We are 20 and a few years old, 3 - year cohabitation. 6 months it 'ends' in me / I apologize for saying so / - do you remember why to get pregnant. It was his initial wish, and I agreed, as we both know that I will have difficulties / not only personally, but also a doctor's opinion, but I do not want to go into details / ... A common phenomenon. I've tried to talk to him because he's not talkative - what he thinks about marriage, generally speaking. He says it's 'for' marriage. I don't argue with him about that, but if he wants a child, then he has to think. In fact, I would be ashamed to get pregnant without at least an offer. He is annoyed by such topics of conversation - there was time. He is able to tell me that he wants to, but to do nothing - kind of, to 'calm me down', and I don't know. I do not want you to explain to me how it is better to give birth at the age of 40 and to have a career, my own home, etc., because nowadays not everyone could provide this. My head is on my shoulders, I am working on my professional development at the moment. In general, we have good conditions, but I will say again - I do not want to go into details. I am writing to you, to share, thanks to your previous experience and understandings - what could be the reason for these, his / her actions? And if you can - your gender, years, and maybe something else. He wants to be with me, he makes plans with me for the future, and so do I. These days, however, I told him that without an offer I don't want to be 'tried' in me anymore. After these words of mine, we did it twice, and both times it emptied into me. In front of his friends, he joked about how he was going to push a stroller, even though we don't share these things. I'm not in a hurry for anything, but his desire is wonderful / not that it's not mine, but he has a stronger desire /. I told him everything I think and want. If the option with the engagement happens - I want it to happen in a modest way, we may not even share it with anyone, but relatives and acquaintances can find out for themselves on the ring finger. If it comes to marriage - again, in a modest way, with very few close people. The most important thing is the feeling of the real, deep reason. And it's not a fixed idea .. But if he wants a baby .. I want it to be his turn. in a modest way, with very few close people. The most important thing is the feeling of the real, deep reason. And it's not a fixed idea .. But if he wants a baby .. I want it to be his turn. in a modest way, with very few close people. The most important thing is the feeling of the real, deep reason. And it's not a fixed idea .. But if he wants a baby .. I want it to be his turn.
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You will not get pregnant if you set limits and even shame!
It's a pity, I'm sorry, but I think you're both immature for children.
It is more important that he does not abandon you after you give birth. Whether you are engaged, married or single - the separation happens anyway. I have observations of married with a wedding "as it should be" and finally happily divorced. What do you prefer: a proposal, an engagement, a wedding, a church wedding ... and finally a divorce. Or nothing ... and finally still together.
Well, look - marriage in general is a social evil. Tomorrow you're going to split up, and you're going to be able to take half of it for him, because ... you're kind of skinny. That's what it's for.
3, and can not proposal, engagement, wedding, church wedding ... and finally still together?
He may not be sure or waiting for you to get pregnant first, I also wanted to get married first, we got married. And the baby after that.
I don't have really personal experience, I'm not engaged and I don't try for children. However, these topics have been invading me and friends lately. I am a woman of 22 years, my circle of friends is built in the range of 18-28 years. I have been living with my boyfriend for 2 years and a few months, we have been discussing the future because we have been in a relationship for a long time, but we both want to finish our education at least first, we do not feel mature. I say this because you want it as information, and also to know that I will speak from observations and heard reflections. It turns out that many young people consider marriage unnecessary. I have heard many reasons, the main one being that most of this opinion have seen divorces, infidelities or family scandals. I personally take marriage as a huge step, I take it as a responsibility and an oath for life, which for some reason scares me a little and makes me want to wait. I believe that these are the main reasons why a person does not want marriage - he is disgusted with the parodies of marriage or is afraid to take such a step. Not that anything, but I wouldn't trust a man who tries to fertilize me without my desire, at least I would insist on condoms, and at the first tailored number, I would switch to birth control pills, even though I've heard of bad side effects from taking such. One cannot marry by force, but neither can a woman give birth without desire and with a lot of doubts. My advice is to discuss these two topics seriously, without shouting and arguing, but with understanding and a normal tone of conversation. These are serious topics in a relationship, you have no right to make decisions lightly, these elections come back like a boomerang and sometimes not only the couple suffers,
Up to 4 - I don't think they are "dirty" laws. So, a woman can bear two children, look after these children for the first two years, then go to the hospital with every illness, run a household and finally have no right to anything acquired ???? That is why the law says CONTRIBUTION, and giving birth and raising children is a contribution, because if a woman is not a mother she will look after her career and accumulate fame and money that most men make. And please don't go out with the emancipation of the Bulgarian woman, because it is a complete lie.
