Please, good people, help me get out of this impasse ... My friend and I were together for 3 years, after which we moved to another city to study. Even when we were in the small town, things were not rosy, we talked about this topic and we agreed that if we do not get our life together, we will separate, he explicitly agreed. Ever since I lived with him, I really got to know him and realized that this man was not for me. I tried to explain it to him in the calmest way, and he told me that without me his life was meaningless and he would commit suicide. We fought a lot, I finally managed to convince him that it was worth living. Quarrels became more frequent. He thought I had another, so I left him. Every week, and always on the days when I slept 3 hours a day because of my many assignments at university, he took up the subject and we started with the scandals, always ending more and more sinisterly. The moment came when he decided he had to carry out his suicide threat. I was left without a drop of strength, because when he went to the door with the words that this was his last day, I put all my energy to stop him, it's awful to know that you are physically powerless against someone ... Last night was another quarrel. He took a blister of pills as a cover and started taking them one by one in front of me with the words "OK, if you want, see how I do it" ... Fortunately, nothing happened to him. I can't express in words what I'm going through at the moment, I'm subjected to this harassment every day, he tells me very calmly how he will commit suicide and how I can't do anything ... He knows that if he does, it will ruin me, but he doesn't care .. I talk to him, I talk to his friends. they don't take me seriously ... please
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The mistake is in you - that you are attached to him. And I think you do it not so much for him, but for yourself, because his encroachment on his life weighs on your conscience. But why does it weigh on your conscience? - You don't want him killed, it will look like you killed him. Not so, you are not to blame for his condition, in any way. If he kills himself, he will be guilty. You didn't stuff it with pills. It is not your fault that he has a mental disorder. So if you want (I'm not sure) to get rid of it. You firmly declare: Look what, if you want to kill yourself, I respected you enough and this decision is yours! Or: You make me choose between my life and yours - I choose mine well! "Kill yourself if you want." He will take his life again - nothing stands indifferent. Watch it and stay where you are. When he drinks the bottle, he will faint, but he will not be dead. Then don't touch anything, pick up the phone and tell the hospital that you saw him lying like that and the bottle, you say what it was, is empty. Most likely, they will save him, interrogate you, tell him what he told you, and put him in treatment. So in 24 hours, you will get rid of. He may reach out to you when he sees that you are not in favor of responding to his threat. If you are stronger, let him hit you, push him away and run, call the police, take a restraining order, tell him what happened. If you are weaker, try to run away and do the same again. Before that go to the doctor for medical. There is another easier option. You say what you described here on 112 and wait for instructions. tell him what he told you, and they will put him to treatment. So in 24 hours, you will get rid of. He may reach out to you when he sees that you are not in favor of responding to his threat. If you are stronger, let him hit you, push him away and run, call the police, take a restraining order, tell him what happened. If you are weaker, try to run away and do the same again. Before that go to the doctor for medical. There is another easier option. You say what you described here on 112 and wait for instructions. tell him what he told you, and they will put him to treatment. So in 24 hours, you will get rid of. He may reach out to you when he sees that you are not in favor of responding to his threat. If you are stronger, let him hit you, push him away and run, call the police, take a restraining order, tell him what happened. If you are weaker, try to run away and do the same again. Before that go to the doctor for medical. There is another easier option. You say what you described here on 112 and wait for instructions. If you are weaker, try to run away and do the same again. Before that go to the doctor for medical. There is another easier option. You say what you described here on 112 and wait for instructions. If you are weaker, try to run away and do the same again. Before that go to the doctor for medical. There is another easier option. You say what you described here on 112 and wait for instructions.
