I often read your stories and get valuable advice for myself. I decided to share my story. I am a 20-year-old girl, I am a student in my hometown. I am a very strong character, only in one respect I am not love. Two years ago I experienced unrequited love, for which I suffered a lot and to this day I cannot overcome my fears of being hurt. I can't let anyone close enough to me. And so for almost 3 months now I have been dealing with one person - 28 years old. We met from mutual acquaintances and started communicating via Skype, and later via SMS. Gradually we started going out and seeing each other more and more often. He is very patient and does not force things, the problem is in me. I don't know if I want to be with him. I'm fine with him, but he doesn't have the thrill. I wonder if it is possible to fall in love gradually. I know that the first is love is the strongest and does not repeat itself, so I do not have the illusion of being like her. The person in question shows me that he cares about me a lot, he even told me that he loves me, he shows it to me. However, I shut myself off when someone tried to get closer. I'm so confused that when it comes to that, I don't know what to say. And in general I am a very combative person. He gives me his heart, offers me his love, and I don't know if I can return it. I ask myself a bunch of questions about whether I will be able to respond to his feelings, whether I will love him. People have said that it is better to find a person who loves you and you will fall in love with him later. Is that so? Should I keep trying or should I let him find someone who doesn't ask himself these questions, but is confident? I will be happy if I get advice from people found themselves in a similar situation. Thanks a lot to the people who read my story to the end.
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Yes, it is possible to fall in love, but this is far from guaranteed. 3 months is not much.
I have experienced something like that. the time has not come or this is not the right person. what if he gives you his heart. how do you feel, do you think if you want it or if you feel somehow obliged. if you have feelings for him well but if not I don't think you should suffer. I made the mistake of living with a person who supposedly loved me because after such unrequited love you have the feeling that you are missing something. or maybe you're a little scared that someone else won't tell you he loves you. don't hurry, drive slowly and if he really loves you, he will wait as long as he has to.
You can fall in love with him, I was in almost the same situation, and now I'm happy even though he is more resilient and gives everything for me, and I'm not exactly like him, but I still loved him in the happiest person on the ground. Try and don't shut yourself in, because only you lose from that :)
Read a treatise on the love of Anatoly Protopopov. Incredible reading. Women just don't like men who love them. They love high-ranking women who are women by nature. This is the drama of the female sex - the desperate attempts to conquer a high-ranking male. High-ranking people don't like it. They are too busy serving their countless suitors. Low-ranking men are overlooked or kept for collection. Love is just a chemical reaction in the brain, and female instincts just can't create it when they're with a decent, kind man. That's why women fall in love with rude men who only think about sex. That's it, people! There is no cure for the human syndrome!