I'll tell you one thing. I held on and waved for my husband to offer me. Eee do it. But under my pressure and this is not cool at all. If only I was then I wouldn't be shaking. on the contrary. Maybe first child after marriage. What so ... Relax. Don't let it be a fixed idea. Then you will regret it. There's no point. He wants you. You are still a family. When he becomes a child, I'm sure he will offer it to you. There may be some limitations now, such as that it doesn't work ... Relax and don't strain it. Don't go for less that your full potential. Trust me. I understand more than wonderful ... But the wedding is a party. That doesn't make you closer to him ... Because you're close enough. The important thing is how they perceive. Good luck getting pregnant soon
I think you need to answer the question "Why are you so obsessed?". Do you think this is security or are you afraid of what it would look like in the eyes of others, or ...? Why else is he going for a baby right now? How do you imagine life with him in the long run? Does he already take you for granted and with a baby will he be even calmer that he doesn't move? How much does it help you at home? My husband does all the housework on an equal footing with mei without inviting him and we have been together for 6 years, we got married without rings, vanity and circuses because of the tax relief for having a child in the country where we live. If we had stayed in Bulgaria there was no need to sign, we would never have done it. I don't know if you are currently working, but I would advise you not to let yourself become a mother without having your own income, this is independence and freedom! F-32g.
Darling, if you haven't noticed, over 60% of children born in recent years are born to unmarried parents. In addition, the Family Code has changed so that if your friend recognizes the child, and he certainly will, your child will have exactly the same rights as any child born to parents who are married. So I don't know what all this trouble is about? To see yourself in a white dress? If it's because of the child, you have absolutely no reason to worry. I have a lot of friends with children, most of them are not married at all, but they live together, look after their children and everything is as it should be. A signature does not guarantee that someone will be a better parent! Once the child is wanted, both of you will be loved and raised without a signature. Marriage was once obligatory in order to protect the woman, because we didn't have the right to work and get a lot of education, and you remember a woman without a husband or a father is doomed to misery. However, now that you have the right to development, property, etc., marriage is increasingly becoming just a nice, but quite expensive, obsolete. Well, if you really want to spend thousands on a party and a dress and then ruin your nerves while walking around the administrations to change your documents (do you remember that if you take his last name you will change everything from ID card and driver's license to credit and debit cards) and finally find that nothing in your relationship, but nothing has changed ... go! However, as a divorced person, I tell you, it is stupid and I will never make such a mistake again. The signature changes absolutely nothing! Only if at some point things go wrong,
There are no guarantees, ever. If he asks for enough, he will offer you and have an engagement. Personally, if someone tries to "make" me do it, it won't happen. I'll just run away or I won't get engaged and stay with her if I have a child, for example. I personally have, I have not proposed marriage, I do not want to get married yet, we have been with my wife for over 12 years. Honestly, I don't care at all if he wants it and how much he wants it, I don't want it 100% and I won't do it. Congratulations to the child. It is very difficult, I will warn you, and alive and well, once you have it, at least 2 years you will not want to get married, just you will not be pleasant enough: D I am personally 29, my wife is 33. Honestly I said she didn't raise the subject of marriage for me, and let it stay that way! :) I wish you success, and if you have a child, to watch it with pleasure and to understand each other. And whether you will get married or not, time will tell.
Number 2 is right, reading you is too early for a child. You can't seem to sit down and have a conversation, what child ...? !!
Well, purely and simply, maybe he just doesn't want marriage. No matter what he tells you, he obviously doesn't want to be direct, knowing your position and counting on the baby to get up, and he signed to prolong it as long as he could. However, this has nothing to do with the desire for a child. So many people live together and have children without a signature, which makes them no less families than the rejected. However, it seems to me that you are staring too much at this topic, as if it is life and death, and they will almost point the finger at you if you get pregnant now. That is, your very desire for a baby somehow stays in the background, which is not good. Focus on baby-making, the moments of being close to your partner, and waiting to see if it has happened. I wish it to you and I guarantee that these will be some of the best moments in your life. And you know, maybe your friend is waiting for just that, to offer you. Don't bother him, because surely, if he gathers courage, with his eternal insinuation on the subject, you will only withdraw him.
Marriage is unnecessary if you love each other. Most men and women think that once they get married, they will be with the other person for life.