Oh, dear calm down, this is just a demonstration for you. He found his way of manipulating you. But believe me, this is a coward, he will never do it !!! Just take your luggage and disappear. Maybe he will look for you, so that with all his theatrical art he will scream for your attention, taking the pills in front of you completely protected, or you will stop him or you will seek help. and again you will be "forced" Another option is when you leave, for example theatrically to faint among the people necessarily and very timely, to be served by doctors. Get away from this immature, scary man! He has nothing, nothing to do! If he does something of what I think, don't look for him, don't offer him sympathy or your fears. This is his weapon. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about! I had one, after 2 years I was so tired that I told him openly - if you want to die. ... come on! I don't feel alive with you and without it. I left, after about 2 weeks I found him at a party, alive, looking for another easy to manipulate. Let their mothers think! You're not his mom, don't "kill" yourself for this ... being
Call your parents, and seek a psychologist secretly from all your friends. Talk to the psychologist, he will take you seriously, realizing that he has swallowed pills. But first discuss it with yours in the fastest way. If they don't help, go to the police and tell them (but that's a last resort). Go to a few psychologists because they may not take you seriously. It is difficult for a person to die, but he will suffer such damage with these pills that he will stay in the hospital for a month!
He ruthlessly manipulates you! And you are attached to him out of stupidity ... And to commit suicide - the decision and the responsibility for this are his and only his, they are not yours. How come "his life without you is meaningless"? What if she hadn't been born, what would he have done? ... You know what - his life would have been meaningless ... In fact, your friend is an energy vampire - he feeds on the heavy energy of your fear and despair, he blackmails you to constantly pay attention to it and thus to water it with your energy. Cut off all contact with him - run away, hide for a while, at least for a month or two. He is unlikely to commit suicide, and even if he does, I repeat, the responsibility for the tray will be 100% his. If he doesn't, it will be clear to everyone, including himself, that he can live without you. His friends rightly don't take you seriously - it's absurd for any normal person to believe in such manipulation ... because you've been inside the manipulation for a long time, it seems to you that this is the only truth, but it is not! Even if we (quite hypothetically) assume that after you disappear he commits suicide, absolutely every normal person, including his friends, will assume that his board has seriously slammed, and no one will even think that you are guilty of something.
Dear girl, hide for a while and you will understand the truth. I think it only scares you not to leave him. Don't feel so sorry for him, because you will waste your life. If you do not have the courage, then you have resigned yourself, and life is a struggle! !!
Run away from this psychopath. He's lying to you. Suicides don't talk, they do it without talking. But what future will you have with him? Answer this question and you will know what to do next.
Run away from this one. Either he manipulates you completely unscrupulously or he is mentally ill. In the first case, it is not worth living with such a person and someone who, in case of disagreement, starts again with his song about suicide. Such people are more difficult than children who roar and shake. He just does it on purpose. This is the case with me for you. The other option is, as I mentioned, to have some mental problems. It is difficult for all of us at certain stages, but a very small percentage of these people take their own lives. If he does so because of this, he obviously needs specialized help, which you can't provide anyway. He has parents, he has friends, you are not the only one in this world for him, only you are being bullied. Get out and don't look for him at all - you won't fuck mutual friends, because if he finds out, that you are interested in him will encourage him to pretend to be interesting in order to pay attention to him. You don't talk to him, you don't ask about him, when you see his friends you don't ask about him, you don't go to cafes where you can spot him and so on. Ana
Please, what a "dead end road"? The way out is very easy and of course! This guy is the so-called energy vampire, he blackmails you and abuses you because you leave him and let him. First of all, realize that you are not responsible for his life! You are not responsible for someone else's life, only he is responsible for his life. Whether he will live or not, how he will live, etc. by no means your job! It is his personal business. Understand it: he is responsible for his own life, not you. In case he is ill and mentally ill / behaves as such /, again you are not responsible for him! Just cut off all contact with him, tell him clearly and unequivocally that you do not want to be disturbed on any occasion. Don't talk to him, don't see him, don't hear him ... if he bothers you, threaten him with the police. He has no right to annoy. It's up to you ... the more you attach to his unhealthy psyche and pay attention to him, the worse it will be for you. The person is ill, needs to be treated. The fact that he wants to transfer the responsibility for himself to someone else shows that he needs treatment. But you are not his mother or nanny. Break it! - It is.
