Hello, dear readers !!! Half a year ago I started a relationship with a man I fell in love with and had many interesting months. Only a week ago, however, I realized that he was married and had children. The problem here is not that he is married or that I only found out about it in half a year, but that I want to leave him, and he threatens me that he will commit suicide if I do. I went to another city to get away from all this mess and I don't know how, but he understood where I was and came to me. When I came back he started following me with the car, calling me crying on the phone, etc ... I don't know what to do, this is not normal. In addition, he gets drunk constantly and soaks in front of us for hours. I don't know what to do, I'm afraid he won't touch me because he's quite serious about his intentions. Please tell me how to proceed, I tried everything and I constantly try with dialogues but it doesn't work ....
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There is only one answer: he is mentally ill. Leave him, and die, so what?
Call his wife to come and get him as soon as he soaks all night in front of you and drinks! As you say yourself - the problem is not in the current circumstances ... it does not honor him that he hid from you for half a year, but this is forgivable (the site has a lot of stories of happy development of relationships similar to yours). The problem is in him and especially in his behavior! That he blackmails you, threatens you, etc. does him no honor. It is possible that your relationship has drugged him so much that he is currently experiencing terrible abstinence, but this is not a reason to constantly harass and harass someone ...
Go and submit a request for harassment to the police, they will call him and he will sober up very quickly.
If he was going to commit suicide, he would have already done it, and not to flaunt it - call the police for harassment, this is another idiot who thinks that by pretending to be a victim he will keep someone. let's see if he will be so brave
There is no one who has committed suicide ... Those who do it do it at once without unnecessary drama and without notifying anyone. Apparently he doesn't want to lose his family either, because you don't explain if there was no option to divorce and be together if you don't want him anymore. Why don't you tell him that you can't sit on two chairs and make your choice and stop harassing. You pull some for him, call the police and then file a complaint in court to see if it stops. Good luck and write what happened ...
Call the police and tell them this thing and you can sue him for mental harassment and have a restraining order not to be able to approach you less than 100 meters away. Also tell his wife to take action.
A person who talks about suicide would never do it. Simple psychology. Ignore him, he will leave on his own. I hope everything is okay.
Try talking to him one last time. Tell him that if he doesn't stop bullying, you'll take other action. If that doesn't help, I'd turn to the police if I were you. And don't be afraid of suicide threats - if he wants to do it, he will do it without much talk and threats. He just manipulates you and thinks that this will keep you and scare you, and he obviously succeeds.
From the author. Thanks for everyone's comments. For now, I do not want to file a complaint, but if it is too much, I will do it. As for his wife, she called me herself and started screaming, how I ruined the marriage, and my explanations didn't affect her at all, so she dropped out. You asked me if he wanted to get married ... he offered me to live together, which should mean just that, but I refused. He is such a lowly guy that I regret spending time with him. Hopefully the story will soon give up and have a happy ending. Xaxa
Oh, I had an acquaintance with such a problem, but he was also a policeman on top of everything. get rid of it but don't ask about the next one. and the next ... just no stopping he was finally fired by the police but doesn't stop the same scenarios makes kids find a new and divorce again and so on
Another psychopath who drinks someone else's nerves while having fun. Yes, yes - he's having fun, for him it's an interesting movie in which he kills all the complexes. There have been similar topics already here and I wrote that I participated in a similar film, so I do not write details of my story again. Don't sleep at all! You file a harassment complaint to get a restraining order and that's it! He will never commit suicide, but never! I've never heard of a suicide bomber warning for a long time that he would. What is the purpose of telling you that he will reach out? "Well, feel sorry for him and stop him." This is called extortion, and believe me, no one who has made such threats has ever done so. At most to prick his finger and tell you that he tried to cut his veins, but failed. This is very low, disgusting behavior for a man (and not just a man, de), presses you to be with him by instilling some possible guilt in you - it's pure violence, you know? I know you're worried after all, he's probably a good actor, you're afraid of that guilt, but that's exactly what he aims for and achieves. I'm still angry at every minute I lost worrying that my jerk would commit suicide. You are not responsible for his life at all, his problem is whether he lives. Moreover, he himself has hurt many people with his base lies - both you and his family, and instead of seeking forgiveness, he threatens that his children will be left without a father. The sooner you stop caring about him, the better for everyone, incl. and for himself! that you are worried after all, he must be a good actor, you are afraid of this guilt, but that is exactly what he aims and achieves. I'm still angry at every minute I lost worrying that my jerk would commit suicide. You are not responsible for his life at all, his problem is whether he lives. Moreover, he himself has hurt many people with his base lies - both you and his family, and instead of seeking forgiveness, he threatens that his children will be left without a father. The sooner you stop caring about him, the better for everyone, incl. and for himself! that you're worried after all, he must be a good actor, you're afraid of that guilt, but that's exactly what he aims for and achieves. I'm still angry at every minute I lost worrying that my jerk would commit suicide. You are not responsible for his life at all, his problem is whether he lives. Moreover, he himself has hurt many people with his base lies - both you and his family, and instead of seeking forgiveness, he threatens that his children will be left without a father. The sooner you stop caring about him, the better for everyone, incl. and for himself! that he himself has hurt many people with his base lies - both you and his family, and instead of seeking forgiveness, he threatens that his children will be left without a father. The sooner you stop caring about him, the better for everyone, incl. and for himself! that he himself has hurt many people with his base lies - and you and his family, and instead of seeking forgiveness, he threatens that his children will be left without a father. The sooner you stop caring about him, the better for everyone, incl. and for himself!
Comment number 1 АХАХАХАХАХАХ !!! That broke me !!! I will add only one thing -> either call the woman to take him home, or the police. :)