I can't understand you, maybe you will still agree to clarify some things. Why are you ashamed to get pregnant without a proposal? What shame do you find? Why then do you agree to have a baby before an engagement or marriage? Why do you want to raise a whole person with a father with whom you can't discuss this? You may not realize it, but your child connects you for the next twenty years and you will have to talk about his upbringing and education, about his education, about his health. In my opinion, in a relationship, both of them have to jump a little at certain moments in order for things to go well. I mean, he may not be talkative, but you obviously need to discuss things a lot. So just sit down and tell him that you are ashamed, that you want the baby to be married and so on. If you do not agree on this, do you need to have a child together then? I don't think it's better to give birth at 40, I gave birth at 35 myself and I don't have as much strength as when I was young. But I don't think you have to give birth to anyone, just to have a child. If you do not understand each other in the future, how will he give you consent to take the child out of the country (on an elementary trip), for example?
You told him you didn't want to try for a child without marriage and he kept cumming in you? What ... He wants to have a child with you, and that's it. There's never a guarantee that you'll stay together forever, but I support your marriage. Give him a deadline to decide whether to offer you, during this time be sure to use a condom or refuse him sex. If he does not propose marriage to you during this period, tell him that you want to separate. Don't threaten him, just tell him how important it is for you to have a marriage before the child. Be firm, pregnancy is a great emotional and physical ordeal for a woman (I say it from experience), you should feel good, not feel ashamed.
Why would a man in his twenties push so hard for a child? They are usually afraid of children, like the devil of holy water. Have you ever thought, author, that he can cum inside you, simply because he is cooler than outside or with a condom, for example? Otherwise, from a legal point of view, it does not matter whether the child was born after marriage, if recognized by the father in due course. More important in this case is that this is very important for YOU. And it's up to him through that job. Think carefully about whether you want children and a serious relationship with a person who obviously does not sleep very much about your desires and worries.
In my opinion, a person who wants someone also wants a marriage with him. If you think about it, something is not certain. I don't see why a man should be afraid of him, marriage for women is a more difficult sense of work at home, children ... Besides, it's good to have a family with one family.
It ended up in you for 6 months and you didn't get pregnant. You have a problem. Either with your husband or with you. I'm not scaring you, but start looking for good in vitro clinics. It would happen to young and healthy people at once.
Marriage no longer brings people together, but divides them because someone has it as a fixed idea. If marriages were banned, life would be much better. And something else. My parents got married when my mother was pregnant because my grandmother made them, but they divorced 2 years later. And my mother's lawyer got a lot of money out of her. So only lawyers in case of divorce win from the wedding. And write on the Internet How many divorces are there in Bulgaria. It turned out to me that half of marriages end in divorce. If I had 5 children, I wouldn't marry anyone. And it's even dumber not to want a child just because you're not married. Well, there is no greater selfishness than that. Just watch if you get pregnant not to have an abortion because of it, because it will be the biggest mistake of your life and even then you may not be able to have children. So think 2 things.
5, why don't you add 1 million euros to everything? One can invent all sorts of ideals. However, there are priorities, and in this case it is more important not to have a separation than to have a marriage before she becomes pregnant. For an engagement, it is a complete mess - they will get engaged, they will wait 8-9 months, then a preparation for a wedding will start, an overdoing. Then the wedding passes, they wait with the children to "live". And at some point, at the age of 30, they found out that getting pregnant doesn't seem to be as easy as they think. And one begins to wonder why so many years have been wasted in search of perfection, and in the end there is no time. It is also desirable for a prince, and for the woman to be at least second to Miss World - so ordinary.
GET MARRIED !!! Once you want a wedding and then a child, stand up for yourself - the child is for life and whatever happens will always be first the mother, then the father. In my opinion, the "friend" in question is purely selfish and emotionally unprepared for this step. Choose a man with a car, a home and a stable income. A man who will take care of you and the child. Run away from moldy people who are in a hurry for a family only to hang it on you later !!! F-23g.
It is not serious without marriage - I will fill your oven and your child will bear my surname, and you are different as if you are not part of the family. How does it end up in you when you tell him you don't want to? Why do you allow this? Don't be an incubator. In a relationship, the wishes of both partners must be respected. I would pull one for him and leave.
