Hello. A girl of 20 writes to you, my boyfriend is 25 ... The other day, while we were having sex, he started caressing me very gently, as if I had just blown a rose, which he is afraid to tear off and touches it very gently ... I told him, that I was very pleased ... The next night the item was last night, I asked him to do the same ... It's not who knows what, it's not something disgusting or hard to say he doesn't want to do it .. He laughed and he refused ... I became extremely uncomfortable .. Whenever he asks me for something I do it with pleasure, and I once asked him for something and he refused .. He told me it's like me to you I say "Blow me", and it's not the same at all ... He was almost offended that I shared this with him, again I say it's really not about something rude, disgusting, perverted, etc ... My question to you are, why was this sharp reaction,
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The question is fundamental. It's one thing to tell someone what you like and share it if they've done something you enjoyed, it's quite another to want it. I follow the philosophy that one should not ask for touches and caresses, you say what you like, but you do not ask the other to do it and you do not oblige him. After a while, it doesn't really matter if your friend says "Blow me." asks so directly and urgently. Of course, even if the desired action happens, it will not be pleasant, very likely for both. That's what he was trying to tell you. If by chance he still wants things directly from you, well, then he is basically wrong. However, if he asks you if you want to do something, things are different.
Very strange reaction. Usually, when men find out that something is driving their girlfriend crazy, they try to do it more often. This is really inadequate. And you don't ask him for something who knows what, nothing costs him to caress you ... I don't know what to tell you. You shocked me.
He felt like you were in control of him or he just didn't look masculine ...
Don't give him sex when he wants to several times !!!
He pretends to be interesting, he tries to dominate and show you that you can't command him.
Then it came from inside him and he did it. But these things do not happen on a signal, so he reacted that way.
His reaction is totally inadequate. You will find further in your relationship that he is selfish.
Just tell him what you like and he drives you crazy. Respond to his caresses, but do not ask for them or impose on him what, how and how much to do for you. It is irritating for some people to be intimately controlled while others like it. It's a matter of tastes .. you will adjust, don't worry and don't think so much - have fun :)
His reaction is really strange. Probably something lame in your relationship, maybe in intimacy.
A little off topic, but am I the only one who, if her boyfriend (in the appropriate situation, of course) tells her "Blow me", will not get angry, but will get wet?