Offer him something stronger, for example xanax 1 blister and 200-300 grams of hard alcohol. If he drinks them, then he is abnormal and sooner or later he will tremble. But most likely the fur coat will catch him and then you will understand that his words are a soap bubble.
Go away. And don't look back.
And I had a friend who did all sorts of dramas and "suicides" every time I tried to break up. I finally told him to go to a psychiatrist and leave me alone. Such people get on your head and take advantage of your conscience.
Look ... a man can't keep you by his side if you don't want him ... At the moment you are afraid only because if you take your own life it will weigh on your conscience ... right? .. Threaten him and you tell him that if he doesn't leave you alone you will kill yourself in front of him, but try to be convincing and do such actions just to scare him .. the idea may seem silly at first glance, but, if he really says he loves you he'll leave you to make sure you don't do something dangerous, if he doesn't leave you ... you say goodbye and that's it .. I know it's not easy, but I guess you don't want to you succumb to his dramas .. tell him that you will be happy only if he leaves and it doesn't bother you anymore, if it doesn't work out there is nothing to do .. you choose - either to live happily alone without him or with him, but to be unhappy ..
Just get out of there. This person obviously has a serious problem, let him solve it on his own and don't get attached to him. No one has died of love, it will pass. If it's not for you and you're just tormented, I don't know what else you're doing with it. This is obviously his way of manipulating you to keep you with him. Listen to your inner voice and once you feel good, there is no need to prolong the agony.
you take your luggage and don't look back. how long will you live like this you are more likely to commit suicide after a time of helplessness to end this relationship
Get away from him. It is clear that he is manipulating you. Tell him that ALL his actions and words are solely HIS responsibility, not yours. So, even if it scares you - whatever you grind yourself, you will itch yourself.
100% just manipulate, dump him, he won't do anything.
They don't take you seriously because you are very simple to manipulate and very susceptible. The blame for the stupid situation is entirely yours. Don't let any lower gamen blackmail you like that!
Painfully familiar story. He was going to cut his veins. ”He pulled out a knife in front of me. This went on for a very long time - more than a year. I started a new relationship and the psychopath threatened to kill my new friend. The only thing I'm sorry about now is that I didn't call the police. I was 17 years old and he scared me terribly and to this day I have some stress from that. Believe me - A DOG THAT BARKS DOES NOT BITE !!! When a person decides to really commit suicide, he does not inform anyone, so that no one can stop him. Your only goal is to prevent him from committing suicide, awakening a sense of guilt in you, to keep you busy with worries about his life! DO NOT PAY ANY ATTENTION TO HIM !!! Just tell him that if he wants so much - let him commit suicide and you are not responsible for his life. He needs to see that you have no guilt, no matter how much he instills it in you. And understand - even if you commit suicide (for which the probability is negligible), you really are not to blame! Can you imagine all your life guarding his life, complying with his desire to die? And he will not stop there until he sees your complete indifference, because he will think that he has taken your weak spot. Surely, when you tell him you don't care, he'll call you from somewhere to say goodbye or something. Don't give up! Complete coolness! You wish him success and hang up! And you will see how after the farewell conversation there will be an attempt for a second farewell conversation! Don't waste your days like me! Success! because he will think he has taken your weak spot. Surely, when you tell him you don't care, he'll call you from somewhere to say goodbye or something. Don't give up! Complete coolness! You wish him success and hang up! And you will see how after the farewell conversation there will be an attempt for a second farewell conversation! Don't waste your days like me! Success! because he will think he has taken your weak spot. Surely, when you tell him you don't care, he'll call you from somewhere to say goodbye or something. Don't give up! Complete coolness! You wish him success and hang up! And you will see how after the farewell conversation there will be an attempt for a second farewell conversation! Don't waste your days like me! Success!