Number 3, getting married shows how serious you are. No one is insured against divorce. So, as it turned out, it is better not to get married so that you are happily separated instead of happily divorced. To the author - why do you let it end in you after you said that you do not want without marriage? Respect his desire to have a child and disrespect yours for being married? I don't understand people who don't want marriage. For me, they are not sure about their relationship, they do not believe that it will be forever and they want to easily get away with things going wrong. The truth is that the same people make children with people they are not sure about. Marriage shows respect, faith and a desire to declare someone your official partner, who is much more than anyone before him. There are many boyfriends, but the wife is one - with her marriage you show that you want to be with her. People change, sometimes they fall madly in love with someone else and the marriage breaks down as if it never happened, but the children remain. You don't want to promise someone that you will be together forever, but you are really committed to children. Whether or not you have a relationship with your mother, you will need to see her. And for women who speak out against marriage - most of those I know are with mother's sons who are married to a mother and they don't need another woman. Even if they want to, they will not propose marriage. Therefore, it is better to be angry and deny it than to admit that no one wants them seriously. who I know are with mom's sons who are married to mom and they don't need another woman. Even if they want to, they will not propose marriage. Therefore, it is better to be angry and deny it than to admit that no one wants them seriously. who I know are with mom's sons who are married to mom and they don't need another woman. Even if they want to, they will not propose marriage. Therefore, it is better to be angry and deny it than to admit that no one wants them seriously.
Another ready-made girl who wants something so big (a child) that completely changes a woman's life, and is not ready to offer even a ring. I can't justify such men with their previous bitter experience. Apparently he's afraid of getting something of his own with the marriage, or he just doesn't like the word "married."
You can compromise with a child and your friend with a wedding. And just for information, making a child is the easiest, and then the mother has to look after him and spend sleepless nights, and the father has to work and bring money. The idea of a wedding after the child quickly evaporates from the head of a couple, because you collect money for various things for the baby and a celebration is an unnecessary expense. In addition to taking care of the child, the woman takes care of the man and the home, abandons her career for 1-2 years and arrives baby number 2 and ends with discos, cafes. The intrigues with the mother-in-law and the mother-in-law and the idea of a new home begin. I do not want to scare you at all, this is the most pleasant moment for a woman and a young family. Caring is nothing when it comes to your own child. It is important that you and your friend understand and love each other and be happy together. Only then think of a baby. You are right about the sequence of the proposal and the marriage. It's not just paperwork. Still, take birth control pills if you don't want a baby. You have to solve it together with your partner, otherwise it is sweet that he wants a baby, I hope he will pamper you and be a good father and I hope he will have this attitude.
He probably wants to make sure before the wedding that there will be heirs once you have reproductive problems. Nothing bad. Don't press him, don't comment on the topic at all, if he wanted marriage first, then children, you would already be married. The question is what do you want and do you both want the same thing from life in the future?
The author. 1, whether I get pregnant or not is not up to you. 2, I do not deny it. But how many supposedly mature couples have children? .. Many of the young children are still with diapers and a tablet in hand ... 3, proposal, engagement, wedding, church wedding, baby and together - that's how I prefer things :), as number 5 mentioned to you. No, no he would dump me - he wants it. 4, you don't understand these things obviously 5, yes .. hopefully without 'still' 6, in principle he is almost not sure about anything. I stopped the so-called baby making. I hope one day it will work out for me, as it did for you. 7, if it was up to me, I would have normal conversations, but no matter how hard I tried to talk - alas. For many years I took drugs, including contraceptives, so for me it is contraindicated, ie I drank them so that one day I could get pregnant, but if you overdo it - the effect is reversed / according to a doctor's schedule, I have polycystosis. And we don't like condoms, so it just doesn't end in me. 8, that's right! 9, is not my fictitious idea, as I shared. Just if you have a child, it's okay. And the wedding is not just a party for me, I would not even want a party for mine. 10, last year I am a student - I hope to find a permanent job very soon. Otherwise, we have the opportunity in general. For housework - with various trifles only helps me. If I was bothered there, I wouldn't approve. :) Why does he want a baby ... probably to 'secure' himself with me. I'm not sure why exactly. As for marriage, I don't think anyone's attitude will change; I don't do it out of fear, for show or security, or for the 'party' - I don't even want one, nor do I imitate 'like everyone else'; and it's not out of vanity, not even because of the thrill. And it's not a fixed idea, because I don't want it at all costs. I want to, because this is my inner desire, this is my understanding - I think this is the right thing to do. 11, if you read what I answered number 10, you will understand why. It's not enough for me to see myself in a white wedding dress. In fact, I would like it to be white because I love this color - but quite plain, comfortable and clean, because white is an important symbol. What thousands for a party? - rather no coupon and very small amounts;). Yes, I have noticed that 60% of children are not born married. Well, and ... 