Hello, please give me advice because I'm really crazy. I was dating a boy for four years, when we met I was 16 and he was 21, in the beginning everything was flowers and roses, but less than a year passed and things started to limp, it was my fault I was small and I felt like going out, at first he let me go around without him, but I got drunk and flirted with other boys when we found out we quarreled and I didn't go anywhere without him anymore, but that weighed on me. We separated for a month, then we got together, we went again for about half a year, then we separated again for a month and again because of my antics, and so we got together and separated for 4 years. He loved me very much, he gave everything for me and whatever I did, he took me back under his wing. But last year at that time was the last time we saw each other, then it wasn't just me, I went to a bowling alley with my friends and I didn't call him for about two hours because I was involved in the game then there really was no other boy, but after so many of my performances he became paranoid and wanted me to call him every five minutes, I know I'm alone guilty, and so I didn't call him and he ended without even listening to me. I am too proud and I did not call him again for the insults he inflicted on me then, I do not like to be unjustly accused. So while I was wondering what to do with my life, I found another boy with whom I just thought to console myself, but it didn't happen that way, a year passed in our hectic life and I'm still with this boy. About three months ago I called my ex (I finally made up my mind), but he got mad at me and didn't want to talk to me, which hadn't happened before. Two weeks ago he got married and I realized that he was going to be a father, I was in a lot of pain, in a few days I was completely ruined, I always knew that he and I were for each other and that one day I would grow up and we would both get married. He really loved me a lot and I don't know why, but something inside me makes me think he still loves me. I just can't believe that in a year he has found a girlfriend and married her, and they are even expecting a baby, I calm down with the thought that he married her precisely because of the child, but I don't know. I'm really devastated, things in my current relationship have turned upside down since this happened, I'm constantly arguing with my friend about all sorts of nonsense. I loved this man very much, I know he loved me just as much, even more. Now I don't know what to do, I sent him some stupid, vicious and pointless text message while I was very ill, but not from my number and he doesn't know it's me. Now I was thinking of calling him, but I don't know why, I just want to greet him and see how he reacts, but I don't know if it's right. And most of all I want to see him and talk to him, but maybe it's not possible. Please give me some advice.
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As hard as it is for you ... I think you should leave him, try to forget him and improve your relationship with your boyfriend - he is still married and will have a child, even if he still loves you he has a family. And if he really loves you still and got married just for the sake of the child, imagine how he will feel when you call him ... he will get even sicker ... so don't look for him and both of you go on with your life ... he with her and the child and you with your friend ... after all he is not to blame for what happened to you and there is no need to quarrel with him ... this is my opinion .... I hope I'm SUCCESS also helped
You have suffered a lot, you can see such a pity .... I don't know, but I also have the feeling that he still loves you, but even so, I think there is no going back. After all, he will become a father whether this child should grow up without a father, or with separated parents to talk and decide even late.
Dear girl, I'm very sorry, but my opinion coincides with that of number 1 and number 2. You have to get used to the idea that your ex-boyfriend can no longer be yours, even if he still loves you, it is pointless to give him you are calling. Old wound, don't dig, because it will hurt more ... It's just that your paths have parted, don't look for fault in anyone. Keep good memories of your relationship. The former remains in the past. If you care about your current friend, go ahead with him. Man builds his own happiness. I wish you success!
He got married ... no matter why, he just did it. A man could not be tied to a woman just for the sake of one child. He must have wanted it too. How can I tell you softer - I think it's good to let him look after his family and it would be stupid to try to interfere there - for him, for the child. You also can't know if he doesn't love her and if he still has feelings for you after everything that has happened between you. Some things wear out love so much that in the end all that's left is nasty ashes ... and beautiful memories, nostalgia, but not love.
I'm sorry, but I can tell you from experience that a person both loves and stops. Besides, you yourself, saying that you hurt him a lot, he forgave, but everything has a limit, apparently he was tired of a relationship like your "come to me". And I definitely don't think the man loves you, I don't know some to marry especially nowadays for someone just because they have a child, not to mention that you ended a long time ago, in a year a man changes and can still meet love . My advice is to clarify with your current boyfriend what you are going to do and to move on with your life without interfering in the life and family of the ex, it will not be fair to everyone involved.
You did well. Such a jealous person, to constantly call you on the phone and get angry when you don't pick him up ?! That you can be in the bathroom, in the district court, you may be sick with a fever or who knows what ... When I read you, you are quite dynamic, you are not for each other, passions are passions, but you want long-lasting relationships, this person doesn't seem right to you. Also, once he is married, let him go, let him live his life without you, if he prefers the other. I am sure you will find your happiness and I wish you success with your new friend. Don't call married men, don't send them text messages, don't tease them, at least until you get married too, let there be equality :))))) Once again I wish you success and appreciate what you have, not what you don't have .
Your story is almost like mine, I'm a 26-year-old boy. and my girlfriend is 20 years old. He went to university and things went according to the same scenario as you described. For several months now, things have been like this and no matter how hard I try, they don't work. I want to be with her, as she wants to be with me, but she is just confused and she herself wants time, I understand her and I will wait for her, but honestly, if your friend has been waiting for you for 4 years .... He has been waiting for you a lot, I am patient and a lot, but for 4 years I will not be able to endure, because this is torture.
Darling, look ahead and don't despair as long as you have those relationships that weigh us down and don't make us completely happy, maybe you thought you were really happy, but when a relationship that will make you happy inspires you, it inspires you without brakes and back thoughts, then you will understand what is real happiness i wish it to you and i am sure that if you continue ahead you will feel what i am talking about
Were you a crazy woman !!!! Watch her life.