are Partners! The fact that he looks at your phone when he wants, means that he does not trust you (premise number 1), H allows his phone to be in your hands - this should raise doubts (premise 2) Why he should say when to go out ? Ask yourself, isn't it your fault that you gave yourself so much to him and you're kind of "Comfortable" for him? Don't you think he might be ashamed or that he's just uncomfortable somehow ... Understand! The simplest way: How he behaves while you are alone and how he behaves while he is with friends. Success! :) JMCN / 19
He is probably handsome and strong, that is, an alpha male. They are created by nature to dominate. Tyranny goes hand in hand with its positive qualities. Accept it, it's worth the sacrifice.
he is looking for another, that is, as soon as he lies to you run away, he will continue, do not waste your time
The author is very bad. There is something masochistic about you. You've been boyfriends for two and a half years, he's lying to you about everything, he's been tyrannical about you, and you say you don't want to lose him. Well, what you say tells me that you like his behavior, even though you complain about him. A normal girl would never continue a relationship with such a man. But you know where. And he slaps you often - not just on the ass. You seem to love rough men and rough sex.
And why do you tolerate? Now we are expecting tears and you, as you melt, then the slaps begin. Stay with him.
You have already lost it ...
If he behaves like that, then he doesn't love you. Drop the goal
Has anyone tied you to him? How can we help you ?! Drop it and move on. There is life and when you are not bound, let it be ...! Do you have enough chicken brains to understand it?
I am in the same situation. The friend washes very attractive, but also domineering. I managed to change it. First, don't try to show authority over him, men hate that. he secretly does it lightly without him understanding that everything is going to be yours, and he thinks the opposite. Start taking more care of your appearance, buy new make-up, clothes, sexy lingerie to see you in a new light. Diversify sex. Here's a trick, Go into the history of the computer (probably forbids you, but someday you will have the opportunity) See what porn he watches, what he is interested in .. probably these are his unshared dreams, for example, if he watches as they lead him in English buy soft and delicate fabric fabric, put on underwear that suits you and offer to tie you up (here it is again yours, even though he thinks it suits him) and have sex quite often to return his interest in you. Exhaust him to the max, so he won't want to look at another. He likes to dominate in all situations, indulge him, play roles. Caress him to make him feel wanted and wanted (there are probably complexes like everyone else). Be upright, more knowledgeable than he is. Start doing something like fitness, painting and indulge in it, men love serious and ambitious women :) oh I still have a lot to write .. if you really love it so much do it and I guarantee it will not leave you and will look at you as a deity as my beloved looks at me :) Darling, I will follow the topic if you have any questions and need advice. P.
Obviously, it is true for your friend that his is his, and the other's is common. At least that's what makes me think he's taking your phone, but he's hiding it. And if he hides it, then he hides something from you. Probably writing not only with this girl you saw, but with many others. And I don't want to upset you, but chances are he was intimate with others during your relationship. I don't see what you're doing to a man who lies to you and is tyrannical about you. He has no respect for you as a human being, as a partner, and as the woman next to him, but he takes advantage of the fact that you are naive because you have allowed him to. And it is even stranger to me that you realize that he is behaving badly with you, and you are afraid of losing him. There is nothing to lose if you leave and never look at it again. There are men of much better quality than he would appreciate. And you have already lost something and that is two and a half years of your life with this element. Black Sabbath
Someone above said that he was looking for another and I think so too. He also perceives you as a very stupid and naive person. Until he finds another one, he will hold you so that he can have a boyfriend in front of people. There are such people, women, but also men, for whom it is somehow a shame to be without a partner, they feel somehow naked in front of the society or something like that. Drop it and stop contacting it. Just prepare yourself mentally that he will play big circuses for you if you dump him, because for him it will be a great humiliation. But he did it because he deserved it. It's full of cool guys, don't worry.
There's something about him that makes me not be a jerk to him yet. He hugs me in front of our friends, kisses me, he just doesn't want to let me go, of course if we're not arguing. Only in front of his mother and father he does not do it, because I think they have respect. Many times we have quarreled over all sorts of things, whether it's someone passing behind me or being saying something I shouldn't. One time I was so angry with him that I told him in plain text that if he couldn't last me, he'd better leave me than bother each other. Here comes one of my problems. When I worry, I gather boundaries and faint. I have often swallowed my tongue. He is always frightened when he sees that I am ill, and sometimes he tells me to let you. I can not understand it. I love him, it's obvious that he loves me too, even though he's impatient sometimes.