I had a brief affair with a boy two years ago, but it was just complicated and we decided it was better to keep the relationship. For these two years we have not stopped writing to each other, rarely 2-3 times a month and whenever one of us needs something we help each other .. Now for nine months I have a relationship with a man. Things were going well until I was slapped and after that slap there was a series of slaps. I know that if a man hits once, there will be more. I may have had strong feelings for him over time, but he managed to kill everything in me. His constant outings, I do not mind going out, but one of his outings is 3-4 days drunk drunk does not know where he was for three days and what he did. He constantly curses me and threatens me with a fight, the moment I told him he wouldn't keep me by his side, he slapped me, and then he took me to them and the slaps started again ... Now for almost 1 month I have been seeing my ex (I will call him C). I dare say that C knows me more or less and I didn't have to talk much to understand my situation ...
Now someone will say you're what you are, but you men sometimes force women to go to someone who doesn't swears, doesn't shout at them, doesn't raise his hand, someone who hugs and kisses them all night. Now C thinks that the time will come when we will be together, but first he thinks how to get me out of my relationship. Everything went so wrong. I wanted to be with my friend, we had dreams of family and children. And now my dreams are about how to get out of this relationship without taking me to the hospital. I do not want my life to be spent in fights and scandals. I've told him many times that no one will stay with him like that, I know I'm not the only one, but if it does not change a lifetime they will flee from it. Now he stopped the sedatives and every time he called me on the phone he heard "a dead dog, etc." Something in me does not want to leave him, but there is something in me that wants to be S. And almost my friend threatens me that he knew where I lived and knew my mother and that something bad could happen. S sat down to talk to me and offered me a few options that are not very good, but I do not see another.
Everything weighs so much on me, I wanted to pour it here. There are so many things I want to say, but I don't have the courage to say them to my friends. And now everything is getting harder with my friend and S ... but there is something in me that wants to be S. And almost my friend threatens me that he knew where I lived and knew my mother and something bad could happen. S sat down to talk to me and offered me a few options that are not very good, but I do not see another. Everything weighs so much on me, I wanted to pour it here. There are so many things I want to say, but I don't have the courage to say them to my friends. And now everything is getting harder with my friend and S ... but there is something in me that wants to be S. And almost my friend threatens me that he knew where I lived and knew my mother and something bad could happen. S sat down to talk to me and offered me a few options that are not very good, but I do not see another. Everything weighs so much on me, I wanted to pour it here. There are so many things I want to say, but I don't have the courage to say them to my friends. And now everything is getting harder with my friend and S ...
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Immediately seek the help of an organization helping victims of domestic violence! Apparently your current friend is a complete psychopath, and if until now he was satisfied only with slaps, you do not know how long it will be like that and whether one day he will not beat you severely. As for C, he can be a good moral support at such a time and be glad that you have a person who cares for him. Success!
For such a thing you have to go to the police immediately and explain these threats, then go out ...
Knowing the key to the perfect marriage is to marry your best friend. I have been married for 16 years and have 4 children and I love my husband more than in the beginning, much more.
Abe, you always choose some weirdos for men, then roar. Bati movie
He is clear, but only now do you find that he drinks and shakes? I'm sorry, but you're guilty too, no one sends you to them.
Author, your situation is more serious than it sounds from your mouth. "Now the sedatives have stopped and every time you call me on the phone you hear 'dog dead, etc.' This is the peak of humiliation and you must act immediately! You always have relatives and people who can help you. Say it. You even have to get out of where you live, hide and call the police (which I'm a little skeptical about, but it's still your responsibility to report.) Your situation is not: will it pass in And it's much more serious and you have to contact someone (with an organization, etc.), there is no shame in such things, because it is important to stay healthy and intact. It's about your health, nothing is more important than that, so really act !!!
You run into such uligophrenics yourself and then cry. Were you blind when you went with him?