12, why don't you want marriage, what worries you? Do you think that you can find another one in time? ;) I ask you because an acquaintance of mine for this reason did not want marriage. 13, this is a dilemma ... I have no problem with the conversations, it is specifically for that. How do I get him to talk, I don't know? ... 14, those, who live together without marriage are not a family and cannot be called spouses, but ... 'friends' !? Otherwise, I will try to stop hinting at him and say - all his relatives do it anyway. 15, why - I have already answered the same to numbers 10 and 11. 16, I think I am worthy and I deserve it - at least to have an engagement before the baby. Why should I be ashamed - because that's how I feel. And if that's how I feel, then that's right. There is no more so-called baby-making - I stopped it. The problem with the conversations is the dilemma ... He knows what I want, he tells me 'everything in time'. I don't know if it just calms me down or really thinks so. 17, thank you for this comment. As far as I know, a possible deadline will only make him nervous and nothing will happen. It's just that if he doesn't do something, he won't have a child. 18, thank you .. He wants it maybe because he thinks that I will be sure of him. And at the same time, he really doesn't care to some extent about my worries and desires ... 19, he's not sure. I don't know if he's sure about anything at all. 20, well, I have yes - I have already written it in the topic and I have a doctor. 21, and since half the marriages end in divorce, should I give up? It's not the marriage that's the problem, it's the people. I am not selfish because marriage is not for the selfish. It is the egoists who run away. 22, what millions, what perfection, what princes and bowls? You describe some unrelated fiction that has nothing to do with me, with my situations and understandings. I prefer far simpler things, and if there is a wedding - it should be quite simple. 23, thank you, I completely agree that it should be so. There is a car, a house and income, but everything is so relative ... 24, you are absolutely right ... it doesn't end in me anymore. 25, that's right ... No more attempts. 26, yes, it is obvious so. 27, I have thought about the things he described and I know it would be so. We have a few discrepancies in sex, by the way, he is passive, boring and selfish - hence selfishness bothers me. But he was looking for women on the net, given that he must be refusing me sex every second time. And I have been taking contraceptives for a long time because I have polycystic ovaries - they caused my period and 'moved' me so that one day I could get pregnant, but it is now contraindicated and the doctors told me to stop them because the effect will be the opposite. 28, if he was direct and constant in his actions like me - I would know. In this case, time will tell. provided that every second time he must refuse me sex. And I have been taking contraceptives for a long time because I have polycystosis - they caused my menstruation and 'moved' me so that one day I could get pregnant, but it is now contraindicated and the doctors told me to stop them because the effect will be the opposite. 28, if he was direct and constant in his actions like me - I would know. In this case, time will tell. provided that every second time he must refuse me sex. And I have been taking contraceptives for a long time because I have polycystosis - they caused my menstruation and 'moved' me so that one day I could get pregnant, but it is now contraindicated and the doctors told me to stop them because the effect will be the opposite. 28, if he was direct and constant in his actions like me - I would know. In this case, time will tell.
The question here is whether you want a child, because you will be the one who will look after him constantly. And he will be at work. So people have to think very well before they decide to have children.
20, of course it does not depend on me, but on you and your mental attitude! I just wrote it, learn to read! Number 1
I am the author. I decided to write to you again, half a year later. :) After I wrote to you I stopped thinking about these issues. We just discussed with him to continue with baby making. I haven't lived. Shortly after I wrote to you, I got pregnant, but I didn't find out until Christmas, that is, in the third month. At the same time, without the slightest expectation, he proposed to me with a ring. I arrived. I later asked him internally if he really felt it, he said yes. Shortly afterwards on 4D examinations it was found out that the fetus had more than 1 severe lesions, they were seen these lesions on the ultrasound. I had an abortion in the fourth month because they said it was possible to die in the fifth month due to severe injuries and a broken heartbeat. These things didn't traumatize me at all, I don't even remember, but it was 2 months ago. To this day, we drive her older.
Author, I wish you good luck, everything will be fine
You let him 'cum' in you ... Then you grumble ... To me this is a clash of characters and obviously he is the stronger .... If you want marriage for 6 months first, why do you allow him such behavior ... or you don't know what you want ... I'm waiting for someone else to tell you ... Well, congratulations, this one is taking advantage.