Hello! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, he loves me very much, he gives everything for me, me too! We have lived so many things together, I would give anything for him, after all he was the first man in my life! During these 3 years we broke up once, because he wanted to ... and after 4 months we got together again, he had realized his mistake! And so for almost 3 years. Everything in our relationship is ok, without sex .. I don't know if the reason is in me or in him, but something doesn't work .. he just can't satisfy me !!! But that doesn't make me love him a little, but I don't know if it's a reason to look away ... Some time ago I started seeing one of my ex-boyfriends, but not alone with him but with other friends! He has a girlfriend of 5 years, but things between them did not go well and later I realized that they separated ... In the meantime, we saw each other as friends, or at least I tried to be like that, because the moment I saw him, everything inside me turned upside down ... but I can't understand what his intentions are for me. I had such a strong passion for him that I was even ready to dump my boyfriend and whatever ... But he behaves strangely - we write to each other on Skype very often - he tells me how he wants to have sex with me in the car, then we see as if nothing has happened, then the same thing on Skype, when we see each other as if he's acting crazy and nothing ..... I don't know if he wants to drive me crazy, but if so he succeeds, because when I don't see him everything is ok and I even forget it, but the moment it appears it all starts anew. Now he seems to have reconciled with his friends again, but we see each other again for a long time ... I can't understand him ...... and I don't know what to do, because I want to be with my friend and everything is fine, but when I see this boy and it is as if another person is born in me, something pulls me towards him ...... I feel a terrible thrill and desire to be with him ... . !!! Give me advice what to do, I do not want to hurt anyone :(
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Dear girl, I understand you very well, it's the same with me. I have a friend, but when I see the "other" I go crazy. Well, I made the mistake of giving myself to him and now I love him, not my boyfriend. If you can, it's best to step away from him and it's better that nothing happens between you, you'll go crazy over him even more. My other advice is to grab him boyfriend and leave your current one. Think carefully about what you want. As for the fact that your friend does not satisfy you, talk to him and find a solution to the problem.
He probably doesn't dare admit to you live that he wants you. It's much easier to write it on Skype than to say it in person. You need to talk seriously and find out who is experiencing what. And if you want it so badly, it's just that your relationship with your friend has no future. Go where your heart draws you. Be brave and ask him directly. He can't dodge you forever. I think he does it because he is a coward, he doesn't feel like standing in front of you and telling you, that's why he writes it on Skype. However, you have a friend, it may prevent him from being braver. Next time, start "fooling" him on Skype, and more insistently, until he has no doubts that you want him! And then when you see each other you will talk seriously. This is the only way. Success!
I think you need to find a way to show him you want him. He may be waiting for you to take the first step. Once he knows you have a serious relationship, he wants you to make a decision. But if you want to, act!