Hello! First of all, I want to tell you that the topic is unpleasant for me and I ask you not to pour salt into my wound. The thing is, my friend smokes weed. This irritates me a lot. We talked about it, he promised me he would stop, but when 2 days passed without smoking and he became terribly nervous. When he goes to work he doesn't smoke, he concentrates. But when he comes home, his first job is to sit down and get drunk. He becomes inadequate and totally naughty. This affects both him and our relationship. What should I do I've tried everything and absolutely nothing works. They advised me to leave him, if he loved me he would stop smoking, etc. We have been together for a long time and I love him. It's hard for me to throw it away lightly. I'm waiting for advice. Thanks in advance.
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You can't make him stop because of you. The decision must come from him, from within, otherwise (as you have already seen) it makes no sense. I don't know what to tell you except to reassure you that the grass isn't so scary. It is not good to smoke every day, so you can convince him to reduce it - once a week, for example.
I stopped the weed some time ago and became more serious, but that's because I wanted to. A person either you like him as he is or if it bothers you so much you leave. You can't change someone. It is possible that when you leave he will startle and leave the grass to bring you back. I understand your problem, a man really freaks out from the grass, but you can't influence him. All my friends smoke and I told them, but no effect. The grass makes you feel good about it, and when you don't smoke you go crazy. Depression starts and it is quite difficult. Will and character are required
He is addicted. The same as with cigarettes, but more dangerous and illegal on top of everything. He can't stop if he doesn't have the will. You have to be his support if you really want to deny it. And you have to put up with his nervousness in the first months (sometimes maybe more), but if you love him, you will support him. If he just has no desire, really leave him. Success! F, 22
He is addicted. I don't know what you expect us to tell you. It will still be worse. What future do you have with such a person?
Try it and you will understand.
Since you obviously have no answer from an informed person so far, I will answer you. You can have 2 problems with weed - that you don't like the effect after taking it and that it is illegal. From a health point of view, things like alcohol and cigarettes are many times more harmful and addictive. The reason he doesn't stop her is probably because he doesn't see the point in that, but about you ... You either like him the way he is or he doesn't. If you don't like it while it's drunk, just don't be around it then