този е социопат. Имах връзка с подобен тип, трудно се отървах, защото той използваше насилие, хиляди заплахи, че ще се самоубие, включително и подобни демонстрации с гълтане на хапче, пълзене в краката ми.. чакал ме е цяла нощ на -15 във входа ми, на таванското помощение да се прибера. Цялата работа е просто да си тръгнеш и да не обръщаш внимание на полюсовите му емоции. Няма да се самоубие, бъди сигурна! Всичко това го прави, защото вижда, че те задържа. Бягай докато е време
Gather your luggage and get out of there. If necessary, change your mobile number. Disconnect all connections. He will not commit suicide. And if he's so dumb or crazy to do it, it's not your fault. Everyone has the right to seek their happiness and you are not obliged to beat it for the rest of your life (which will be shortened a lot if you stay there). Just leave and don't look back! F27
Well, the previous 4 comments told you that, there are 18 more on hold, I guess they will be the same. I was very pleased №2 - after 2 weeks at a party, alive, looking for another easy to manipulate. It is!
my ex used to do such circuses .. he called me and told me that he would hang himself .. he would jump baby, etc. But I didn't connect with him, he's still the same, your boy is not the only one with these threats, leave him while it's time and don't think there are many men with a shovel to shovel them! F, 18
It only scares you, if only once he sees that you don't care, he will sober himself. Manny is an immature kid. The other time he offered to scare you in unconventional ways. and away from psychopaths.
Let his parents know he needs a psychiatrist and get your bag and disappear - it's your duty! From then on, you are not responsible and you are not guilty of anything he did. I've experienced this, so the quickest way to get rid of it without delay. Write what happened ...
I have a problem similar to yours with my girlfriend. We have been together for 5 months and in general I think it is not for me, but I love her and I want to separate at times by mutual consent, but whenever one wants a separation, the other softens things. Yesterday we were on the topic that we should just remain friends, even she offered it to me (for me the fact that the story is not extremely rosy, she slept with a boy for November before we met, she made a whistle (reels of extortion), to a person with whom they have only known each other for 6 days), somehow these things come to me more, if I think about them, to meet these Badzhans and so on, although while we are together she has not cheated on me and while she has a relationship she is serious and honest, open and so on, I find it hard to accept these things and I was very curious yesterday to really end our relationship. I also hinted at these things that I knew, that I don't like them and she was offended that I was digging into her past ... she said ok, we're not for each other, let's just be friends. I thought that there is another one when he pities me so easily (we are together every day), but then I agreed, I said ok, great, we leave our friends and everyone knows him ... but he started telling me the way, how to get a book and take a car one day I will hear about her how she committed suicide somewhere. Then he posted a status on Facebook that he stopped eating from today on. She is an Aries zodiac sign, it is very difficult to fall on her back and she did not tell me directly in her eyes that she wants us to be together again, but she was visibly unhappy, she sent me songs with greetings, that she wants me back, to forgive her for being wrong. she told us to separate and so on ... I won't hurt her, but this irritability and impulsiveness of hers, I think, can ever hurt me and make me angry, if eventually I don't trust her and pick on her because I'm jealous. Of course I will disguise her later, I have proof of her mistakes before, she knows it very well. I am also impulsive and once I was angry that she did not come with me on the 24th day of our relationship and kissed another girl, danced and so on, but I did not have any sexual contact, while she was initially if I did not please her. it is possible to go further with someone, but we have not had such moments (in previous relationships she has had), in the present if she clings to me and loves me she will not cheat on me and lie to me, and I follow everything. But I wonder if I have a future with such a person. She cut her veins once, but not in a suicide attempt, but to injure herself so that her hands wouldn't hurt, that she had some problems. The next moment I slept on the ground in the bathroom, because I snored and pushed her out of bed. Once she had hidden and for all 2-3 days she did not pick up the phone and immediately went back to them and something was depressing. In general, I think it's not for me, but I can't leave her so that she doesn't do something stupid, I just don't know what to do, I'll give her more chances, I'll tolerate more, but she probably won't change, and will I be able to get out of it and end up not being poisoned with pills and stuff because she is definitely capable. She grew up with her mother and older brother, without a father and suffers a lot from that long relationship