Hello. A woman of 22 years. I am and have had a serious relationship for 7 years. He's the only one I've slept with. My problem is this: it only happened to me once that I finished. I didn't even feel much pleasure then. That was 3-4 years ago. Then I have had more pleasure and I can't finish. Soon he put it as a problem that I do not like it enough, etc. Sometimes I feel that I will finish, but it ends just then. I love him endlessly and the fact that it was a question that I do not finish and he almost did things that I do not like .. I was very naughty. I am 1,000,000 percent satisfied and I can't describe how top everything in my bed is. I just can't finish. Please give me some advice on what to do to make things work and make my man happy.
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I know it. In women, orgasm is largely a setting. It has happened to me that it was very nice, uniquely satisfying, but I did not finish. It has happened to me that I do not have the same excitement, but I get a happy ending. My friend once told me that he felt bad, that he didn't satisfy me. He really believed in himself a lot, he was ready to be angry with himself and me. I wanted to grab him by the shoulders, shake him, slap him and scream in his face that he was talking nonsense to me and I feel great when we're intimate. I didn't do it. I hugged him, kissed him and explained to him that in some women this is the case and it is not his fault, because he does everything in his power and is not selfish at all. Then I slept with him and finally, when we lay naked in bed, I told him it was great. It really was. I have a high libido and he attracts me, he knows it. We talk about this topic, we try different things. I don't always manage to finish, but I'm always happy and I try to let him know. Try to explain these things to him calmly, without dramas and scandals. He is not who knows what, but he should not worry and feel guilty, given that he is doing things right.
Emmy is a problem. How long have you been having sex? In principle, the end of sex should be orgasm in men and women. The latter is not always guaranteed, but it is not bad to be most of the time. Personally, I cum in 70% of cases and I can say that when I do not cum I am quite nervous and disappointed (if my husband has not waited for me) and the mood drops sharply. It should also be a problem for the man if the woman does not have an orgasm. Either you have a physiological problem (hardly), or you are still inexperienced (you don't finish on your own) or he doesn't do something right. There is an option to simulate (which I do not recommend) so that he is satisfied as soon as you are ok with the lack of orgasm, or to find a solution to the problem. Many men measure masculinity against their ability to satisfy a woman. They are like dogs - if you throw a ball to them and when they bring it you clap and shout enthusiastically you will make them happy. It is commendable that he was interested in the opposite. Talk, let her help you cum during sex or why not help yourself. Both he is satisfied and you.
I think I have the same problem with my wife. Orgasm and its manifestation is specific to each woman. When you love a woman, the pleasure of seeing and feeling her cum, it further excites you. I asked ... there is no clear answer. And when you're not there, you're looking for the problem in yourself, which is ... deadly. Either you don't arouse her, or she has specific desires and is ashamed to tell herself, or there are fantasies that are not related to me, there may be a lover ... there is something, something is missing and if she "spits out the stone" the losses will be more from one .... orgasm. It's important for the man to finish the woman next to him ... and believe me, we're not like the puppies ... because the ball may not be brought to the woman who throws it.
She was satisfied with 1,000,000 percent, but she didn't finish ... A wonderful oxymoron!
n4 you are very right .... indeed this is a mass phenomenon but unfortunately not much is commented.