There is nothing more to think of him! Your desire is to get rid of it. From what you've written, it sounds like a pretty dangerous guy to me. I advise you to go to the police immediately. The fact that he hit and beat you and threatened you and your family is a sufficient reason to issue a restraining order so that he does not rush to you. Find witnesses who are ready to confirm what happened. Also point out that he is on pills and sedatives and that he is taking drugs according to your words. If you have the opportunity, move to live with your mother elsewhere temporarily, for example with relatives. It's nice to have a stable man in your house. Change your phone number as soon as you go to the police, give it only to your closest relatives and friends and explicitly inform them not to give it to anyone else. If you have a job, start looking for a new one and leave the old one. If you have the financial ability, take all these steps at once to make you lose track of this person. If necessary, you can change the city in which you live with a larger one if you are from a small town. Be sure to let your loved ones know about this person to protect them if he wants to harm them. Make sure you don't understand that you are still with your ex-boyfriend, so as not to harm him. If necessary, hide. You can also contact one of the following anti-violence organizations. Here's what I found on the Internet:
Are we in time? If most men showed their true side, no one would be tied down by saying that he likes to beat his girlfriends ...
Author Number 8 - thank you very much. My mother 10 years ago. changed the city loaded such a man only it was my father. It took her 20 years. to gather courage to get away. The bad thing is that I've obviously followed her path, which I plan to end. I exclude these institutions as an option, he would not be shocked by this. Two days ago we had a scandal, he kicked me out of them and I thought "maybe this is the END", but alas, when I closed the door on the outside he just grabbed my hair and put me inside, but this time there were no slaps. I can't just understand he can be so good, because I've seen not only his bad side, I have the feeling that in a few seconds he becomes a different person. I wish there was an easy way. The hiding will most likely be with my ex, at least I know they can't find me there and C's friends are serious guys and will help if anything happens. The truth is that I am afraid of the consequences ...
I'm sorry, but the more correct the other comments are, the more true 4, 5 and 7. Beat the jester for a second of this copy and don't think about it. A man who beats a woman is not a man - he is a sick, pathetic and weak creature. There are institutions, televisions, obviously you have the support of your ex. What more do you need? One night to snap something at him and kill you, and in the morning not to remember what he did?
It was to get caught up in intimidating these serious friends and it was over. Your friend is really a psychopath - they know how to be very good, but they do it not from a good heart, they are just manipulators to achieve their goal. And usually their girlfriends are people who quickly become attached and develop an addiction to the psychopath. Here I can advise you to actively build your life: friends, work, qualification, fitness, dancing ... look at your life more and don't think about this psycho. They also have no problem killing someone, it's just that their moral judgment has shifted and they're intelligent enough not to be caught easily. This should scare you so we don't find you in a ditch one day. Send him to warn him that they will cut off his ears, and get away from him once and for all, and look after your life,
From number 8 - what else do you think. Why did you go to him again? Avoid his home, the places where he goes, throw away your phone number, get a new card. And please go to the police. You obviously didn't have a particularly good role model and it is possible to unconsciously repeat the family model, but this is very difficult to establish without personal contact. However, this does not mean that you will go the same way, calmly. The best part is that you have a choice - and the best thing for you is to get rid of that person. Love yourself, there is no other person on this earth who deserves your love more than you. Do the best for you. :)
Now that I think about it and realize that this type of men are looking for little girlfriends so they can manipulate them.
If I'm in your place, I'll stalk him when he's out and there are drugs and I'll call the police anonymously
in my opinion, call the ex and some company to step on him a little and take everything he has
from the author the truth is that I am scared, not that I have lived with him all my life but one year is not small and I have the feeling that I will collapse without him, I do not know if it is normal having in mind what he is. And as S thinks to scare him, I'm afraid that no one will be hurt.
Dear, there are already injured people, this is the number to end. What will happen to you? What does he give you without which you will feel bad? Slaps, insults? This conflict may not have a peaceful solution, but I tell you again, take your life into your own hands, make a list of the things you want to do WITHOUT it and take small steps towards your life so that you are not an appendage to his. Apart from relief and pleasure that you are your own boss, you will not feel anything else, you will see.
And you can threaten him with a sexual veto if he stays.
in principle, he can threaten him with many things as long as he has a stable person by his side and gives them. the courage to do it
In fact, it may be a mild illness. And I often need to punish and slap my drunks. Maybe that's why I can't stay in touch for more than two weeks. More than 60 girls have been through my life!
Apart from going to the police for advice, I don't know what else you can do.
there is no police. to startle him. some time ago he introduced me to his friend and slightly hinted to me that if he leaves, this could be the person who will harm me for a little money ...
Dear the one you are writing about reminds me a lot of one of my exes, and it will not be easy for you until you find the strength and courage to just disappear from his life