Hello! I am 21 years old, my friend is 26. We have been together for 8 months. In the first month I noticed that when we are among people, he is constantly "looking around". He can't miss a beautiful woman, girl. I've noticed that he generally likes to look at what's going on around him, but as I said, if a nicer one passes by, he can't ignore it. For the first 1 2 months I thought it was normal because we have been together recently, but gradually over time it started to weigh on me. I have told him at least 5 times about it and he always tells me that there is no such thing, that he is only with me. I trust him to be alone with me. I don't think he will cheat on me, but this has already become a fixed idea that I think about all the time. And my confidence in him has waned a little. Like I said, I don't think he's going to take any action, but this interest, which shows it women notice it and respond. And where am I? Sometimes I think that if someone goes ds take it off, I won't pull much. He has told me many times that he wants a serious relationship with me, he wants us to build a future together, and I start to wonder if I will be able to swallow this seemingly small obstacle. I am far from thinking that this is not normal. Just up to a point. I don't know if I'm very jealous ... So far I've never had such a problem with one of my former friends. I've never harnessed myself to that. I'm jealous of such things, but even if it's such a constant problem for me ... I see a lot of couples on the streets and not all of them are like that. Of course, I'm not like a horse with caps, but I don't look at other men because I'm in love and they're not interesting to me. The story seems to have become very long. Just tell us your opinion about the story.
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That he wants a serious relationship with one does not mean that he will miss the opportunity for "fun". And the fact that he did it in the beginning was a clear sign that in your presence he feels safe to cast fishing rods, that he does not respect you, but use your presence (especially if you're prettier) as a trophy "see what I got, if you want I'll play it for you" etc. No, run from such! If you are obedient, with your head bowed, you will be his comfortable wife, possibly for breeding, a child / you look at and a maid, but a WOMAN, a PERSON with such ... no.
It is normal to stare. It is not normal to do it constantly. And something is definitely wrong if he is obviously lying in denial. This man will never be with you completely. You will always look around, and even if you start a family you will be looking for a mistress almost 100% sure. Drop it and move on. It's time to evaluate yourself, instead of attacking someone who obviously doesn't really want you.
Make no mistake - he is a typical womanizer. What future do you think you will build with such a person?
This is a manifestation of total disrespect for the person you are with. It is clear that every man notices beautiful women. Like women, we are not blind to cool men. But it is one thing to look discreetly, quite another to look openly and without caring that you are hurting and insulting the person next to you. You are a very young author to put up with this guy. Life is in front of you, at this age you want boyfriends.
Hello! You are absolutely right to be annoyed by what your friend is doing, it is NOT up to your self-esteem or as someone would say, for example, that you have complexes and that is why these things irritate you. The question is how much he respects you and whether he thinks about how you feel in a given situation, how much he cares about you and how much he respects his choice (ie he is with you) and it is disrespectful and inappropriate to look at others, sometimes it is normal to look , but as soon as this is systematic and noticeable, show him that you also have dignity and should appreciate you more, respectively, to stop doing this! F, 20
I don't want to give wrong ideas, but when I love someone with my heart, I never look at anyone else, NEVER. Not because I'm holding back, but because I have no desire, even if I'm not with my girlfriend, other girls don't interest me and I only think about her. I don't think he's frivolous and like I said I don't want to trick you into thinking wrong things, but I don't think he really loves you if he looks at others, maybe you feel the same way. Look at the actions, not his words, this is my advice and from there estimate what you think about it.
Honey, doubt can kill even the perfect relationship! If he looks at them with quick glances, there is no problem. Well, if a chick stares for 10 minutes, that would be a problem. But to look at them quickly is nothing. Don't tell me you don't see the other men on the street, because that wouldn't sound true. If he tells you that he loves you and that he wants a serious relationship, that he wants to be only with you, trust him. And if you are so paranoid, turn on an acquaintance of yours, WHO DOESN'T KNOW THAT YOU KNOW, let him go to the dump. Tell her to be persistent, even impudent and impudent, just to see if the tough man will give in. But I think you do the dramas yourself, and there's nothing wrong with that.
All men stare, darling, if you want to test it, make your girlfriend take it off
You don't need someone who, even without hiding, looks around for others, things are easy to feel. You're just his trampoline to possibly someone "better" than you. If you respect yourself, lose it, don't complicate your life
I learned something very important from my husband. "All men fantasize about other women, they all dance on the beauties on the street, they all dream of a harem ... but not everyone is honest enough to admit it." I am grateful that he is honest enough to admit it. This is more important to me. Over the years, I began to have fun with his fantasies - once a neighbor, another time a colleague, a third time the boss's wife, a fourth time my girlfriend, etc. But it's funny because we discuss these ladies in all the spicy details (imaginary) , of course) and we giggle. Only once did I get seriously angry because I was waiting for him at a certain place in the building where I work, and he went to another one because he was rehearsing a modern dance ballet there and he wanted to see the girls. As a result: we were late for the theater and I was going to kill him - not because of the girls, but because of the failed tickets. As a more mature woman, author, I would give you the following advice. Don't worry while your husband is looking at other women, start worrying when he stops looking at them. Because then he will stop looking at you too. Either he has lost interest in sex (which is a tragedy!), Or he has already found an object more interesting than you (which is a disaster!) Understand, darling, men look at other chicks the way we women look at store windows: we do not intend to buy this skirt, but we will hang in front of the window for half an hour to stare at it. Didn't you go shopping aimlessly? So, don't buy anything, but measure a dozen pairs of shoes? It's the same with them. If your friend says to you tomorrow, "I have no eyes for another woman, I see only you, my love,
№10 your husband may be open and know his limits, but this is not the case with the author. It is true that we all stare, but in most cases it is accidental and exceptional. When it is non-stop, there is already a problem, as with the author. And on top of that, her friend denies it, which says completely different things. Rather, the boy is looking for a new one and will later dump his girlfriend. As for your husband - as a man I can say that when I'm with one woman, even if another catches my eye for a moment, I never fall into fantasies and the like. Being honest with you is somewhat positive, but on the other hand you have to think about how his explanations are not just excuses for something completely different. Don't let it happen that you've wasted years with someone who doesn't really love you.
№1 you sound like a prosecutor. Author, your friend has a complex. I guess he was rejected and he wants women to notice him.
After 20 years of marriage, it is normal to look at one. But it's in the beginning hahaha Congratulations this is the person you love. You will not breathe misery for him, you love him. Well done to the boy, that's what everyone should do. Then a woman will love you.
I fall reading some of the comments and the post in general. You probably don't stare, you've never looked or admired a man since you've been with him. Who are you kidding? But otherwise a big problem that he stared ...