in which she was totally injured after 2 years, mother and sick, without a father .... what to do and I have no idea but I can't leave her so she doesn't do something stupid, I just don't know what to do, I'll give her more chances, I'll tolerate more, but she probably won't change, and will I be able to get out of it and in the end not to be poisoned with pills and so on, because she is definitely capable. She grew up with her mother and older brother, without a father and suffers a lot from that long relationship in which she was totally injured after 2 years, mother and sick, without a father .... what to do and I have no idea but I can't leave her so she doesn't do something stupid, I just don't know what to do, I'll give her more chances, I'll tolerate more, but she probably won't change, and will I be able to get out of it and in the end not to be poisoned with pills and so on, because she is definitely capable. She grew up with her mother and older brother, without a father and suffers a lot from that long relationship in which she was totally injured after 2 years, mother and sick, without a father .... what to do and I have no idea
Crazy thing ... I had a drummer like that too, only his sister was pushing butter when I told him I was leaving, lying in the snow in the cold and standing there until it froze so they could take him to the hospital and make me feel better. call. And I stupid went. Then I stayed with him for 1 month, for fear of committing suicide, but in the end I got tired and while he was gone I packed my bags and bye! it's easier while he's gone, because otherwise you have to put up with his nonsense! Finally, his sister called me hysterically shouting that it was my fault that he had stabbed himself in the heart !!! :) He was fine, he was alive and well, I got a restraining order, twice the yoke was taken away because he came to my work, but in the end a friend "tactfully" asked him to stop teasing me .... so, well. ... he won't commit suicide, calm down, they're nasty jerks
What happened, Author? Maybe you finally broke up and headed for another life (to take down other chicks after realizing you left him)
Hello, I have the same problem, the situation is even worse, could you share what happened in the end in you and with him?
By the most modern standards, the threat of suicide falls into the category of "domestic harassment", which it actually is. It is harassment, and it stinks if it's not his mother, it'll be his brother, if it's not him, it'll be another girl (or boy, it doesn't matter). You are urgently calling 112 !! Call 112 next time to meet with a trained specialist. Don't try to talk, this person is not well! As he roars and pretends to be a victim, so sometimes he will click on him, and he will chase you with the chopper, it will become clear that he was really sick, and he has no responsibility to bear it. Get away from him, find out he's a man with a disease! In general, those who talk a lot rarely take action, but can you be sure? THAT'S WHY A PSYCHIATRIST! Things are bad! And most importantly, never forget YOU ARE NOT GUILTY! I repeat - YOU ARE NOT GUILTY !! Such a person, regardless of the occasion and context, will find a way to blackmail and harass others. That disease is like that. PSYCHIATRIST! MANDATORY ! MEETING! C! PSYCHIATRIST! Immediately! Things are very bad. Don't blame yourself, such people gradually put you in their game, another healthy victim, you are not guilty of anything! Don't stop repeating it to yourself! This is a sick person who needs help - if not voluntarily - then forcibly! Good luck, darling, I sympathize with you, I squeeze your thumbs are you get rid of it safely, and heal. A loved one was injured last year because of one who carried out the threat, and for a year he went to therapy himself to get rid of the guilt that was bothering him, which is why I speak so passionately. Do whatever it takes to keep you from getting there. URGENT PSYCHIATRIST !!!
It's called "emotional blackmail." I once found mine cutting its veins in the kitchen. Then I took her to a psychologist, to no avail. It is clear that everything collapsed after this incident and she understood. Since then, there has been a chill between us and the two of us trying to separate. T. was bothered by the fact that she would be left alone, I was mad egocentric. We broke up, thank God. He's just been trying to find me a replacement ever since. This was happening in another country and it was local, in my apartment, I didn't know what the consequences would be. But if it was BG, I would let her kill herself. This is not love, and it's good for your friend to understand it somehow.
The next time he started trying, he called the police and 112 directly and called his parents to know what was going on. It will certainly be sobering. Let's deal with it. You are not a psychiatrist to solve his problems. By the way, why do you still live with him? If you are in his apartment or apartment, move out without warning him and do not pick up his phone or answer him as he writes. He does the tricks because you bond with him. Let his mother come, explain to her and shake her, let's see him.
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