M 28 Hello. My sister has a child and eats with ... her boyfriend, they are not married, she is 2 years older than me, and her husband is a little older than her. From the beginning, I felt that her husband was thinking about the big job only because he was years apart from me and my sister, and my parents didn't talk much, make remarks to him or anything like that. From hints it is not clear. When my nephew was born, my sister's husband began to show his horns, and his attitude towards us was deteriorating, he felt great disrespect for everyone seen through my eyes. It's as if now that my sister has a child, he's not afraid that we won't accept him and he almost does what he wants. I'm a little disappointed with my father for not telling him anything, but I'm here to ask me what I can do. Everything is gradually increasing and I no longer feel even accepted by my own family, because they see me less often than anyone else. My sister and her husband live elsewhere in the same city as my parents. Because I have always sensed his bad intentions, my sister's husband doesn't like me very much, he understands that I see him abusing my relatives emotionally and he doesn't like me. My sister obviously started to support him and does not behave with me as always, distant, "peaceful", when her husband, she and I are in the same room, it's not my sister, we've seen each other 3-4 times at a table in common company, and it hurts me, and when her husband is somewhere else, she wants to be my sister or friend again. I don't feel good coming to my family infrequently and starting a fight with my sister's husband. For some reason, I don't even feel accepted. I feel unwanted around my own parents and my sister when he is around. It's as if everyone in my family has developed Stockholm Syndrome in my sister's husband. I do not want to allow this, I see that it is bad that my family is almost less free to be able to meet the expectations of my sister's husband. If you can tell me what I can do in this situation. I feel like my family is rubbing in to support (or not create problems) the nonsense of a complex. that my family is almost less free to meet my sister's husband's expectations. If you can tell me what I can do in this situation. I feel like my family is rubbing in to support (or not create problems) the nonsense of a complex. that my family is almost less free to meet my sister's husband's expectations. If you can tell me what I can do in this situation. I feel like my family is rubbing in to support (or not create problems) the nonsense of a complex.
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What is the emotional abuse of your sister's husband towards you, your mother and your father. I deliberately did not tell your family because there is no such thing anymore. You are a man of 28, you run a separate household. Your mother and father are a family, as are your sister and her husband. It is normal for her relationship with you to change after she has formed a family of her own and become a mother. Maybe again you will have a lot in common when you have a family and children. My brother and I are like that - he is still experiencing his student emotions, and my husband and I are furnishing an apartment, we are just at different stages of life. You sound very childish to me about who is older and what you define as a family. There also seems to be a certain amount of jealousy. What you can do is first think about whether your sister is happy and, if so, rejoice in her. Second,
You think, write and express yourself, not as a 29-year-old man, but as a nine-year-old boy. Shame on you.
So, as an eight-year-old.
You are really in a stupid situation, but what can you do ... Basically, I do not believe that you can have a meaningful relationship with a woman if: 1) she did not give birth to you, or 2) you do not have sex with her. Contrary to popular belief, a woman is not a man, and you can't count on her having her own attitude. It will be a mix of the environment in which she lives and the man she has sex with. I've had a lot of female "friends", and yes, if you're not one of the above two, you're really just an "acquaintance" ... Men are also often traitors, but to become a traitor, once upon a time there was . With women, rather - never develops. Unfortunately, often the blood does not change this. So, do not interfere in their lives, distance yourself, and look after yours. After all, you are also 28 ...
So far, all the comments are subjective - stupid and vicious, but you have not been able to explain exactly what is bad for your sister's friend. You talk about some kind of 'showing the horn' and that you feel his disrespectful attitude towards your parents, and also that he saw that you felt that. This is what I learned from your text. I will speculate a bit - maybe this is a child and therefore jealous of you and your parents, because it seems that you, your sister and your parents were from close-knit and close-knit families. I say this first because my father (he is a child) was also jealous of my mother's brother for many years and I remember how during my childhood he often said disgusting things about him and was very annoyed (and this burdened me mentally a lot). because this is a great negativism, no matter that my uncle doesn't like him either, but for my own reasons, I just preferred not to think about him) when my mother tells me to visit him or to communicate with him at all for some reason, and this to have happened once a year somewhere, sometimes less often. Otherwise, my mother was independent for a long time before she met my father and she saw her brother only a few times a year on various holidays. There were no siblings glued to each other at all. My father and uncle started communicating normally only a few years ago, and they are now over 60 years old. So, now let me say a second: I am also a child and as a child I suffered a lot from that. I really dreamed of having an older brother, but I would also be happy with my sister. I was very jealous of the sisters of 2 of my friends, because I wanted them (my girlfriends) to give more love to me than to them (older sisters), and I think at times I succeeded, because they were jealous of me and their sisters. Over the years, as I accepted the fact that I was a child and simply not meant to experience a sister-sister, sister-brother relationship, I began to realize these things with the jealousy of someone's sister or brother and that this was super pointless. Fortunately for me, I reached this realization much earlier than my father, my uncle, and maybe a lot of other people :) I began to realize these things with the jealousy of someone's sister or brother and that this with super nonsense. Fortunately for me, I reached this realization much earlier than my father, my uncle, and maybe a lot of other people :) I began to realize these things with the jealousy of someone's sister or brother and that this with super nonsense. Fortunately for me, I reached this realization much earlier than my father, my uncle, and maybe a lot of other people :)
To 1 and 2. I will answer step by step. I will not mention examples because they are specific. Apparently you didn't understand, you may not understand these things, so I will ask you to stop "helping" me. This is not the place to watch me from above, I know if I share I can be vulnerable, but if you can't help it, at least don't bother. "You sound very childish to me with who's older," look, understand what I'm saying, don't shoot with words. I don't invent this about "bigger" to justify myself. I did not create this problem. When you talk to someone and use "trump card", (I'm ashamed to explain it to you) "I'm 4 years older than you, what do you understand" followed by awkward silence, because it's not a time for bullshit, who behaves like a child? I don't like you comparing me to your brother, you confuse me with him, every person is different. Having said these things above, they don't make me a bitch, they make me a person with feelings. The easiest way is to "drop the bomb and kill everyone." I don't want to hurt my relatives (sometimes it's a slap in the face, as a sign of love), and I don't want anyone else to hurt them. I'm looking for help to know how to act delicately. You judge me easily, I have a girlfriend, I'm not married when we're all together, I don't behave repulsively with my sister, or so I think, I hope it's not different. Also, I no longer like taking my girlfriend to my parents and my sister's family, I'm afraid my girlfriend may be influenced in some way. I don't know how to tell you, thank you for your time, but you're not helping me or I don't see how at the moment. Let me hear someone who has been in such a situation and learn from it. About 4. We were never close with my sister, we were always just brother and sister, but she never treated me so that I felt like she didn't want to be my brother. You may be right about distancing yourself, but I don't want to ever regret not doing something when I should have. From the author.
H1 is right! And what do you care about in their family? Whatever they want to do! Aman already! And you don't sound like a 28-year-old man with your spelling! First, get a primer, don't worry, it won't hurt you! Nor to eat you! Maybe ... hahahahahahahahaha
In addition, 7, take and you bought a primer, because you do not know the rules for placing "s / s". I think they gave you the grades in primary school and you believed a lot.